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Can I ask please why a thread was deleted?

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Lilifer · 31/10/2024 09:28

It was deleted in the last 15 mins, the one about Flaky friends. I was about to post an answer on it and saw it's been deleted for breaking talk guidelines. But there was only about 21 posts on it and none of them were in the least bit offensive or controversial that I could see. How could something have been posted so quickly that was so offensive the entire thread was deleted , why not just delete an offensive post rather than the whole thread??

OP posts:
Lilifer · 01/11/2024 11:16

whatwouldyoudoifisangoutofkey · 01/11/2024 08:32

I'm a bit confused .
Is OP incorrect saying reason given was "breaking talk guidelines " ?
MN have said on this thread that it was a previously banned poster.
Deleted threads are a bit annoying when I'm reading and posting but when an understandable reason given it's fair enough.
I particularly dislike the "looking behind the scenes" and no follow up.

The reason MNHQ gave for deleting the thread was that it was breaking talk guidelines - it didn't say anything about a previously banned poster 🤔

OP posts:
JoMumsnet · 01/11/2024 11:32

Hi again Lilifer - we've updated the deletion message on that thread to reflect the fact that the OP was a previously banned poster.

We do try not to delete whole threads if we can possibly help it, especially if a good discussion is going on. But we have to balance that with not wanting to encourage trolls, and not wanting people to waste their time responding to a thread that isn't genuine.

Lilifer · 01/11/2024 15:20

@JoMumsnet I see yes, thanks that makes sense

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loropianalover · 01/11/2024 15:35

Lilifer · 31/10/2024 09:43

But they would say that if it was a previously banned poster. The reason they gave in this case was for breaking talk guidelines

Evidently not always! ☺️ I presume it’s just a misclick or because the PBP had ‘multiple accounts’ it went under talk guidelines.

DivorcedAndDelighted · 02/11/2024 08:34

Maybe it's because a PBP is trying to build up a new, clean profile by starting uncontroversial threads? Then why not just remove the offending comment or, if it was a thread starter, remove the PBP's name so they can't build a reputation from it?
Whatever, all the thread deletions are really turning me off MN. My watch list, mainly from Relationships, Chat or AIBU, is full of deletion notices. I invest time for the quality of the responses and want to read again, carefully - then it all goes poof!

JaneJeffer · 02/11/2024 10:39

Another thread I posted on last night has been zapped for breaking talk guidelines. There's one in active that sounds like a load of nonsense so that's probably next to go.

JaneJeffer · 06/11/2024 07:10

More weird deletions of bog standard replies www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/5196487-where-is-metatone
Don't understand MN any more

HebeMumsnet · 06/11/2024 09:42

Hi @JaneJeffer . Thanks for getting in touch. We've had a look back over those posts. They both sounded like troll posts to us and a look behind the scenes confirmed that. We just try to stop these types getting a foothold where we can and get rid of them as soon as possible.

JaneJeffer · 06/11/2024 13:06

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OrangeWallaby · 06/11/2024 17:44

Could I possibly ask why the one this morning in parents of adult children was deleted? It was about a 20 yo's boyfriend texting her mum to ask for old pictures of her in school uniform.

Whilst it could have veered into very dodgy territory, in fact the discussion was more about the boyfriend's control/negging. Again it just said 'for breaking talk guidelines'? Was this another 'behind the scenes' thing?

Maidsamilkimg777 · 08/11/2024 08:32

Well I hit an all-time record yesterday of contributing to no less than five threads which have all been deleted in the past couple of days!

Yes, I post because I want to, and no one is holding a gun to my head, but the whole-thread deletions are getting a bit excessive imho!

The latest thread to be deleted was the one about feeling lonely on the school run “because it broke talk guidelines”,

I really don’t understand it because, although robust views were exchanged, people were criticising post content not other posters per se. I mean do we want every thread now to be so anodyne that people can’t be bothered to comment?

That particular thread got moderately spicy because a poster was very disparaging of op and others, including myself, defended her.
I can’t be sure but I suspect it was the person who made the nasty comment in the first place who reported ifyswim! In other words, people are reporting when the argument isn’t going their way.

The same thing happened regularly on the Royal Family threads although that has calmed down of late.

Another thread which was deleted was about an adult child moving back home. It was deleted because “it was making the op more depressed”. Now fair enough, the site has to be very careful where mh is concerned, but in this instance, no one had been mean intentionally, the thread had just not gone particularly in the op’s favour and I suspect that they hadn’t received the replies they wanted.

I have been on Mumsnet for aeons and have always found the moderation to be fair, sensible and kind. And I’ve benefited from this myself occasionally in the past when I have accidentally over-shared or posted an identifying detail by mistake. And then I have been very grateful for HQ removing my individual posts and learned my lesson.

But to have entire threads go “poof” so often is a bit much!

It’s like Mumsnet HQ are just blanket deleting any threads which receive a certain number of reports, rather than reading the content of the thread properly and making more considered decisions based on that reading.

Maybe the site has grown so large that they don’t have the manpower to do that any more. I know firm but fair moderation on a site this size is really hard to do. But the content of threads is important and forms the nub of the business.

And when so many thread deletions are taking place, and you log back in to see how a thread you have contributed to is going, and it’s no longer there, you start thinking perhaps that it’s not worth posting in the first place.

Edited to say: thank you Munsnet Towers for reading what is a bit of an essay! I love the site really 😃

NotoriousNameChanger · 08/11/2024 08:43

DivorcedAndDelighted · 02/11/2024 08:34

Maybe it's because a PBP is trying to build up a new, clean profile by starting uncontroversial threads? Then why not just remove the offending comment or, if it was a thread starter, remove the PBP's name so they can't build a reputation from it?
Whatever, all the thread deletions are really turning me off MN. My watch list, mainly from Relationships, Chat or AIBU, is full of deletion notices. I invest time for the quality of the responses and want to read again, carefully - then it all goes poof!

I think the trying to develop a new profile hits the nail on the head. I’m not too fussed if a thread I was on gets deleted, I’ll just get on with my day and if it’s a topic that I actively engaged in, chances are that there are other similar threads. If not, I can always create my own post. I’d prefer not to engage in threads with PBPs because then it makes it harder to gage if I’m dealing with trolls who are just trying to build up a new profile before they wreak havoc or start a bun fight etc. or if someone’s having an off day.

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