To think it’s odd there is no fat /body acceptance section

[Sunnydays999]

It seems to be a popular new topic . More people aren’t excepting diet culture and are looking to be more body positive. Why isn’t there one on mums net ?

Every weight thread on here seems to be full of HAES to me.

*accepting.

If you want one you can ask MNHQ in Site Stuff.

This is going to be good...

There's no pro-ana section either..........

There's a difference between being body positive and promoting obesity.

There isn't a separate section for fat people just like there isn't for skinny people.

I can only surmise it’s because being overweight is not healthy or anything to be positive about. Overweight people are susceptible to more illness and disease (eg heart) that those of “normal” weight so it isn’t something to be proud of, whether you’re happy about being fat or not.
I’d argue that anyone that’s overweight should be making an effort to lose weight or address the underlying reasons for it.

Look, I’m fat
It’s not ideal and it’s sure as hell not healthy and something to be promoted
People shouldn’t be made to be ashamed to be overweight but not “accepting diet culture’ (presumably that means being happy to be fat) is a very bad idea

I was just saying on another thread - we need to see acceptance of more body types, but within a healthy weight range. You can be a healthy weight while being curvy, muscular etc. I wouldn't really advocate obesity as a lifestyle choice - speaking from experience, when you get older, it wrecks your wellbeing - but celebration of different body shapes within a healthy range would be a good idea.

@Hoppinggreen

Look, I’m fat It’s not ideal and it’s sure as hell not healthy and something to be promoted People shouldn’t be made to be ashamed to be overweight but not “accepting diet culture’ (presumably that means being happy to be fat) is a very bad idea

I am with you on that.

What questions would you even ask under body positivity? Most of the questions people ask about weight are based around wanting to be slimmer.

@LApprentiSorcier absolutely. Problem there is that even people of unhealthy proportions will argue that they are healthy. I always said I was a healthy fatso. And I was, but I am now out of denial and know that it was only because I was morbidly obese only for 4 years or so. I realised this would simply not be the case in 2 years😐
Both extremes of weight are unhealthy and promoting (more) healthy middle should be done thing

@PLAYJAJADINGDONG

There's no pro-ana section either..........

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People on this site are not nice about fat people so I'm surprised you think there would be a fat acceptance section.

There's also a lot of "omg I'm so worried about obese people's HEALTH" when let's face it, they don't give a shit, they just want to hate on fat people.

I say this as a slim person btw.

It's the same as there being no threads for people who want to rack up heaps of debt. My mantra for life is spend less than you earn and eat less than you burn. It got me out of debt and out of obesity so it works for me as a basic foundation.

YABU. Being overweight isn’t healthy, and it shouldn’t be promoted.

There are too many sections as it is, everyone uses AIBU instead. There doesn’t need to be a section for everything. Start a thread, if you’d like one, and continue it on another one when it gets full.

But it’s worth remembering that controversial threads will always have a higher risk of trolls and deletions.

I’d argue that anyone that’s overweight should be making an effort to lose weight or address the underlying reasons for it.

What makes you think they haven't already tried to do those things? If only it was that simple to lose weight, keep it off and afford whatever therapy was necessary (it's very unlikely to be on the NHS).

Some people achieve all of the above, others don't. Either way, people who are overweight are adults, and don't need patronising comments about what they "should" be doing, or to "make an effort".

Hi there OP, we're going to move this over to Site Stuff, which is the topic for discussion about any proposed new sections.

I don’t think people understand the concept of body acceptance.

From the above comments it seems people think it’s ignoring health implications of being either extremely over / under weight.

When in fact it’s not that really, it’s about rejecting the standards we are exposed to from birth. It’s rejecting the notion that we must be slim, toned, nicely proportioned.

It’s about saying you know what, I accept myself for how I am. I do not need to spend my time and energy trying to reach a target weight or fitting into a certain size. I don’t have to look like society tells me I should. I don’t have to care.

It’s not promoting plus size - why are people making that automatic leap????

I am a size 12. I am quite fit and toned and always have been. But I am always on a fucking diet. I am always trying to lose weight. I am not OVER weight. I am healthy.

But I have been told my whole life that if I have an extra roll, if my jeans are a 12 and not a 10 - I need to drop half a stone. I need to tone up my slight bingo wings. I need to have perky boobs.

But I don’t want to spend anymore time worrying about my fucking body.

I just want to accept it.

Body acceptance is NOT about accepting being fat. Its insulting to imply that overly obese people have issues accepting themselves and letting go of the constant pressure to change and shrink it.

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@HappyasLaura I think there are lots of people who are happy with their bodies despite having a higher bmi

Accepting your size 12 body is healthy
Accepting your size 16/18 body is not - it’s not about conforming to societal norms it’s about giving yourself long term health issues.
I am trying to lose weight, I have been fat for over 20 years. I don’t sadly stare at Insta models and wish I looked like them, I just don’t want my bloody knees to hurt so much!!

Body acceptance can apply to healthy and fit women who have problem areas that they’ve spent their lives battling against.

A slim size 8 woman who won’t wear shorts because of her cellulite.

A slim woman with large, out of proportion boobs who spent her life raging against them because they make her feel ugly.

A woman who had acne as a teenager and now has skin covered in scars and pot marks.

All examples of people who might wish to begin the journey to “accept” themselves as they which have fuck all to do with weight / fat / obesity.

@excusethepun I don’t think anyone really promotes obesity. It’s more over weight people are saying this is me and I’m happy with it .