Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Site stuff

Join our Innovation Panel to try new features early and help make Mumsnet better.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

1001 replies

JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

OP posts:
madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 15:48

Daft, the paper is legally liable for all content it prints.

KingCanuteIAmAndTheDMCanFOff · 16/08/2009 15:49

No DP, they will say "yeah we printed it, so wot? Wotcha gonna do bout it then huh?"

And MN will say, "Well, nothing actually because, if the daily mail are standing by LH, we cannot afford to do anything - our only hope was that you would cut her loose"

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 15:50

I would imagine that the editor annoyed with the journo, but they messed up, in not checking in with MNHQ. So editor will be in trouble too. Not necessarily legal trouble, but just for creating a situation.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 15:51

lots of slapped wrists all round.

Jumente · 16/08/2009 15:51

No Fab she's hypothesisisisng. I went 'what!!' as well!

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 15:51

thanks MD..

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 15:52

King, its not a question of standing by LH, its a question of standing by what they have printed. But yeah, I should imagine she will not be little miss popular this week at the DM.

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 15:53

that's what i thought king, it was just something aitch said earlier, confused me.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 15:55

But really, at the end of the day (and all other associated cliches), its no biggie for the DM. Just an editorial idea that seemed to have legs, but probably isn't worth pursuing now.

I have an idea, what if every MNetter put a swear word in their nicknames? would they publish then?

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 15:59

lol MD...tell you what, you should have your restaurant as user name...£££££ of free advertising.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 15:59

What would be the point of LH coming on?Well it would be great to know her plans tbh.

If she says 'I am really offended that anyone would think i'dlift a topic from SN' I might well continue to post in there. I/m fairly sure I have helped in tehre over the years. If she said 'sorry, are you kidding, tjhis is my mortgage I'm earning' I'd carry on with my decision not to do so.

Other people may want something else of course, but for me that would have been enough- an outline of the plans, what rules she is plaving upon it etc. Would it stop someone else doing it? nah. Nonetheless, somehow it would be enough for me.

TheDailyMailHatesWomenAndLemon · 16/08/2009 16:00

That's the point of the all the unflattering Daily Mail-themed names, Madame.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 16:01

'It just all seems really lazy to me. At least all the "woe is me, I am very rich and still have school run" type columns involve thinking up the stuff. Picking a thread from MN and writing it up just sounds like homework you can't be arsed to do tbh. '

Flame exactly.

At Uni they wouold run our essays through a progam to check for anything on the web or previously submitted. More than a set% of essay found to be copied (even if quotes) and you'd be hauled up, potentially thrown out.

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 16:02

the DM does not hate women, the majority of it's readers are women.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 16:03

I had sort of guessed that! but was thinking something that would really churn those DM stomachs...

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 16:04

It loves a certain kind of woman, one who colludes with her own oppression...and hates other women

OneStroke · 16/08/2009 16:05

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 16:08

I imagine said hourno who copies would ahve enough left on her allocated timeshetet to remove a few swearwords in all honesty.

The DM seems to ahte women who do not fit a very small ideal, DP. Overweight, not stunning, WOHM, benefit claimant, non-white.......usually by implication rather than explicit yes, but still! Those Tess threads the other day for example- every time they big up a celeb for losing her weight in 12 hours or whatever they effectively dismiss those who don't manage it.

And the idea that women aren't mysogynistic is a bit idealistic too: some of the WOHM / SAHM threads over the years have shown that, often as not we're our own worst enemies

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 16:10

MD;

it's not big on career women freezing their eggs and then having a baby at 65....that's all.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 16:12

but if she took out the swear words, she might as well make up the nicknames.

TheDailyMailHatesWomenAndLemon · 16/08/2009 16:13

Paul Dacre probably doesn't actually eat babies, but I doubt any of georgimama's posts under that name will wind up in next week's column (if there is one).

I will cheerfully admit that the DM doesn't hate women. As long as you aren't a working mother who abandons your children to childcare, in receipt of any benefits or tax credits, earning more than your husband, overweight, underweight, suspiciously foreign, a mother of more than 3 children, childfree by choice, gay or promiscuous it likes you just fine. Provided you accept that your appearance is the single overriding most important factor about you, of course. And don't wear trousers.

Sadly there's a 30-character limit on usernames, so I've had to settle for "HatesWomen" as a handy abbreviation for all of that.

elvislives · 16/08/2009 16:14

People who are saying it doesn't matter because it's all in the public domain anyway are missing the point. I have a couple of personal issues ATM that I wanted to post but then this blew up.

My mum knows I MN but doesn't know my user name. If she came on here and looked through Active Convos or even tried a search, the likelihood of her coming across my posts is quite slim. If however she picks up the DM and reads a story about a situation she recognises, with my username, then pops over here and does a search, the fallout could be tremendous.

I do namechange quite frequently and I have taken most of the identifying details off my profile. I could just stick to boring threads about the weather and toys but I do use MN for situations I can't speak to people in RL about.

The scarey thing IMO is we don't know which thread is going to be the one picked. Plus it is more likely to be the one where your mother is driving you demented than which bike to buy for your 3 yo.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 16:16

Though obviously, freezing eggs and having children when one is as old age pensioner is about on a par with having children when you are very young. Or when you have a job. Or when you are not married. Or when you live on benefits.

DM Mantra - the only good single mother is a widow (preferably of a war hero).

Jeez, those women, just so darn feckless.

TheDailyMailHatesWomenAndLemon · 16/08/2009 16:18

Darn, yes, I missed out single mothers from my list.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 16:18

Elvis you're right they are missing it.

The point is about trust and where I choose to place it.

I chose to place it with MN, fully aware of what that meant etc etc etc.

I didn't choose to palce it with the DM, and would not do so.

bah,i'm going to be without a PC for five days from tomorrow anyhow, damned good thing.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is not accepting new messages.