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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

OP posts:
Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 17:28

No, you want DaftPunk.

Again... must read more carefully.

BadgersArse · 16/08/2009 17:28

no dafty
my room will be called "opinions r us"

no being offended allowed

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 17:29

I have also freely given out pretty much everything I am under this name, I also often name change with no hiding of it being "me".

That doesn't give anyone the right to free reign over all of my name changes.

Boco · 16/08/2009 17:47

I've been thinking about this all day.

I can totally see why people wouldn't want to be quoted in the mail, and how it has the potential to make people feel exposed. I also really don't like the daily mail.

But - if the daily mail is a misogynistic paper which is packed with articles to make women feel bad about themselves and their choices - surely this is the opposite to what mn is all about. And if LH is a decent person, she's always seemed pretty intelligent to me - and she's highlighting issues such as women being unfairly dismissed for being pg - well that's not SUCH a bad thing is it? If we all hate the mail so much, then surely being in the mail, in our own words, is actually a good thing. That article is mners giving really good, reasoned advice. I do see how the fact that WE have no control makes it harder to be relaxed about - but if it's a mnetter, who likes mnet and mnetters - then it doesn't seem so bad - does it?

Dunno, just thinking.

screamingabdab · 16/08/2009 17:51

LH ?

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 17:54

Boco

I completely see your point

But with twoprovisos:

Thre names of posters are changed- the sit. where LH nerroneously amed someone TTC is ludicrous and in fact mean

Aforesaid agreement on 'safe zones'

Still not my personal fave idea but heckb compriomise is acceptable

LibrasBiscuitsOfFortune · 16/08/2009 18:01

I still find it bizarre that a regular mumsnetter would thinks this was ok, I know we are not suppose to be vitolic but just how stupid is the woman I would think most posters HUSBANDS would realise the furore this would cause.

I don't think MNHQ should out her I just think it would be good if she either came on and said sorry or came on and said suck it up you posse of whinging trouts. However I presume she has been gagged until this has been sorted out.

chichichien · 16/08/2009 18:08

I think people are mainly uncomfortable with it because it is the more sensitive posts that will be sought for this type of article.

If it was a column about the Great Wit of Mothers Today or Household Calamities or Aren't Pesky Partners a Hoot then it would be very different.

I'm not sure it's such a big deal, though.

HalfMumHalfBiscuit · 16/08/2009 18:11

What if all of us just nicked stuff of here and published it? Isn't that cheating instead of thinking up your own work?

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 18:13

As it stands - if I start a post about antenatal depression in the next week, with other posters coming on sharing stories, info about the support that is out there... PLEASE will you use that for the column? It is desperately under-mentioned.

Tee2072 · 16/08/2009 18:14

That's the thing FlameSparrow. This column could actually do a lot of good.

If LH got permission to do it, of course.

beanieb · 16/08/2009 18:17

Halfmumhalfbiscuit - as the copyright thingy in the tearms and conditions pretty much seems to be pointless and MNHQ seem pretty much unwilling to enforce it, I would think that a prescident is being set for everyone and anyone to take whatever they want from the mumsnet forums and publish it however they want.

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 18:19

The last one too - although it went tits up by attributing to the wrong person - highlighted some crap stuff going on out there.

SN too - there is all stuff (that admittedly I don't understand) going on about DLA and other benefits afaik - that could be the latest MN uproar.

Or when VVVQV (was it her?) started the thread a couple of years back about how many women had been raped or abused, and how few reported it - that (without usernames!!!!) could have made one hell of an article. A sad one, but one to make people sit back and think

chichichien · 16/08/2009 18:22

There a re quite a few journalists on mn, no? Just set up a system where mnetters can suggest topics to them (pnd or whatever), offer a personal story and leave it at that.

Why let a load of slightly unsuspecting posters stumble into a dm column?

chichichien · 16/08/2009 18:24

Can't journos ask people to come forward with experiences already?

How is this somewhat skulky way any better?

IOnlyReadtheDailyMailinCafes · 16/08/2009 18:25

So do we think that the Mail has never had a chance to print anything postive about women before, people are being naive if they think we can run a campaign to save the souls of Daily Mail readers with LH leading our charge.

chichichien · 16/08/2009 18:25

What you're talking about it opt out rather than opt in. ANy as it's a message board, there's no need to ask anyone to opt in.

MaggieBeauLeo · 16/08/2009 18:37

Justine, Can you now introduce a facility to delete our own old posts?

I've asked about this before and I was told that it would destroy the conversations, but I think it would give people some control, to rein back if they overshare and then regret it. On another forum I visit this facility is available and people only seem to cull their posts once a month or so.

Boco · 16/08/2009 18:39

That's not quite what i'm saying Ionlyread.
It's too late for the souls of daily mail readers for a start.

Just that generally mn is pretty liberal and there are lots of outspoken and smart people who say things I'd rather read than the stuff in the mail, which is often quite infuriating.

I'm still not sure I think it's a good link - but was just thinking about whether it could actually be positive after all. I was wondering what people thought about that.

There's too much thinking and wondering in that last bit.

Boco · 16/08/2009 18:40

Maggie I think she's answered you in her op about deleting own posts.

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 18:42

deleting own posts makes it all weirdy

ahundredtimes · 16/08/2009 18:45

So the terms and conditions on MN site are a load of cock - is that right? Copied somewhere else and not legally enforceable in anyway?

This means all information / posts on here is free for all or anyone to use in any printed or digital media that they wish? And is not in fact the property of MN at all? Which is a bit different from I thought was the case.

Perhaps the t&c should be changed so we all know this? It does make a bit of a difference.

is a weird world.

also when Justine said that line about other journalists would have liked to do this - the fact kind of remains that they CAN and COULD if they so wished - in fact anyone could put together a book called 'Wisdom from Parenting Interenet Sites' couldn't they?

MN owns nothing. Except it's name perhaps.

Have I got this all wrong?

MaggieBeauLeo · 16/08/2009 18:46

I think that's nonsense though. You go to rollercoaster, where the facility is available to delete your own posts, people hardly EVER do it!

MaggieBeauLeo · 16/08/2009 18:50

Oh I see. Flat no. Hmmmm. I don't understand that at all.

ahundredtimes · 16/08/2009 18:56

I mean if they say we own the copyright for everything here. Is it now true that is not in fact the case? Is it like me drawing up a document which says, I am The Queen or something??

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