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does anyone else go on other "inferior" sites to post about things they know would be frowned upon on here?

52 replies

nappyaddict · 09/05/2007 06:01

i introduced a friend to MN - i don't know who she is because we agreed to keep our nickames secret - but she admitted to me the other day that if she wants to ask something that might be frowned upon on MN she reverts to bounty. i felt a bit bad about this and that people should be able to ask things openly and not fear being attacked by the "MN police" so to speak.

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GColdtimer · 09/05/2007 19:49

Ahhh, I see. To be honest, I have only lurked on other sites (couldn't be bothered with all those tickers and pictures) but I have seen some heated debates on those particular topics too.

AitchTwoOh · 09/05/2007 19:55

i can't even read other sites, no kidding. it took me a while to get into the style of this place and now it's rendered all other sites incomprehensible.
the BMC looks like a laugh as well, i must say, but i can't get my head round the layout. remember when they all appeared over here to wish us well with She Who Can Now Be Named But Only In The Fluffiest Of Terms? they were a really nice bunch and v sporting of them to come and say hello i thought.

CaptainCaveman · 09/05/2007 19:58

ok, can someone list all the fluffy sites and we can compete for the most ludicrous reason for being booted off....
fanjos ffs!

ConnieDescending · 09/05/2007 20:07

I often get the sense that alot of posters are sitting back and waiting to see which way the opinion is going to go before jumping on that particular bandwagon.

So many threads start with 'ooohh, you realise this will kick off' and 'I'll get my popcorn' which just about sums up the argumentative mentality here.

If I wanted a non-offensive, non-judgmental but truthful opinion, MN would be the last place I'd post. But other sites would perhaps go the other way in being overly tactful and 'go with your instincts, mummy knows best' type of crap. So, I guess I value the importance of my friends and families opinions far more than what anyone on forum may say about the issue.

But really,....Bounty????????????????? Awful, awful awful place.

OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 20:07

Reasons to be scared of posting:

You've EVER smacked your child
God forbid you do so reguarly
You weaned before 6 months
you didn't want to breastfeed
you think formula is OK
you feed your children food containing transfatty acids
you allow an under 5 to have a playstation
you like your children to be in a routine
you did controlled crying with a child less then 1 year
you want to decorate your daughters bedroom in playbot bunny motif
you allow your pre pubescent daughter to wear a bikini top
you dress your baby boy in camouflage patterns
you buy your DD bratz for her birthday
you don't think misogyny is rife
you think religious schools are a Good thing
you are a Catholic

help me out I'm drying up here...and there must be loads more....

Obviously I do NONE of the above

OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 20:08

Hi CD!!!!

SmileysPeople here. I deregistered (over optimistically)can't leave the damin place.

OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 20:09

I'm sure you can add to my list CD

nickytwotimes · 09/05/2007 20:10

outrages, i answer yes to 7 of the above!

ther are other websites??!!

OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 20:11

But will you admit which ones???

I bet you're the one decorating with the playboy bunny!!!

SenoraPostrophe · 09/05/2007 20:13

but genuine questions about all of those things usually get a sympathetic response.

It's the posts that start "I get so angry when I see people...." that get most of the vitriol imo, and that's OK, because those posts are quite vitriolic themselves.

I think formula is OK
I weaned before 6 months
I did controlled crying
I like biscuits, sausage rolls, ribena etc

and I've never been attacked on here for posting about any of them. mumsnet isn't quite the vipers' den that people think it is.

btw I don't think I posted about giving ds2 (8 months) his first chocoalte the other week. shall I start a thread on it? we'll need a new topic: how about come and have a go if you think you're hard enough?

nickytwotimes · 09/05/2007 20:15

lol, outraged. ds would love that!

SenoraPostrophe · 09/05/2007 20:15

OK smacking threads don't usually get a sympathetic response. but surely it wouldn't get a sympathetic response on "fluffy" sites? (if it does they don't deserve that description)

ConnieDescending · 09/05/2007 20:16

ooohh! I got 8 yeses

SoapOnARope · 09/05/2007 20:16

sometimes it very much depends on who's doing the posting SP

ConnieDescending · 09/05/2007 20:18

On bounty you'd be likely to get an illiterate response in text speak.

MerryMarigold · 09/05/2007 20:18

i have a friend and we talk about mumsnet quite a bit. anyway, i was at her house the other day and she was going to show me something on 'mumsnet'. it turned out be a similar site with the words the other way around!! I was SHOCKED and APPALLED.

anyway, i enjoy most of the judgmental attitudes on here, it's what gives it a bit of bite. although some people can get a little personal, i suppose. but mostly it is the sarcasm/ wit etc. that seem to come with the judgmental attitudes that are fun to read.

OutragedfromTunbridgeWells · 09/05/2007 20:20

I've seen right old bunfights on all those topics (some quite reguarly) and many a person get upset.

Not always, obviously, but we know it happens.

weaning has been the worst for this lately IMO.

SenoraPostrophe · 09/05/2007 20:21

soaponarope - no, it depends on how it is posted. regular mnetters get just as much of a pasting as newbies if they are rude/aggressive/racist. they just know what not to say, and, possibly more importsantly, which threads to avoid.

GColdtimer · 09/05/2007 20:27

Weaning did spark a big row on Babycentre from what I remember (ages ago). I think it was BC, there were lots of glittery ticker things. But the moderator called for it to stop. I suppose that is the difference.

rabbleraiser · 09/05/2007 20:33

I get swooped on fairly regularly and I can understand why your friend would be reluctant to get stuck in. I personally applaud other people's opinions on a topic, but there are quite a few posters on the site who are overtly and unnecessarily aggressive, and mostly of the leftish persuasion, it must be said.

SoapOnARope · 09/05/2007 20:54

I disagree but I'm not criticising, human nature being as it is we all respond to those we feel we have affiliations with much more gently and vice versa.

I could give you a recent example but I'm not here to start an argument, but it does happen.

thequeenofcontradiction · 09/05/2007 20:59

whomovedmychocolate - I've just realised who you are, I used to be on the same board as you on ivillage waves

I moved here from ivillage because it was so damn boring - you couldn't say anything controversial at all, and heaven forbid you felt like using a bit of sarcasm.

I prefer MN for sure, despite the sniping that goes on - and it is just the internet, not real life, so I can ignore it if i like

rabbleraiser · 09/05/2007 21:01

What are you disagreeing with, Soap?

SoapOnARope · 09/05/2007 21:02

SP's post - although I do agree sometimes it is the wording

AitchTwoOh · 09/05/2007 22:58

right that's it with the i-village... are either of you two blackalice?

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