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why do i always seem to be ignored on here??

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 19:31

is it very clicky on here? whenever i post i never get many replies! i am thinking of not bothering from now on and looking for another site.other people seem to get loads on threads that dont seem important to me! it really annoys me

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suzywong · 27/11/2004 22:50

wow 49 posts!
Do you feel better now lilsmum?

mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 22:51

and with dp, who 'try's'!but never quites get the hang!!!

mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 22:51

50!!yeeeey

misdee · 27/11/2004 22:51

we have finally worn out 3 of those sleepsuits, has taken 18months and 2 kids to wear them out, and mostly daily wash/wear as well. and they get washed at 60 degrees or higher.

Gobbledigook · 27/11/2004 22:53

lilsmum - 10mg is not a very high dose either - often the dose is 20mg or 40mg so I wouldn't worry about a 10mg dose daily. Sometimes I think it may help you psychologically - just the fact that you are taking something means you think you will get better so you do, iyswim? Of course they do work anyway, but sometimes just starting off on them can help because you feel you are doing something to try and get back in control.

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 22:55

lol yeh i feel better, i think just everything has got on top of me today... anybody understand having loads of people around you but feeling alone? thats how i feel and have felt since dd was born...alone xx

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Gobbledigook · 27/11/2004 22:59

lilsmum - glad you feel better. Sometimes people can feel alone even with people around and people who do help. Having a baby is an overwhelming experience - your body has been through massive changes and your whole world is tipped upside down. Of course it is amazing and we are lucky to have our babes but there is nothing quite like it so you cannot be prepared for what is ahead - you just give birth and hit the ground running and don't look back. Whoever you have to help you, at the end of the day, 90% of the responsibility falls on you so of course it's a bit frightening and lonely.

You've done the right thing coming on here - there are loads of people to talk to and people will try and help if they can. The great thing about MN is that you can find out quite quickly that you are not alone and there are women in households just down the road and hundreds of miles away all going through, or have been through, the same as you. Just keep talking and you'll find it a great support.

Really got to go to bed now but hope you feel better.

xxx

mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 22:59

yes!
god i cant believe i missed your threads? did you talk about any of this?
anytime you wanna chat, give me a shout!
quick brief - sahm to dd 19 months, dp, been together 9 years, no contact with either of our fathers(long, long story), mil a cow!, mother lazy and more interested in brother and his two.no family around when pg as me and b had fall out so mother took his side, only now rearly her head after 19 months after b's dogs died who lived with her and expects to go on like shes been there all along!
thats me..how about you?

mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 23:00

night gobbledigook.x

Gobbledigook · 27/11/2004 23:01

Night hun! x

cardigan · 27/11/2004 23:02

sahm as well. Newish to area, not that many friends. Mumsnet is great help

cardigan · 27/11/2004 23:02

Night all xxx

misdee · 27/11/2004 23:03

i'm usually about on allergy boards, so any ezcem,a stuff, throw it at me there.

and my life, hehe, how long u got? 24, 2 kids, one on way, dd1 is 4.5yrs old, dd2 is just over 2, # 3 due in march. dh has dilated cardiomyopathy, so sometimes get very down about that, and post very bad posts on that, and probably bore others to tears.

both dd's have eczema (hence my knowledge of it), dd1 has asthma and allergies as well.

but we're generally a happy bunch.

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 23:08

mrsmiawallace...im sahm (did go back to work for a few months but didnt work out) always been close to my parents but they are completely different to how i thought... i thought they would be very supportive etc(they were with my brothers son) nothing!! they see dd but only when i am there never take her for a hr or nothing like that. mil and fil are more interested in sis in law and her 2 kids.they live 200 miles away they see dd once a mth for a hr tops!! dp he seems to think his life doesnt need to change since dd been here, never done any of the night wakings or anythin!! me and him aint getting on at all.. has been violence but feel stuck!! my brother lives in amsterdam comes back every couple of months and my parent fuss round him like hes so wonderful!! seriously cracks me up!! and thats my life really.oh lost contact with most of my friends have a couple but not very close friends iykwim. i have posted about various different things tho. xx

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 23:09

thanks everyone.. sorry for being a pain tonight night to people going to bed xx

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Aero · 27/11/2004 23:11

Is she still taking her milk or other fluids? Are there any other symptoms such as a fever?
Ds1 at around a year ate absolutely nothing for 12 days and I was so worried, but he picked up again slowly - I can't remember if he had a course of antibiotics in the end or not, but ever since then he's been very prone to chest infections which have ended up needing antibiotics. Fingers crossed he's 'growing out' of that a bit now though. Know nothing much about the exzema though so can't offer any help with that other than to say, be persistant with your GP or HV and shout loudly until you know you've been listened to and helped. Sometimes it's the only way. It's another thread really, but ds1 ended up with pneumonia 18 months ago and largely because I wasn't listened to in the first place. I clearly didn't shout loud enough, but complained afterwards and we are taken seriously now every time one of them is ill enough IMO to need checking out.

mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 23:13

families eh!
my mother vowed she would look after dd when born so i could go back to work full time...yeah right.
dp doesnt do a lot for dd although helps me like getting bath ran, changing stuff out, helping with tea. but never got up during night, for feeding or otherwise, changed a handful of nappies and hasnt 'babysat' for more than 2 hours tops! so havent been out since june 2003 and only 27!feel like a old woman.
now about dp, whats happening? our relationship can be hard(at min!)but vilence is unnessecary?

Aero · 27/11/2004 23:13

Forgot to add - ds2's been a bit off colour over the last few weeks and hasn't been eating much, buthas finally cut his first toth yesterday and his apetite seems to have returned. He's also mega whingy/clingy at the moment.

mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 23:14

took so long typing that, didnt see youd gone!
am off myself now, but really if you want to chat, just make a thread shouting me and ill be there in a flash!, come here most nights, so hope i can help.x
night

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 23:15

aero, i have upped her milk again and she is taking that and plenty of water (doesnt like any juice) i know what you mean bout not being listened to tho. dd i discovered myself had lactose intolerance from birth to 6 mth.. hv said it was colic had to fight my arguement i managed to get gp to give some sma LF and she was a different baby.. she went back onto sma gold at 6 mth and is fine now. also i noticed 2 spots on dd's leg when she was 8 wk old hv said it was were her nappy had rubbed it turned out to be chicken pox!! they dont have a clue at all!!!

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 23:17

mrsmiawallace... i aint gone just saying night to people who were going its a long long story bout dp!! if you needing to go bed i will tell you another time..thanks for all your help tho

night xx

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mrsmiawallace · 27/11/2004 23:19

i am hun, sorry, dd not too well either and last night had to switch pc off at wall as she woke up crying.
if you wana chat, my email address is [email protected].
even if i dont come on here, i check emails every night.
xxxxxx

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 23:23

thanks mrsmiawallace (god your names long lol) will do.. night xxxx

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Aero · 27/11/2004 23:32

Didn't like the sound of that last post re your dp and I will need to head to bed soon, but am here for a little while if you wnat to offload a bit. Sounds worrying and I presume your parents don't know judging by the little bits of information coming through.

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lilsmum · 27/11/2004 23:35

aero.. never punched me in face or anything like that just little things. the worst was when i was 36 wk pregnant i wouldnt give him some keys so he got me in a head lock and tried to get me down on the floor.. i have 2 doors with holes in. on thurs night (its sounds funny) but he threw dd's dummy full pelt at my face. just silly things like that really.

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