I knew it, the one child family topic is a croc of shit and more trouble than it's worth.....

[DrNortherner]

It is extremley divisive and I am calling for it to be scrapped. All those in favour say AYE.

This is a first...
I have NO OPINION
If it is just one person causing trouble maybe she should be spoken to?

I've just been over to have a look - I don't understand why the fuss? A small minority of people have got the huff, argued, felt insulted... but that happens all over MN. Most of the posters just want to talk about their situation, sound off, come to terms with how things are for them. I don't get the stress over this topic. There's only 20-odd threads there yet - give it a chance.

Aitch - I'm doing me best, such as it is. Ive been trying to encourage people to start posts which really do explore issues (sorry - can't think of a better word - questions, maybe) which are specific (or as specific as any are likely to be) to only children, such as how to make sure that your child does not lapse into a coma of boredom on holiday with two decrepid parents. I've opened a cafe where everyone, and I really mean everyone, is welcome to come and share a cup of tea and an organic muffin and bring all their children with them.

I also wish I'd never launched off into my rather pedantic discussion of the difference between first and only children, because (although I was only waffling on about the definition of 'only child' and I don't expect anyone else to agree with me) that seems to have given the entirely wrong impression that I want anyone with more than one child to keep off moi topic. Far from it. I am contrite nonetheless.

But I'm a relative newbie and I don't see it as my role to 'sort' anyone else. My preferred tactic is just to try to steer things - as much as any one person can - towards what I hope will be a more harmonious and tranquil path, illuminated by peace, love and understanding on all sides.

Come and have a muffin on the cafe.

aye

can we have a parents of redheads topic?

I think Aitch has hit the nail on the head.

But (as a parent of an only child) I have not really seen the need for a specific topic, and suspected from the outset that it could All Go Wrong.

i want a parents of one, with one on the way next march topic

please

Aye. Don't see the point.

Well as you know we are merely agents of the collective will but as an aside we can't really see why a one child family topic should be any more divisive than a larger families topic per se. So maybe folks just need to chill a bit, recite the MN philosophy etc and it will all settle down?

I say Nay!
But I think that there are concerns and experiences that are relevant for parents of onlies that are not accommodated on the general parenting or on the larger families threads.

I think there is one inflammatory poster who is rubbing everyone up the wrong way; starting threads and flaming a bit. I'd quite like her banned
We are all friends here.

by 'sort out' madbad, i just mean question. that's how MN self-polices, it tends to work fairly well. poster A says 'all socks are dirty' poster B says 'how so? i'm sure i have some clean socks' etc.

rather than just rubbing your eyes, not posting, and thinking 'christ, that woman who hates socks is a fucking nutjob'.

We should have a PFB topic where we can all post questions that we think are a bit ott but want confirmation.

I have no opinion on the only child topic, aside from the fact that I thought that TforTwo's fascinator discussion was brilliant.

of course not

what's the matter with you all

what on earth is the matter with you all

You (meaning parents of one, two, three, four, five ect) are all too blardy touchy, I only have one, albeit with tons of step children, but I couldn't give a toss if anyone supports/judges/hates my decisions. Likewise I don't feel the need to care/judge/blahdeblah if anyone else has a humoungous family.

As someone said earlier, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

another thread?(or have i just got deja vu?)

although ..if it leaves room for vaccinations to have their own topic

absofarkinlutely

Aitch - Yes, quite. That's just the sort of sorting I'm attempting.

Mme Lindt - why not start your own thread, to follow that on fascinators? We need some more sensible and in-depth discussions like that one, rather than any more inspection of our own (sadly, almost invisible in my case) navels.

aye, never realised i needed a separate topic before now, I'm just a parent, my dd is just a child, she hasn't got 2 heads or anything

and i am the eldest of many, so i know what that's like

Oh dear - what's been going on?

I haven't even looked at the topic tbh and would only post there to give my mum's (adn therefore older person's) experience of being a single child.

I can see a need for it tbh.

The One Child Family topic won't be scrapped. It's ticking along nicely now. In fact, thanks to it being in active convos so much these past few days, a lot people who didn't know it existed have come aboard and started some interesting threads. The fuss will die down and the people who want it will use it and the people who don't can ignore it.

Chill

FGS the idea of seperate topics is so you can discuss stuff that interests you and is relevent to you, if you don't like it don't click. The topic titles are not an invitation to click and throw abuse around. Lone parent, forces wives and single child and many other topics have all suffered from this. Butt out and go talk about what is relevent to yourselves.

I love all the different topics, I love the diversity. Iknow what to avoid like pedants corner .

What do people want to just have parenting as one topic and you only post nice shiney parenting threads.