Is is inappropriate to have thread titles talking about suicide?

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There have been a few over my time on MN, and whilst I understand these people are quite clearly in a desperate situation, I do not think they are appropriate.

Feeling low/depressed etc no problem but active talk of thinking of suicide IMO is wrong.

Am I a minority?

I know i could press the hide button, but those are the threads where other vulnerable people may get too involved.

I think the thread that this one's about was handled well, actually - every poster said said that the OP needed professional help, some suggested where to get it, and nobody on it suggested that mn alone could 'fix' the problem.

I don't see that copying and pasting advice from the top of the page helped or added anything of value to the original thread.

Well, sadly, the poster in question has posted at least one other thread exactly like that on Mumsnet before, not so long ago. And frequently refers to her problems in posts on threads started by other people. I can only hope she manages to turn a corner somehow.

not read whole thread just responding to op but i don't think it's inappropriate at all. "feeling low/depressed" threads, indeed most posts in mental health, rarely generate much response ime, unless op is a well known poster, as a) they're pretty common and b) understandably many people don't feel they can help.

to be able to flag up a critical post when somebody is desperate is very important, clearly stating their needs in the thread title is a way of doing this.

as for "vulnerable people" getting involved, that would likely be people who've been in similar situations themselves as i have. we are still grown adults you know, we don't need other people's grief policing for our benefit. i've received help online when i've been very low and recognise how valuable that can be alongside professional help, i feel deep compassion for anyone in that situation and i would see talking to someone in that situation a way of paying forward the help i'd been given in the past. my decision, not yours op.

It's not innapropriate to have thread titles talking about suicide.

They, thankfully seem rare.

It's not like we have a suicide cyber cafe on here.

This is life, good and bad. MN have a disclaimer, about it.

An Op who starts a thread is likely to cause different reactions across the board.

If you want to lend an ear then go ahead. It is a cry for help, I have been there. Sometimes you can't just get immediate professional help. Counselling can take months, an appt at the GP can take days.

I think its narrow minded to be offended at such a cry for help. It's not pleasant to see a thread title like it, of course not. I just know the relief it must give to someone to have at least an answer, when you have reached out.

I would interpret advice about seeking professional help meaning going to A & E, explaining the problem and asking to see the duty psychiatrist - so getting some sort of professional assessment of how ill the person is very quickly. Agree that actual therapies etc tend to have long waiting lists.

That sounds like an incredibly difficult and scary thing to do TotalChaos, even though I can see it would be a good thing. I can imagine if you had a real-life person who would make you do it it might be manageable, but if you were on your own it would be so hard.