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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

OP posts:
BadgersArse · 16/08/2009 16:55

oi plopper

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 16:56

Things would just spiral even more out of control if she came on and posted.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 16:57

Ta then love

saintlydamemrsturnip · 16/08/2009 17:02

Why on earth would LH come on? Eveyone's made their mind up and decided they know the 'truth'. Been there done this with mn before: no-one is actually remotely interested in what went on once an issue becomes this hysterical. Anything she said would just get twisted anyway. I certainly wouldn't bother if I was her.

2shoes · 16/08/2009 17:04

the truth?? surely the truth was printed in a national news paper.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 17:05

she could do as I asked- let it be known (and a message to MN asking her them to pass on the messages would suffice) that she has no intention of filching threads from certain sensitive areas of MN

I cannot see why that would ne a problem for her

unless

TheDailyMailHatesWomenAndLemon · 16/08/2009 17:05

I don't think anything would be helped by her coming on now, certainly. I think back when this first started to blow up it might have defused things a bit, though.

I do still wonder what the heck she was thinking (a) about the idea in the first place and (b) not to ask MNHQ first. My best theory at the moment is that she's been taken over by an alien pod person, but I'm aware that that lacks a certain plausability.

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 17:06

Once she answers one question though, more will follow...

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 16/08/2009 17:07

Who is she?

Seems very one sided to me.

She can know who we are but we can't know her user name.

saintlydamemrsturnip · 16/08/2009 17:08

I very much doubt that anyone would quote from the special needs board for this sort of article. To be frank the issues discussed are not relevant enough for the general DM audience to be of enough interest to be published.

If they picked up on a thread about the threat of removing dla then maybe it would be a good thing. Would reach a wide audience quickly - but I doubt it's of enough general interest.

2shoes · 16/08/2009 17:09

Lily I aggree, I would just like to know that places like sn/bereavement and the more sensitive topics like antinatal testing are out of bounds.

screamingabdab · 16/08/2009 17:11

The DailyMailhates I agree : what on earth was she thinking. To me it's as simple as this : it's unprincipled behaviour. But I would expect it of the DM

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 17:11

I am liking the alien pod person idea....

To be honest, I think she knew that there wasn't ever much of a problem with odds and sods, and the occasional thread being quoted..it gave us all something to gossipchat about.

A weekly column is very different. I think she just misjudged it. Maybe she was under pressure to come up with something, maybe she didn't even know they were going to do a weekly column, and she thought it was just going to be a one-off...

There are lots of potential, exculpating scenarios. but it would be nice to know what the real one is.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 17:13

True MrsT and I hope very much you are right, 48 hours ago i'd have agreed in fact. But I an think of a few of my threads that would ahve made decent DM fodder. Esp. with this whole extradition thing uin the news.

The ones about MIL etc I can live with- my fault, but those were posted in desperate moments. I'd quite like the security I think.

The DLA thing BTW I have a letter about from Assembly member; loads upon loads of quoted bits saying nothing will be removed from people, DLA esential etc- and not a comment about not being swapped to SSd.

Flame I think you are right, which is why a statementy type thing would work.

beanieb · 16/08/2009 17:15

Why do you think they wouldn't quote from the special needs board? There are lots of subjects they could pick from all over the different parts of mumsnet from home births to using a dummy to cut off ages for IVF to attitudes towards kids with a disability. Any of those subjects would be interesting to someone and could also be upsetting to members if their own personaly stories/opinions were printed.

Anyway - I don't thin MNHQ plan to make certain forums out of bounds, the answer seems to be to set up 'private' rooms where people can only post when invited to.

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 17:16

does it matter what newspapers we read or who we vote for, the main thing is we're all here to support each other and make each others lives easier....

peachy...don't leave...ok...

daftpunk · 16/08/2009 17:18

"private rooms"...lol, that will never work....no one would let me in their room..

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 17:18

DP it's Sn i'm avoiding,, nd posting about the boys. In The News etc is about me and what I think. my freedom to reveal there IYSWIM

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 17:18

aw daft, I am so proud of you! And second what you said.

chichichien · 16/08/2009 17:22

private rooms not good. I'd spend my whole time kncoking on doors, never knowing the secret password.

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 17:23

I do agree that just a basic statement rather than responding to individual questions would do a lot to calm the storm.

We don't know what she is allowed to say - DM may have silenced her or summat for all we know. She may be (like Justine) waiting til Monday when she can speak to thems in charge.

I don't like the column. I don't want to be quoted in it (not enough to change my name atm ). But at the same time I am trying to look at it rationally from all angles, which has apparently set me up as a DM supporter, in cahoots with Moldies and all kinds of other things.

I am lucky though, there isn't a great deal on here that would matter if it was posted, whereas for many of you (especially SN) I know that isn't the case I could wind up in deep sh*t if my thread about brides and haircuts got posted, but nothing life affecting tbh

chichichien · 16/08/2009 17:24

And all those posters who feel that they make friends on messgae boards, don't they get in touch with them discreetly anyway?

You're either public or you're private. There is no happy middle ground.

BadgersArse · 16/08/2009 17:26

my dream room would be me
dp
xenia
anna
and FAQ for flouncing purposes

and mamag for gavel usage

StripeySuit · 16/08/2009 17:27

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Flamesparrow · 16/08/2009 17:27

You want your DP in a room with you???

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