Can we have clarification on venemous name calling in postings?

[milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo]

This is a dreadful thread and has got serioulsy out of hand: www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=7&threadid=328165&stamp=070523185244

And there have been others recently, I love MN but don't like the level of bitchiness and name calling that has occurred recently

Ummm.

Bullying is picking on someone who is clearly not up for the fight. This was not the case in that particular thread. I can see no other reason for her starting the thread than to be provocative. Anyone can hire a hotel room - you hardly need to ask MN. She had an agenda - I have no idea why - and certain people reacted to it angrily.

Semantics, perhaps - but it's not bullying.

And as I have said on here before bullying which is very serious imo occurs in situations that you have to be in like work or school not in optional parenting forums. If you are returning to mn after you 'feel' bullied well then you must ask yourself why.

can we not say 'freaks' [innocent]

If she WAS trolling I have a horrible feeling it may have been to specifically stir up the raw emotions of the many currently using the relationships sections to try to support each other because their partners have cheated. Perhaps SHE is "the other woman" to someone, who knows.

Is fraeks ok though?

have not read thread in question but agree 100% with carmenere

frakes

Could we have a clarification on spelling errors in thread titles?

Hugs and kisses, Milf!

Wow, this is interesting.

"People who bully are adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information about them. The method of creating conflict is provocation which bullies delight in because they know they can always coerce at least one person to respond in a manner which can then be distorted and used to further flame and inflame people. And so it goes on. The bully then sits back and gains gratification from seeing others engage in destructive behaviour towards each other."

Thats from www.bullyonline.org/related/cyber.htm (tries out Tech's new system) - it's an article on cyberbullying. Seems to refer more to the OP of the cited thread, IMO.

I agree with milf I think the name calling on that thread, which was not just one post, was deeply unpleasnt.

You can vehemently and passionately disagree with what she is doing and state that without calling some one a bitch, slag and whore.

You may feel that, but should find a better way of expressing your strong emotions without abusive names. That just reflects very badly on the poster imo.

[trying to beat down temptation to open and read thread]

Unfortunately this isn't an isolated incident, seems to be part of a growing trend. I don't mind the straight talking - I think that characterises MN. But you can be intelligent and insightful without resorting to schoolyard tactics.

Wabbit you are norty, I apologise for my spelling error Is pedant an insult?

pedant and proud

Take a hard hat and full body armour if you do Enid!

Milf I was referring that specific post being an isolated incident.

I didn't see the deleted post and I don't approve of personal attacks. But if anyone ever asked for it...

Yes edam, the ,but she asked for it...' line of defense is always effective following abuse.

Are you using 'abuse' in the sense of abusive language or as in emotional/physical/sexual abuse? If the latter, that's wholly disproportionate.

The OP on that thread chose to come onto a parenting website and boast about having an affair with a married man. She was clearly trying to stir/showing off/both. An angry response was entirely predictable.

agree with edam

i missed that thread. i just read teh first half and it is such a shame.
so many posters were getting all romantic and thinking it was a lovely way to relight teh passion in their relationship only to find out that it was actually a woman who wanted to wreck not only her own family but another as well.

i think any name calling is fairly justified given the fact this is a forum full of women who have been on the recieving end of an affair.

Hi all,
We deleted this thread late last night because it was full of personal attacks, which though, perhaps, understandable, did break our abuse policy.
We pulled the whole thread because there were so posts that needed deleting it made sense to (plus it was late and I for one was very sad after the Liverpool match).

Cheers,
MN Towers

OH MY GOD, MN is run by round ball fans

I watched this thread with horror yesterday, astonished at the vitriol heaped on poor person. The vicious name calling etc felt like playground bullying and those members should be ashamed of themselves. It degrades us all, and I'm all for free speech. With friends like this who needs enemies?

I didn't read it yesterday - what was all the fuss about??

Well, you know, calling a fellow member bitch, slapper, and a whore was the least of it.