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Threads that flew in your face

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emkana · 09/08/2005 09:10

Yesterday I started a thread where I was sort of expecting reassurance and commiseration, but ended up feeling terrible about my own wrongdoings, and upset at not having had the response I had been hoping to get - admittedly with hindsight I didn't fully deserve much sympathy, but still it came as a bit of a shock.
The thread was called "Shocked and upset by this..." and is still in active conversations.
I've started a few threads like this before, where I was expecting a certain reaction and then it totally went the other way. One was about my dd walking on a garden wall and the woman living there having a go at me... I thought everybody would say she was a miserable cow, but I had underestimated the British esteem for personal property . The other one I can think of was when I had a row with my dh whether he should or shouldn't make an effort to eat his dinner after I made the effort to cook it.
I'm sure there have been others, but those stuck in my mind.

Anybody else had threads like this?

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colditz · 09/08/2005 09:12

I once started a genuine thread asking what a chav was. I wasn't trolling, I had just never heard the word, but it went nuts!

Twiglett · 09/08/2005 09:12

I think its what makes mumsnet fabulous

because if you want to post so that people agree with you there's plenty of sanitised sites and forums around

I use mumsnet because people are invariably honest and you get to know what they really think / feel .

by knowing what others really think you can adjust your own attitude and learn things

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emkana · 09/08/2005 09:15

Absolutely, twiglett, I've certainly learnt things about myself, re-evaluated some of my opinions and beliefs, and give my dh some more slack as he's not as bad as I sometimes like to believe he is.

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acnebride · 09/08/2005 09:16

I've posted in anger a couple of times and have never dared go back to the threads to see what happened! There was also one thread I started that had a very mixed response, some agreed with me but at few were pretty clear that I needed to get a life. I'm glad it wasn't an unmixed response. It can be tough, it's like getting a load of unexpectedly awful mail.

Tommy · 09/08/2005 09:17

Good point emkana - sometimes when i read about people's DHs going out all the time , not coming home at night and generally being complete arses, I know I should appreciate mine more

Twiglett · 09/08/2005 09:19

have you really posted and not gone back acnebride .. you haven't even looked?? .. that astounds me TBH

ssd · 09/08/2005 09:26

I posted once about visiting London with ds's (and dh )and taking them to a museum. What I was asking was peoples opinion on whether I should sneak a couple of hours to myself to visit the shops. I'm a childminder and a SAHM and never ever have a couple of hours in the shops to myself, esp. in London and without the kids in tow. I thought someone would say have some me time in the shops then, but instead most people were disgusted I didn't want to trudge through the museum with kids in tow again and were surprised I wanted to see the London shops by myself!! This amazed me. In the end we all went to the museum and had a fab day, I didn't have the time or energy to go shopping.

CountessDracula · 09/08/2005 09:35

oh yes defo - look at my thread on should I go 100yds down the road to a beach bar with my baby listener while on holiday!

MaloryTowers · 09/08/2005 09:37

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handlemecarefully · 09/08/2005 09:42

I still haven't forgotten my thread, where I wanted a genuine discussion about why Britain remains in the EC given the rebate stand off with the french etc. I referred to 'bloody french' which was a short hand and lazy way of signifying my disdain for Chirac on the issue, and was then villified in an impassioned way about being a rascist!

I didn't loose any sleep over it or get upset (I'm a tough old boot), but I was rather cross and indignant for a while.

With hindsight 'bloody french' was a silly thing to write, but I think people should be more clued up to read between the lines and not be so literal in the way that they read things.

handlemecarefully · 09/08/2005 09:44

OOOh i remember some of these threads well...

handlemecarefully · 09/08/2005 09:45

Acnebride - tell us the thread titles and we will look for you

handlemecarefully · 09/08/2005 09:47

How mortifying - 4 posts consecutively, but I just have to correct earlier typo, I can't let it go:

racist

gingerbear · 09/08/2005 09:58

There was one about someone leaving her DD (or DS??) at home asleep whilst taking her DS to primary school next door.

Mine has to be asking advice on how to clean DD's patent leather shoes (DD has peed in her Patent Leather Kickers). Got a couple of suggestions as to how to clean them up, but was accused of being a perve making DD wear patent leather knickers

hunkermunker · 09/08/2005 09:58

Weaning spoons...

FairyMum · 09/08/2005 10:07

I rememember your thread about walking on walls and I have to say it was of the funniest moments on MN. I always think of it when my children walk on other peoples walls and it made me encourage wall-walking even more

MarsLady · 09/08/2005 10:13

I clearly didn't post on your thread ssd cos I'd've sent you to the shops. Might even have joined you lol

Blu · 09/08/2005 10:21

I'd have sent you to the shops, too ssd, and had sympathy for walking on walls! (but a bit of seeing it from wall-owners pov, too)!

oops · 09/08/2005 10:23

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bobbybob · 09/08/2005 10:25

I did one about tshirts that say "little monster" on them - never again.

handlemecarefully · 09/08/2005 10:42

I contributed to that one bobbybob and disagreed with you, but I think I did it nicely and politely

bobbybob · 09/08/2005 10:45

Oh it was all very polite, but like emkana says, sometimes you get taken by surprise that the whole world doesn't agree with you.

I have a thread at the moment about my ds's pre school serving peanut protein with the lunches and was amazed when everyone did agree with me, whereas in RL a couple of people have been quite in my face about disagreeing - apart from the pre school who obviously don't agree.

Marina · 09/08/2005 11:23

I agreed with you on that bobbybob but we were very much in the minority IIRC
I also agreed with CD on the infamous "parent gets life on holiday" shocker but cannot remember if I even dared post to say so (was not around when debate was at its fiercest). I wonder what some of your critics have made of that woman running off with a DJ and abandoning her 15 year old child then CD...
AND I agreed with QoQ on the school next door/baby in cot conundrum but know I was too chicken to post at the time
Must go and find your thread Emkana.
I agree with everyone on here that the honesty of the postings on here makes it such a good sounding board.
I do find the terms in which some disagreements are expressed a bit upsetting sometimes though tbh

handlemecarefully · 09/08/2005 11:29

Yes I agree with that - I like to see healthy discussion and different point of views, but want to bang heads together when I see a pov but across sarcastically in a way that belittles the pov of other posters.

Tinker · 09/08/2005 11:31

I agreed with you emkana when you complained about your husband being a "fussy eater" - I remember that one. Phew!

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