MN is a load of shit and all the posters are full of it

[ConnieDescending]

I came here as was fed up of the fluffiness on other parenting websites, the tickers, the over moderation of swear words and forceful opinions, the constant calling for hugs, the 'huns' etc

But you know what after spending 6 months here I'm heading back to those parenting websites where normal people frequent and will put up with the overt 'nicey nicey ness.'

Whats so great about MN? You all go on about it all the time, its freedom of speech, its being able to get seriously involved in debates, etc........well yes there is that but pretty soon the 'parping' becomes duller than the 'big (((((hun)))))'. And what the lack of moderation means we can write 'fuck off'...???

I would love to read a thread without cod being mentioned - fgs, you're like a load of playground kids desperate for attention from queen bee by mentioning her name!

Then there's the food threads where a normal conversation never occurs without 'fruitshoots are crap' or 'lentil weavers' thrown in...........so boring now as is the debate on what is crap and what is not, who gives crap and who does not and usually ends in people saying parp and fuck off. FGS, how anyone can read these threads again and again is beyond me.

MN is a place where you can't say you actually think the SMA emblem looks like a mother cuddling her child without attacks, you can't ever be on the middle ground of something.

On MN the newbies, a term I hate are generally are viewed as a lower species and treated with disdain, people whos opinions are less important or valid.

On MN those who shout loudest, post longest and are the rudest are the most regarded.

On MN, there are a group of mother judging all the other mothers as inferior to them and setting ridiculous standards.

On MN a topic such as weaning invokes 500 posts of pure drivel and arguments

Then there's the new AIBU threads which are just so fucking annoying and pointless.

So I will go back to my fluffy parenting forums where people are pleasant, normal and all are there for genuine reasons.

I will give up my freedom of saying fuck off.

MN is shit

FFF, I think you'll find quite a few of us didn't mock CD. In fact we agree with her pov to some extent.

Might have been a bit silly with other posters but that's all. Trying to lighten the mood etc.

Why can't people understand the thread was written in a moment of complete annoyance with the whole Mumsnetedess of MN.

My posting name shouldnt be the issue, I've not insulted anyone personally like many ofyou have.

Many of you have been very very prickly. For what its worth i should have phrased it nore sensitievly but the sentiment behind the post still exists for a me........and a fair few other posters for what its worth.

I think I am realising that my pet hatre is sweeping statements, if anyone catches me out - shoot me

but Mhamai if a regular, and I'm talking hunker/vvv/harpsy/cod/you get the picture, had started this thread, with the exact same title, the response would almost certainly have been totally different.

Ok it was me, I namechanged........falls off chair thinking I can, problem is that I can't remember whether I used Caps or not.

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Not really. I think that connisd has some valid points for those of you who are sensitive.

I think Mb if you are a person not in need of the serious support, kindness & love you have recieved, maybe if your only answering a question on something mundane or asking one on something equally mundane ( whatever mundane is as it is relative) then i would say that of late MN seems rather overbaring in the argumentative stakes. I think to have this thread as your example is a poor choice.

But it comes to this, i end up writing a huge post to clarify my point. Making sure i leave no stone unturned. Making sure my point has it's points covered...etc.etc.

Mb i apologised. Perhaps i should have said

"There is moderate ground. Mumsnet can be shit, I personally am sorry that it has made you feel this way. I am sorrier that apart from a minority, other mnetters havetaken this opportunity to mock and be generally unsupportive. Which is a shame and rather indicative of the Mnet 'aura' of late.

I hope that covers it. It is my view. My experience. I changed my name becuase of it.

Well I have just mocked Connie, for the simple reason, it's not school, you don't have to come legally. It's a choice.

were you mocking me UCM? Pity i hadn't noticed.

Meh

Yes we all have choices.

Eh I'm not really sure about that wanna, people seem to assume that regulars like cod, hunker etc are immune from wrath, eh no! Pehaps they a bit more ballsy in their posts but this assumption that they are beyond reproach gets tiresome after a while and in fact is an insult to the majority of MN'rs who are by association being accused of colluding. Nobody but Nobody is top dog/queen bee or whatever euphamism gets bandied about. MN is a community!!!!!

One point I will agree with... newbies do get ignored more - Oxygen gets much fewer responses than Flame, but Flame has put in the hours to get known.

But flame i don't feel that's due to disdain, you post more to people you know. When i started posting i didn't expect people to react to me the same as people they'd known for years - it takes time to get to know someone on here just like in rl.

I don't get it when newbies get huffy about being ignored, you won't if you post and join in.

Cod generally gets more attacking threads than anyone else

That's what I meant by Flame havin put the hours in

Stands to reason that people who have been postin for years get more people wondering what is going on in their life.

Some posters seem to slip in seamlessly - Boco, Wabbit and TMP I always think have been here much longer than you/they have

And on another point, hunker got a real pasting recently, and people are always challenging cod and complaining about her. I don't see anyone with any real immunity. Actually except morning paper! She started a very rude thread and no one really gave her a hard time, maybe they were scared of being badmouthed in her roundup!

FFF, I didn't know that was the reason for your name change. I'm sorry
And I'm sorry you didn't feel able to post your views on Mn under your original posting name Connie I hope you do find a chat forum where you feel more at home.

Connie, I have been abused by so many on here, it's just a laugh, honestly. I am probably not intelligent enough to think of a riposte that doesn't involve the word cunt so I wont.

I have problems with MN too. Ever since I first logged on I have found myself drawn into its web of openness and support, and now find myself logging in everyday- I cannot leave!
Really though, I am a 'newbie' and I have never felt that my opinion is being overlooked, and have not been aware of a group of exclusive Mumsnetters at all. So far it has been a friendly, welcoming place.
What is a lentil weaver & who or what is 'cod' apart from a fish?
And I love AIBU.

I know I'm just adding to it but why are people still giving connie the time of day over this?

You've been mocked UCM?

Whyever would anyone do such a thing to you???

well I've decided I'm going to stay. Just to keep name changer haters happy, I will stick with Connie.