Threads that flew in your face

[emkana]

Yesterday I started a thread where I was sort of expecting reassurance and commiseration, but ended up feeling terrible about my own wrongdoings, and upset at not having had the response I had been hoping to get - admittedly with hindsight I didn't fully deserve much sympathy, but still it came as a bit of a shock.
The thread was called "Shocked and upset by this..." and is still in active conversations.
I've started a few threads like this before, where I was expecting a certain reaction and then it totally went the other way. One was about my dd walking on a garden wall and the woman living there having a go at me... I thought everybody would say she was a miserable cow, but I had underestimated the British esteem for personal property . The other one I can think of was when I had a row with my dh whether he should or shouldn't make an effort to eat his dinner after I made the effort to cook it.
I'm sure there have been others, but those stuck in my mind.

Anybody else had threads like this?

[Jimjams]

fio it was on that friendly autism (ha ha) list or whatever it was called, not here. It was something like "well the person who started the thread was alright- I could see what she meant- but there were a right couple of btches who said xyz" and the xyz was what someone had said we had said, but hadn't. Anyway it's why I'm careful now to try and think how things may be interpreted- you can probably think of a thread I was careful on recently ...

[mumtosomeone]

glad we all get it..I thought I was the one with the alternative view!!!!!

[Fio2]

who called me a bitch jimjams i was completely oblivious to that!

[Jimjams]

Ahh Feffi thought the same as me (about concept of gender).

[Jimjams]

I love the way spidermama keeps saying "but we live in Brighton" ROFL. OOh how did I miss this.

I'm not sure ds2 (age 3) is really even clear on who are boys and who are girls- he sometimes still gets it wrong. (and his his and hers are terrible). What age do boys realise they grow up to be men not women.

[Jimjams]

PMSL - thanks WWW- I am roaring with laughter. My friend's ds loves wearing dresses and girly shoes (hils older sister) and my cousin's son used to wear dresses. I was always under the impression it was very common in 3 year olds. I wonder if the people who were horrified were parents of girls?

[WideWebWitch]

for you Jimjams, boys in dresses, yes or no, 558 posts!

[SleepyJess]

I have a photo of my DS, age 3, wearing a pink velour dress and pink jelly sandals which belonged to my friend's little girl of the same age. We dressed him in them in order to wind him up when was older! He is now 13.. and the owner of the dress is now his girlfriend. He is very good natured about the dress photo thing.. and the fact that he put it on quite willingly at the time! It was only a joke.. we weren't psychologically abusing him.

Spidermama, does your little boy want to wear dresses outside the house?

[Jimjams]

davros the people on the other site called me a bitch for the velcro cow thread. I think one poster said you seemed nice but I was a bitch (fio too!) I flounced for a while after that. he came back on here and posted under a different name for a while as I didn't want to be accused of posting helpful stuff (links etc) to make myself look good.

missed lots of the others under discussion- I can't believe anyone would have a problem with a 3 year old wearing a dress! link please!

[Blackduck]

What got me with the CD one was that it was still going on after she'd gone .....can't remember if it was still a hot topic when she got back..

[Prufrock]

I agreed with CD and QoQ as well, and though I missed your thread sm I don't think there's anything wrong with a 3 year old cross dresser.

I did once reply Yes to a www "am I being unreasonable" thread. I think it is easier to be brutally honest on Mumsnet than in RL - I could post my response and then run away from the PC so I didn't have to see if she was shouting at me in RL I might have been more frightened of a friends reaction to my disagreement

[edam]

I was shocked at the reaction to your dressing thread too, Spidermama. Sometimes you just have to stop yourself posting 'oh, get a life' to someone who is making a ridiculous fuss about nothing...

PS am still cross with woman who knocked glasses off, she was acting like a bully and had the cheek to expect sympathy.

[WideWebWitch]

I remember spidermama! Blimey, that was your first post? Gosh! I agreed that it was no big deal I think.

[spidermama]

My first post was about the fact my ds3 (who's 3.5) loves to wear dresses. I was expecting reassurance and for people to say, 'Oh yes, they all do at this age'. Instead though I found my entire approach to motherhood being hauled over the coals and several people implied I was damaging my son for life by allowing this.

It was a little shocking and hurtful, but I'm glad of it because it certainly made me think and no doubt others too.

[WideWebWitch]

I agreed that CD should go for a drink
that QofQ should leave sleeping baby to walk 10yds or whatever ridiculously short distance it was to school
I don't think I thought ssd should go to the shops but only because her ds was looking forward to being with her in the museum - IIRC, could be wrong!
Don't remember wall walking, will go and look now!

[Davros]

Well, I was famous for the "Old Cow" thread in SN a while ago. Having stated that I KNEW I was being an old cow I didn't need to be told I was an old cow, even by people visiting from another site. It didn't bother me and I laughed at quite a lot of it tbh but I did freak out about the visitors from the other site and their discussion of our thread and me in particular. I also started the only other thread I can think of that kicked off in SN but I can't rememebr what it was now.

[Caligula]

That Cadbury world one was phenomenal!

[Caligula]

Are you referring to the Guardian Angel thread Littlestarweeper? That was a humdinger - but GA was so obviously a troll.

[marthamoo]

I missed the glasses throwing thread...wow.

[Littlestarsweeper]

Sorry, that last post was about lizita

[Littlestarsweeper]

I saw that one, i think it was taken a bit literally. Everyone has a preference and as posted I think somebody said they had slightly different approaches to the subject.

[Lizita]

One of my 1st threads was, very naively, "Does anyone else hate Gina Ford?" lol I learnt straight away not to be so strong on here (some people complained that i was attacking Gina Ford personally, and it was only her methods I didn't like), and I learnt a helluva lot about actually following Gina Ford too and how amazingly helpful she has been for a lot of people.
The reason I posted it was because I was getting frustrated that she (Gina Ford) seemed to be revered everywhere and I wanted to see if anyone else was in agreement with me, which they were, but lots weren't!

[Littlestarsweeper]

Sorry, i think she posted that she had been murdered by fellow Mnetters!

[Littlestarsweeper]

I always take a peek at the threads that cover x partners and children and second families and all that. Whoaaa, they get a bit heated, you know the spurned x's having a go at new wives syndrome and using kids as ammo. There was one where one Mnetter, killed herself as a result and hasnt been seen since! The remarks to her passing away as Mnetter were positively criminal.

[sunchowder]

I miss doormat....