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Is it not time now for Mumsnet to leave X/Twitter?

62 replies

BIWI · 23/03/2025 16:44

… given everything that’s going on in the USA with Elon Musk?

Doesn’t feel like his/their values align with any of ours right now!

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Codlingmoths · 24/03/2025 08:51

Twitter is useful, especially for those of us who are keen to avoid group think, which should be everyone, I find the algorithm shows me what feels like quite random things. I am not a fan of ‘must follow the progressive line’ environments, is blue sky like that? I did used to be a progressive, but now it’s more like negotiating with terrorists.

Codlingmoths · 24/03/2025 08:52

ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 08:51

@singlewhitetrashheap @floormops I agree it’s important to point this out.

But at the moment, Instagram and to a declining extent Facebook, are necessary to have a presence on, for comercial reasons. There are no good replacements yet. Whereas X has rapidly become irrelevant. It’s an echo chamber of the far right.

If Mumsnet stopped posting on X, it would probably have little effect on their revenue and signal to the world that they don’t stand for facism.

I don’t think it would signal to the world anything really

MyNameIsX · 24/03/2025 08:55

BIWI · 24/03/2025 08:38

Who do I think I am?

Well, someone on Mumsnet who is entitled to ask a question. I’m sorry if you don’t like my question!

Mumsnet are also totally within their rights to do as they wish.

I believe this kind of questioning is also known as a discussion. No?

Go ahead - you do you, as they say, but please do not profess to speak on behalf of MN or its members.

verysmellyjelly · 24/03/2025 08:56

Any time the topic of X comes up there are some voices insisting it’s terrible to be on there and no one is on there any more. But that just isn’t true. Many, many official bodies are still using it, and so are loads of normal individuals who are not focused on politics at all and certainly aren’t “far right”. As I said, I deleted my own account years ago so I’m not speaking from any personal investment in the site, but I find it very disingenuous to see it represented like this.

BlueBatBlossom · 24/03/2025 08:58

It’s an echo chamber of the far right.

Someone should probably mention that to JK Rowling and some of the Jewish/black/gay people I follow on there. Maybe they’re too stupid to realise? Maybe you could save them from themselves?

ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 09:04

Codlingmoths · 24/03/2025 08:52

I don’t think it would signal to the world anything really

So what is the reason for household brands, councils, charities, withdrawing in your opinion?

ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 09:07

X has lost 15% of its user base in the past year. Even big brands have to decide where to focus their resources.

Never2many · 24/03/2025 09:08

TBH you lost the argument when you accused people who are on X of being trump/musk fans.

It reminds me of the person years ago who, when I said I didn’t boycott nestle, accused me of being “proud not to care about babies in the 3rd world.”

You just can’t think like that. People use platforms because they’re useful to them. And whether we like it or not, many, many organisations and companies absolutely do use them, and Bluesky is far too cluttered and nowhere near relevant enough for companies to have a meaningful presence on it. Whereas people do still recognise x/twitter as a platform, even among the toxicity which exists on there.

And that toxicity will carry across to Bluesky if it keeps going, that’s guaranteed, because all social media is up there. Twitter/facebook/instagram/tiktok/even YouTube. Nowhere is untouched, it’s just so for differing reasons.

Never2many · 24/03/2025 09:09

ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 09:04

So what is the reason for household brands, councils, charities, withdrawing in your opinion?

Virtue signaling.

AnSolas · 24/03/2025 09:10

BIWI · 24/03/2025 08:27

Hmm. See my thread has brought out all the Trump/Musk fans Hmm

For the record, nobody is telling me who to hate @BibiLynn. I’m quite capable of working out hateful behaviour myself. And how anyone can support Musk is beyond me.

I’ve been on Twitter pretty much since it started (Tweetdeck, anyone?) but in recent years have used it less and less. Didn’t like the way it had changed generally. But when Musk bought it, decided it really wasn’t a place for me, given his willingness to give a platform to the likes of Stephen Yaxley-Lennon. Free speech is one thing, but hate speech should never be allowed. And indeed, it’s not allowed on Mumsnet. (See Talk Guidelines). Hence querying whether or not it’s actually a place for Mumsnet to be.

No-one is stopping any of you spouting your stuff there if you want to. But there are plenty of places where Mumsnet could be sharing our posts.

(Oh, and for the record @INeedAnotherName yes, I think Facebook/Meta/Zuckerberg is just as bad - just eating the elephant one bite at a time)

Is this a dont let the door hit you on the arse on the way out moment for you?

If so you could ask MN to move your thread to the flounsers corner
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ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 09:10

Never2many · 24/03/2025 09:09

Virtue signaling.

Rubbish, clearly you have never worked for a large organisation. It will be a commercial decision.

verysmellyjelly · 24/03/2025 09:11

@Never2many I made a Bluesky account to try it out and there is already a lot of toxic behaviour on there. Unfortunately the social dynamics on that site are based on wanting you to block as many people as possible, which encourages an environment of purity culture and witch hunting. I’m not saying MN shouldn’t join it if they want to, but personally I feel it is a bad fit to this site’s culture. And I suspect the MN Bluesky account would end up in many “block lists” and be regarded as a terf account (however unfairly given the variety of opinions on MN).

ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 09:13

It’s perfectly reasonable to question if Mumsnet should still be on X. If you examine their account, their engagement has plummeted since 2021.

JoyousEagle · 24/03/2025 09:16

BlueBatBlossom · 23/03/2025 22:02

I know everyone is entitled to their views whether I agree with them or not and that includes Elon Musk.

No one is suggesting he isn’t though. I deleted my Twitter account because I don’t like Musk (and also because it became unusable due to ads and spam). I don’t think Musk should not be allowed to say his views though. It’s not cancelling someone to just not use their social media platform. Do you use Truth Social?

AnSolas · 24/03/2025 09:21

ImAChangeling · 24/03/2025 09:04

So what is the reason for household brands, councils, charities, withdrawing in your opinion?

If I was in a local organisation which was actively engaging on a world wide platform I would be using this as an excuse to remove the resources needed to manage it. And only use it as a notice board so read with no reply option possible.

Household brands should have realised how damaging viral SM can be and how badly some staff have reacted to bad PR. What benefit is it to an organisation to manage their complaints process in public?

And if it is for political reasons why is a household brands (normaly a for profit PLC) board of directors deciding on what the "correct" political opinion is?

TheGrimSmile · 24/03/2025 09:24

BlueBatBlossom · 23/03/2025 21:10

What the hell? As far as I’m aware this is still a free country with free speech. Cancelling views you don’t agree with doesn’t sit well with me.

But that is exactly what Musk does. He blocks anyone who disagrees with anything he says or does.

AzurePanda · 24/03/2025 09:31

Sorry but the idea that Twitter/X is the echo chamber rather than Bluesky is hilarious.

MardyBra · 24/03/2025 09:50

Yanbu. Had you posted this thread (with the same circumstances), 15 years ago, most posters would have agreed with you and MN might have felt under pressure. But we didn’t have Trump apologists on the site then. And the ethos of MN as an organisation was less commercial.

BIWI · 24/03/2025 09:51

Go ahead - you do you, as they say, but please do not profess to speak on behalf of MN or its members

Grin

I wasn’t aware that asking a question was speaking on behalf of anyone else?!

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Never2many · 24/03/2025 10:08

As soon as you start accusing people of being Trump apologists you lose any and all credibility.

People don’t stay on twitter because they love Trump or Musk, they stay on twitter because it’s a long running platform where often useful information is available. In the same way people go on facebook/instagram.

Or do you think that anyone on facebook is a would-be scammer? Because facebook is known for that, amongst other unsavoury things.

TikTok is by far the most toxic platform out there, and yet people flock there in their droves. Does that make them toxic too?

What about companies whose practices you don’t agree with? Do you think, as I was accused of years ago, that not boycotting nestle means you’re proud of not caring about babies in the 3rd world?

Or do you perhaps not think that people buy nestle because they like smarties?

Not everyone wants to attach political meaning to their every move.

And attaching political meaning to people’s every move and using that to shut people down is far more toxic than actually just using something because it works for you.

EasternStandard · 24/03/2025 10:11

AzurePanda · 24/03/2025 09:31

Sorry but the idea that Twitter/X is the echo chamber rather than Bluesky is hilarious.

I’m not on either but I wouldn’t be surprised those asking for this are on Bluesky.

BeckyAMumsnet · 24/03/2025 10:31

Hi @BIWI thanks for posting. We don’t endorse the views or actions of any particular platform owner, just as being on Facebook or Instagram doesn’t mean we’re aligned with Meta. (FYI we're also on Bluesky).

It’s still one of the largest real-time discussion platforms and many parents, journalists, policymakers, and brands continue to engage on X. While the platform has undoubtedly changed, the reality is that most businesses, media outlets, and organisations still maintain a presence there.

RedToothBrush · 24/03/2025 10:32

BIWI · 24/03/2025 08:38

Who do I think I am?

Well, someone on Mumsnet who is entitled to ask a question. I’m sorry if you don’t like my question!

Mumsnet are also totally within their rights to do as they wish.

I believe this kind of questioning is also known as a discussion. No?

You started a thread entitled
'Is it not time now for Mumsnet to leave X/Twitter?'

Then said
Doesn’t feel like his/their values align with any of ours right now!

This reads like something of a demand and expectation. It was pretty strongly worded.

Then you said
I’m actually quite shocked that MN is still on X.

THEN when people said that disagreed, you replied, without any evidence:
Hmm. See my thread has brought out all the Trump/Musk fans
For the record, nobody is telling me who to hate. I’m quite capable of working out hateful behaviour myself. And how anyone can support Musk is beyond me.

That was the post that pissed me off tbh. I'd have ignored the thread otherwise.

I fundamentally disagree with it. I dislike intensely, many of the people who Musk has allowed to use the site, HOWEVER, I don't think always helps to have outright bans. It only further radicalises if too havy handed. It should only be for the most extreme cases. Otherwise you end up creating unintended issues and also making certain views almost 'forbidden fruits' which ADDS to their attraction rather than marginalising them.

Ultimately I think we need to have difficult conversations about and with people who have these views, because their power comes from the fact that they do connect with a level of disaffection in society. They feed off it and weaponise it. Trump and Musk have gained power due to a fundamental failure of the alternatives, who aren't willing to be self critical and more considered where appropriate. This left a political vacuum to be filled with conspirary theories and bullshit.

The solution is to resolve the disaffection - and that requires identifying the elements that underpin unrest. That's usually to do with some sort of sense of injustice. You then produce counterarguments and alternative narratives and you make change to improve things in life. These dissatifactions usually historically go hand in hand with times of poverty, lack of employment/ opportunity, poor quality of life and when large enough groups are struggling in some way. The tend to appear at the same time as large scandals too which expose a certain amount of institutional level self service. You don't get them in times of relative prosperity. This repeats through history. It is not unique to 2025.

A lack of engagement and dismissal of people because they are 'the wrong kind of person' or because they have 'the wrong kind of views' only makes things worse for this reason because it legitimises this sense of marginalisation.

Its only when people have disagreed that you are now saying
Mumsnet are also totally within their rights to do as they wish.
I believe this kind of questioning is also known as a discussion. No?

This is a reversing away from the strength of your initial posts and the attacks you made on others who posted.

There are a LOT of people on twitter who do not share these views. There are many American women who don't identify with the values of Bluesky, who are now on MN and benefit from the good stuff here. Indeed MN's real strength is precisely because it ISN'T the echo chamber that Bluesky and Twitter can be - if it brings in people from BOTH platforms thats a really GOOD thing for women and for ultimately shifting debate ON OTHER platforms (which we have seen MN do before).

Your initial posts did not read as the start of a discussion. It read as a demand that this is what MN should be doing if they have the 'correct' and 'right' values. You didn't want a discussion. You wanted to shame and discredit people who disagreed with you by smearing them as 'Musk and Trump supporters'. I can see a clear back tracking and I want to make that absoluetely clear and how this shaming by association using the propaganda technique of 'guilt by association' is a massive part of the problem which you can not just blame on 'the other side'.

I am done with cancel culture. We are in the political mess we are in with polarisation precisely BECAUSE of cancelation and a lack of engagement with complex and difficult subjects which require a huge amount of nuance and understanding that underlying causes may be valid and need recognition but can manifest in really unpleasant views. However it does not mean that there isn't a valid problem that we should be seeing and should be addressing. If we marginalise we simply stop our ability to offer a different solution and we stop discussion.

I do think some things need to be removed from the internet, but censorship has to be really thought out, and only used in the most extreme cases. Just to highlight the seriousness of the matter. The problem when too many people are being routinely censored is that it loses its effectiveness and it loses that idea of seriousness.

We are not having proper conversations about the limits of censorship and the negative sides of censorship because the mentality is 'that is bad, it must be stopped' and thats too simplist. 'Who decides' and who monitors the censors is a really important question because its about power and control. The comment of 'who do you think you are' has cropped up on this thread - and thats a reference to that concept.

Democracy needs to get its head around people having good and bad ideas is normal and healthy and then talking to make bad ideas less bad through adult reasoning. And that EVERYONE is wrong sometimes. And we need to involve EVERYONE. Not just the people we think are worthy enough or good enough. That includes 'stupid people' and 'very intelligent people'. The best moderation to that is to exposure to a wide range of ideas and values even if you strongly disagree with some. We should be making that the norm.

I'm kind sick of this Super Villian idea. Its not helpful. No Superhero is going to come along and make all the baddies disappear along with their ideas like magic cos the goodies are somehow infaliable. Its ridiculous. Thats not how real lie works.

AzurePanda · 24/03/2025 10:40

Hear hear @RedToothBrush , a heartfelt thank you for taking the time to post this