I know it has been requested before but AGAIN, will you please monitor what you put in your thread titles?

[oliveoil]

I avoid upsetting threads like the plague

but I can't avoid one atm as it is SCREECHING IN MY FACE

Thank you

lol desi, i had to stop reading it because i realised i would look at some people rather differently. i was rather surprised that cod was such a fan, for example.

Donnie, chinky is bang out of order, we need to report it. have you done so, what thread is it?

It takes them a while to get back to you sometimes [serial complainer...]

oh, I didn't know the threads arent actually moderated so I guess I should contact MNHQ. I assumed they were moderated but how could they be unless there are thousands of moderaters!!

Pregnancy/Placenta thread

oh seen the word. they use it to describe a takeaway

I have now reported it.

aaah, right. a lot of people doin't know that's not on, tbh. i'm always gobsmacked. someone said 'paki shop' to me the other day and i positively reeled. and then said, er, what? obv.

Yep completely agree Oliveoil - that orphan one has really really upset me (really sensitive about things like this - rightfully, I think) and I havent even clicked into it - got more than enough info from the title. Everyone is entitled to discuss whatever they want but, as someone has suggested something like "orphans - dont open if easily upset" would have been way more appropriate.

The bum one though, that didnt have vivid details on the title, in all fairness!! and it did say "dont open if squemish" and we're all adults, its sex, most of us have it so I didnt see the problem with this one but think we should have the choice to read the details of certain threads should we choose - not have it slammed in our face when it could be (very obviously) upsetting to some...

oops, have realised that i forgot to add a to 'i was surprised that cod was such a fan of bum sex'. lol.

But, 'do not open if easily upset' sort of implies that people like me (who did open the news link and read it), are not easily upset.

And yet, of course, we are.

for gods sake, do NONE of you actually ever read a newspaper or turn on the news? these stories are in your face all the time!
You open a paper, and there it is, in black and white! or front page sometimes...how do you avoid lookin at the front page in a newsagent/tesco????

erm you turn your head away?
not easy to do on a message board if you want to look for other threads though

its exactly the same as scanning your eyes across a shop and scanning down thread titles..your eyes automatically read what is in front of you..

as I said on the other thread you will be requesting fluffy tickers, no swearing and hugs all round next blueugh !!!

But WHY don't you want to know when this stuff is happening?

thanks crunchie and newlife

thought i was the only one who actually gives a toss!

mumsnet will eat itself

you all want to ban stuff all the time

i find some thread titles offensive, though not the obvious ones i believe but, i defend the right for them to be there...

it is public internet forum you will not like how or what some people say....

I don't want anything banned, who requested banning?

I made a polite request that people not be quite so brutal in their thread titles and have got a load of aggression in return

Oh please let's not have that sort of censorship. This is an adults forum isnt it?

it wasnt aggression

was merely putting forward my point

I saw the Iraq stuff on Sky and turned it off

If I see upsetting stuff in the paper, I turn the page

If I am on here and I see stuff on Active Convos it is always there in my face

I am not asking for censorship just some consideration

it is ghoulish in the extreme on here sometimes, you get a hideous story in the link and then lots of OMG, SHOCKING and posts

The trouble is what isnt offensive to you will be to someone else. It would be impossibelt o have active convos with nothin offensive to anyone.

No, you called a lot of names and made assumptions about our motives allgone

you said we were fragile and didn't give a stuff about anyone else, amongst other things

I don't want censorship on this issue and I don't know anyone else that does

but forbearance and thought for other people would be a good thing

I don't find it offensive

I haven't seen anyone else say they find it offensive

So, if, say, we are enjoying a pootle along the high street; maybe a spot of window shopping, and somebody gets themselves splatted across the road before our very eyes and we are a little sensitive to unpleasantness do we ask them to please try and keep their unpleasantness covered up - maybe be a little more discreet about their misfortune. Or... do we allow ourselves to look and then perhaps allow the compulsion to do something take over us?