why do i always seem to be ignored on here??

[lilsmum]

is it very clicky on here? whenever i post i never get many replies! i am thinking of not bothering from now on and looking for another site.other people seem to get loads on threads that dont seem important to me! it really annoys me

Don't go, what've you posted. I'll talk to you for a few mins, then gotta cook dinnre.

It depends who is around at the time and the subject.

What I mean is if the people around at that time have something to add to your thread.

hello lilsmum - it happens to me too - in fact i think it probably happens to a lot of people.

I know what you mean Lilsmum, and I remember getting into a thread early on about how cliquey the site was. When I was new on here I used to think people were ignoring me. However, I don't post as much as I used to and when I do post I've defo had replies. Just stick with it. I think people tend to converse with the people they have seen around for a while, that's all.

i am a first time mum and learning along the way, i do post quite alot on here bout stuff to do with dd (10 mth) and check to see if anyone has replied and never seem to get any advice i thought that this is what this site was about not trivial crap.. sorry but it just does my head in!!

Do stick with it lilsmum. SOmetimes get the feeling that I seem to kill most threads that I go on, cause not many seem to reply after I've had my say ... but I'm still around

It does take a little while but please hang around - we are a good bunch despite the odd skirmish and flounce,

How about joining the parenting thread for your darling's age? us May mums never stop rabbiting on . . .

Hi Lilsmum - I have a DS who is 8 months, so might not be that good at posting things to do with a 10 month old, but if you have any tips for me, please share!

Seriously though, I find I post on subjects I'm interested in and enjoy the site. I don't necessarily get heaps of replies to things I post, but then I think that's probably similar for everyone. Sometimes the most trivial post will grab people's attention (Coddy never expected to get the amount of posts she did for her Chinese takeaway thread, I bet!), other times it just looks trivial and is ignored. Depends who's online at the time, I reckon. Keep posting though

I just searched on your name and can't find any posts where you've been ignored

have you tried bumping them at more frequent times because sometimes they get lost in the traffic

how many replies do you expect to get by the way?

and trivial crap gets you through the day sometimes

Where have you been ignored? i searched your name and you seem to have had lots of responses? i would say it would probably be mainly people with a similar age child who would post advice so it can be limiting anyway.

I actually like the so-called trivial crap. After a day of issues re; grandsons parents, etc - I need the trivia to keep me sane!!!

I agree about trivial crap being good too.

Stick with us as we are friendly

some messages do get lost sometimes.

It also depends what time you post if there is no one who has the same problem or experience as you it may get missed but if it had been posted at a different time will get loads.

It is not personal to you please do not think that.

lilsmum - sometimes i read threads but have no advice so don't post but am not ignoring. If u post something I can help with I will reply I promise . When I posted about my dd's sleep I got a mix, one thread just the one person, another one i got quite a lot of replies, it just depends on time of day and who is on. So don't give up on us!

It's nothing personal - there are so many threads these days that stuff often gets lost very quickly. Try bumping your messages up at a different time of day, so other people get the chance to see them, that might help.

I'm another fan of the trivial stuff, I know that there are more important and more serious things to worry about, buhaving fun is important too, and sometimes it's only the trivial, silly stuff that keeps me sane.

who said that?

snigger

Also, if the topic has been done before, I think people just don't go onto it because perhaps if they've been on the site a while they've posted it umpteen times before. You can always search for relevant threads.

I started a thread a while ago about ds2 biting and had hardly any replies but put it down to the time of day (middle of a weekday) and the fact that it was probably old hat - because I've got to know people quite well on here and I'm not ignored on other threads.

I've seen your name around and haven't been aware you've been ignored - I thought you were 'one of the gang' so please don't think you are not being listened to.

i'm not very good on child health queries - only real experience of children is with DS, 8 months, so I rarely post on child health stuff. I do post on trivial crap stuff - but I do that as light relief to posting quite a lot on mental health stuff etc.

agree with other posters about time of day and other issues limiting the number of responses. if you do want to try another site, babycentre is quite good - has regional boards for meet up threads, and lots of other different boards you might be interested in.

ive felt the same in the past, but in everyones defence, people cant post if they have no knowledge or advice to give. some people send hugs or say they are thinking of you, but that doesnt help you does it?
get chatting on another thread if you want to talk and when you start chatting, bring up your question, if you are already engaged in conversation, you will then get a reply wether help or just a hug so then you wont feel alone, but dont think anyones deliberatly ingnoring you, they just cant offer you advice on that matter.
however..i have popped on some threads and been overlooked, but i dont think its clicky, i think people can get caught up in talking to someone they have known longer, again not an intentional snub

I think most people have their own pet Topics that they spend more time on. I'm usually on the SN, Education and B&D boards -although I seem to be spending more and more time in the Telly Addicts section just lately. There are lots of topics that I have absolutely no experience with so tend to avoid, eg Step-parents, Teens, Lone Parents etc. It's not a case of ignoring individuals. I just don't have time to go through every thread.

I sometimes get the feeling that ive killed threads dead when i am frequently the last person to post or comment. I always wonder if i have offended someone or that my comments are innappropriate.
Also that i dont get many replies to my postings.
I have such a good time though browsing through other threads and when people do get back to me its usually worth the wait because the answers are great.
Nowadays im scared of missing any thing!
Stick with it, i have its not too bad.

thanks everyone and sorry if i have offended anyone just going through a pissed off stage at mo lol,im not saying i am ignored totally i do get replies.. its just im having such a hard time with dd at mo and noone giving advice... the hv is hopeless so is gp. i dont know. there is just no help from anyone.. i have had really good advice on here and maybe i rely on it too much... any way end of rant

xxx