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JustineMumsnet · 02/09/2009 12:54

Hello all,
So am back in Blighty and have caught up on everything posted and all the ongoing correspondence with the DM that's gone on while I've been away. (Sorry very poor communications on hols so haven't really been in the loop but Carrie and team have filled me in now.)
Thanks all for the input as ever.

There are a few things you've raised that we need to address and clarify. So, as ever, apologies in advance for the long post.

The first I think is MNHQ's attitude towards this column and why we didn't try and put a stop to it earlier, i.e. the moment we found out about it. (Recap for those who may have missed: we didn't know in advance that it was going to happen, the first we knew about it was when we saw the first column being discussed on MN and initially we didn't think we had any legal grounds to contest the DM's use of MN quotes. We subsequently established some time after column 2 that the DM is, in fact, most likely infringing MN copyright).

As I said early on, a weekly column in the DM is not something we'd have sought. We share many Mumsnetters' misgivings about the views and general tone of the paper - particularly it's attitudes towards working women, immigrants etc. And as I've also said we've as yet detected no noticeable increase in visitors on Thursdays when the column is published (or on any other days for that matter). Nor is it a column that fills us with pride because it adequately represents the joy and wonder that is Mumsnet. So why - as some have understandably wondered - are we not banging our fists about stopping the darned thing and have we not fired off a barrage of legal threats? Why instead do we at HQ seem a bit ambivalent about whether the column exists or not?

The main answer is this. Like it or not, the Daily Mail is a very influential beast, probably one of the most politically influential institutions in the UK. So, irrespective of the content of these columns, the very fact that the Daily Mail have decided that Mumsnet is prominent and interesting enough to base a weekly column around increases our clout. Clout when it comes to asking government ministers to consider things like our miscarriage campaign, clout when we try to persuade Gok Wan's PR that he ought to pay us a visit, or when the Tories are thinking about environment policy or what they're going to do to increase breastfeeding rates.

We also have a distinct reluctance to "go legal" with anyone after our experience of GF going legal with us - the legal system and lawyers (particularly opposing lawyers) have a way of eating up all your resources, not to mention your will to live. And call us lily-livered if you like, we'd rather not be at the top the DM's hit list if there's a way of avoiding it.

Plus, from the correspondence Carrie's had with the mail in the last couple of weeks, it's clear that they would are prepared to take steps to minimise the privacy risks.

That said, we accept many of the reservations argued well here and in previous threads about the imperfect nature of the association.

In short, those of you who've accused us of residing on the fence are probably right - we are a bit and tbh it's not very comfortable!
So where next?

We think perhaps it would be best both to help us get off the fence and, if it comes to it, to lay the column to rest, to put the matter to the vote. We recognise that it's not a perfect solution but there have been a number of objections raised about this and we'd like to see exactly what it is that folks are objecting to - MN in the Daily Mail per se. MN in the Daily Mail without MN control over content. MN in the Daily Mail in its current guise/format - for example would it be OK if it were it a funny weekly column written by someone like MorningPaper (they'd never have she's far too rude of course)? Or perhaps you don't object at all (and you have an aversion to posting on this thread ).

Hopefully they'll be a clear conclusion and we promise to abide by it and to do our darnedest to put it into action as quickly as possible.

We're sorry this has dragged on a bit - it is a bit tricky to conduct this type of negotiation in public, particularly when there's a whiff of the legals about - and as we all know (if we didn't already) MN is a very public board, open for all to see and easily searchable etc. At some points we do sometimes have to just hope that you trust that we are not the bad guys who are trying to manipulate, exploit and mislead you all for our own ends (many thanks to those who have said as much). If you think that we are then there's nowt much we can say I suspect to ever sway you otherwise - but you're welcome on MN all the same because it's not really about us, after all.

It also doesn't help that it all kicked off in holiday season which is how it always is (GF the same) - sod's law and all that. Anyway humble apologies for not being a bit more accessible/on the ball in the last few weeks. We are almost all back at full strength now and generally at your disposal .

So here's our very quick poll - please fill it in (just the once please). It won't gain you entry in any competitions to win a family holiday outside of school holidays but it will most certainly influence what we do next.

Many thanks.

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madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 13:53

Well, I know that some journalists think PR is just a load of crap, but it is a symbiotic relationship basically.

StripeySuit · 05/09/2009 13:56

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RustyBear · 05/09/2009 14:02

Those of you who would prefer an association with the Guardian night care to read this article and this thread to discover that it's not only the DM which might be guilty of misrepresenting MN...

Winehouse · 05/09/2009 14:16

Aitch, it is very pompous of you to suggest that people who have changed posting names are doing something 'mean and unbecoming'. If you are referring to the people who you called 'unutterable bitches' a while back maybe you could consider that some people just don't want to be recognised any more, especially by a site which has sold them to the Daily Mail.

I have a 7yr history with MN under another name and a 9m one with this name. I don't need to apologise to you for changing my name before saying that I think MNHQ have behaved very shabbily towards many of their members and have sold out. I did say that under my old name as well, in December.

policywonk · 05/09/2009 14:22

I think Aitch was absolutely bang on about how some posters have behaved towards MP and Justine.

giraffesCanDanceInTheSunshine · 05/09/2009 14:24

Done

Winehouse · 05/09/2009 14:30

I can't speak for anyone else, but I don't think I've said anything to or about MP. I have, however, taken issue with Justine quite openly and I am confident she can either handle it or ban me.

AitchwonderswhoFruitCrumbleis · 05/09/2009 14:32

winehouse,can you link to me saying that moldies are 'unutterable bitches'?

as you should know by now i have no bother at all with moldies as an entity. i suspect i was referring to the treatment of revjustabout some months back, where two of you were unutterable bitches to her. i wouldn't hasten to expand that description to all moldies.

and i utterly stand by what i said, if you're posting on here as an elder of the community, post (temporarily) under your old name. what's the problem with doing that?

AitchwonderswhoFruitCrumbleis · 05/09/2009 14:50

x-posted winehouse, tbh i didn't even know you were an oldie until now, i don't pay that much attention. but last night MP was taking a bit of a kicking from people who were drawing on a past association but not coming clean as to their identity and that is shitty imo.

although i stand by my belief that for the purposes of this issue alone, anyone quoting stuff from years back should use their most identifiable name. it wouldn't compromise your new identity in any way and would be a fairer way of dealing with the rest of the community.

madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 14:54

While the tone of the threads has sometimes got a bit heated, and maybe somethings have been said that have later been retracted, on the whole is has been very civilised.

Loyalty is very laudable, and I certainly honour posters for their loyalty, but it is perfectly ok to disagree with someones opinions or actions very strongly, as long as it isnot abusive.

I fail to see how direct personal attacks adds to the debate at all, and there has been very little of it. It would be nice to keep it that way.

policywonk · 05/09/2009 14:59

MD, there have been some posts - not many, probably fewer than 10 - that have been downright and deliberately bitchy about MP. There have also been some posts that have pretty much openly accused MNHQ of being manipulative liars.

I'm not at all bothered by heated disagreement - I do a nice line in it myself. But perpetuating a grudge (which is what's happening here) while using an assumed name is just fucking grim.

LilyBolero · 05/09/2009 15:03

Hmm, I've posted on here, under a new name, but referred to years of posting history - but this is my name now, has been for ages, I switched it for a reason and don't really want to link to my old user name.

But I haven't been mean to MP (or at least hope I haven't). I may have been mean to Justine though....unintentionally though.

madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 15:05

I agree PW. Its unpleasant and unnecessary. Bullying really.

I am really quite new here, so the old grudges rather go over my head, unless it is really blatant. But yeah, have the courage of your convictions otherwise its just like a mugging.

Prunerz · 05/09/2009 15:06

But we are ALL using assumed names!

And MNHQ could track the namechanges, if they chose. I don't think it matters a hoot who calls themselves what.

madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 15:12

Prunerz, I guess it depends on why the namechange. If you do it just to be nasty to someone else is not a fair engagement' then that is pretty nasty. But I guess its just a matter of conscience.

I have had a couple of those on this thread, people popping in for one post to be personally unpleasant to me, then disappearing. I thought it was pretty cowardly. Hence the mugging analogy. A biff over the metaphorical head then running for the hills!

But heigh ho, the perils of internet forums I suppose.

AitchwonderswhoFruitCrumbleis · 05/09/2009 15:13

pruni, you're not, vvv isn't. let's not muddy the waters overly with this, it's a side issue. i just think if you're drawing on years of association with a community there is some sense in using your most recognisable posting name. and it would prevent the snidey little comments from last night, or if not prevent, it would at least MP and the rest of us know who we're dealing with.

i'm coming to this thread late but last night, rightly or wrongly, reads like there was a discussion on Moldies that spilled out over here.

but as i say, a side issue. [pompous]

AitchwonderswhoFruitCrumbleis · 05/09/2009 15:16

oh, and it's needn't be a big deal anyway, just post in your old name on this thread and then disappear back into the ether. i'm not trying to unmask anyone.

Prunerz · 05/09/2009 15:17

No mmeDefarge, that is not nice
I thought you were a namechanger tbh

Pielight · 05/09/2009 15:18

My word, we could make any discussion become about moldies given half a chance on here.

Has all gone over my head though, I wasn't aware of new names on this thread coming along and bearing a grudge. I have a new name. I fancied one. I am not a moldie. Is there anything else I need to declare?

I thought everyone was expressing themselves quite openly and evenly. I do see the 'why MP to write it?' is hurtful to MP, but still don't think it was intended as an attack on her more on this as the compromise plan.

Still a v. interesting thread, and I do think MNHQ should make the decision on this.

madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 15:19

Noooooooo!

I did have another name for about two minutes when I first started here, but got bullied persuaded to change it to something more beefy.

AitchwonderswhoFruitCrumbleis · 05/09/2009 15:24

we wouldn't need to, pielight, if it weren't so apparent that they still feel an enormous sense of ownership over here and are making nippy comments under new names.
i have no problem whatsoever with moldies, in fact this whole issue has made it ever more attractive. i'd like to hear what the moldies have to say about it, in fact ('ner ner ner ner ner' maybe? ) but i'd prefer they did so as themselves, iykwim?

Prunerz · 05/09/2009 15:29

What is there to say about it that hasn't been said on this thread? (By non-moldies, may I add.)

madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 15:31

yup, we are kind of chasing our tails now! Actually, no I found last night really useful to crystalise my core objection to the column, and the reasons behind it.

madameDefarge · 05/09/2009 15:35

So with the moldies was it "we don't want to play with all of you lot anymore, because we liked it when it was just us, but we reserve the right to come back into the playground we decided wasn't for us, kick a bit of sand around and generally remind everyone who the big girls really are"

Which can be a bit galling.

Have I got that right?

I dunno.

WebDude · 05/09/2009 15:35

Stripey - regards "I only found out about MN last year and wish I'd known about it years ago. Why are we denying others that chance?"

Around 160 articles found mentioning Mumsnet so DM is hardly the only way one might learn of MN.

nappyaddict - re articles mentioning "school run fashions" in two papers, there are several dozen newspaper articles which include mentions of MN, see the link I put for Stripey.

The incidental copy of a couple of posts from a thread is 'fair use' under copyright, whereas copying large chunks / whole threads is a clear infringement, and what the "On Mumsnet this week" articles have been, and why there was criticism.

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