MN is a load of shit and all the posters are full of it

[ConnieDescending]

I came here as was fed up of the fluffiness on other parenting websites, the tickers, the over moderation of swear words and forceful opinions, the constant calling for hugs, the 'huns' etc

But you know what after spending 6 months here I'm heading back to those parenting websites where normal people frequent and will put up with the overt 'nicey nicey ness.'

Whats so great about MN? You all go on about it all the time, its freedom of speech, its being able to get seriously involved in debates, etc........well yes there is that but pretty soon the 'parping' becomes duller than the 'big (((((hun)))))'. And what the lack of moderation means we can write 'fuck off'...???

I would love to read a thread without cod being mentioned - fgs, you're like a load of playground kids desperate for attention from queen bee by mentioning her name!

Then there's the food threads where a normal conversation never occurs without 'fruitshoots are crap' or 'lentil weavers' thrown in...........so boring now as is the debate on what is crap and what is not, who gives crap and who does not and usually ends in people saying parp and fuck off. FGS, how anyone can read these threads again and again is beyond me.

MN is a place where you can't say you actually think the SMA emblem looks like a mother cuddling her child without attacks, you can't ever be on the middle ground of something.

On MN the newbies, a term I hate are generally are viewed as a lower species and treated with disdain, people whos opinions are less important or valid.

On MN those who shout loudest, post longest and are the rudest are the most regarded.

On MN, there are a group of mother judging all the other mothers as inferior to them and setting ridiculous standards.

On MN a topic such as weaning invokes 500 posts of pure drivel and arguments

Then there's the new AIBU threads which are just so fucking annoying and pointless.

So I will go back to my fluffy parenting forums where people are pleasant, normal and all are there for genuine reasons.

I will give up my freedom of saying fuck off.

MN is shit

It sometimes is shit, and I like reading shit, it's kind of destressing.

Finding it boring and irritating myself. Just log on less. Easy.

Macaraohara, it's not worth reading, infact it's the shittiest thread ever.

No but Mascara there's a farkin brilliant post from someone re being pelted with teddies in rl that had me rotfl, hold on I'll see if I can find it.

Never mind fluffy teddies ...I think we need one of these.

Ah shit there's too much shit, I can't be arsed!

Mhamai - did you take my piss?

There's 4 free pregnancy tests on another post.....

Can't say that's shite - that's a bargain!

That's old school.... we need one of these

It's only a website (albeit a useful and interesting one). Why should it cause such strong emotions. I agree with some of the OP's thoughts, but how can cyberspace upset you?!
Take it for what it is.

I'm sorry you feel that way Connie. for what it's worth, i hope you find a forum where you can be happy, and where people en masse (a la this thread) don't sweep like vultures for their piece of meat.

Smileyspeople has it right in her post of 17.46 ( ish) and her later posts. There is moderate ground. Mumsnet can be shit, I personally am sorry that it has made you feel this way. I am sorrier that apart from SP & myself, other mnetters havetaken this opportunity to mock and be generally unsupportive. Which is a shame and rather indicative of the Mnet 'aura' of late.

I didn't bloody mock her!

FFF
I tend to find myself fresh out of sympathy when I have been labelled as "full of it"

I totally agree FFF.

I just want an honest name

oh la la fff -

Ah come on now FFF, you can hardly expect the op to be met with welcome arms with a thread title like that?

NO MB i apologise, you didn't. Many apologies.

Why not Mhamai?

Oh give me strenght, any common sense would tell you that you are least likely to have support from people by attacking them.

difficult to think positive about someone who says we are ALL full of shit

and who generalises 'On MN the newbies, a term I hate are generally are viewed as a lower species and treated with disdain, people whos opinions are less important or valid.'

she needs to pop off to the fluff and come back when she is feeling stronger and nicer

FFF, isn't that part of the issue though?

People have a perception that all of MN gets up in arms etc etc. And is argumantative.

When in fact far more people are supportive that you would think.

Easier to remember the punch ups than the warmth and support.

And given that she did say we were all full of shit, it was somewhat unrealistic for her to expect a lovey dovey response

Haven?t read whole thread but, I think she makes some valid points. There is definitely a group of users who are more recognized/whose posts are likely to be responded to by more people, and I don?t think anyone can doubt that there is definitely a very judgemental culture on here and I think people are far more likely to speak their mind than in rl, and because that?s the way it?s always been done, those who don?t like it are expected not to question it.

But I do think that it?s possible to avoid all that, more so than in rl even because you can close a thread title easier than you could walk out on a conversation iyswim. And I think that once you?ve read one weening /breast ve bottle/fruit shoot thread you know which threads push buttons and which threads you need to avoid if you don?t like confrontation. I think it is possible to come on here and not be jumped on ? I don?t think I?ve been jumped on yet.

I do wonder though what the response would have been if the op had been a very regular poster, and tbh I do think that people would be more inclined to ask what had upset them/or have taken the piss a bit more if it had been cod for instance.

Mark my words had the op's op read, "MN has been really shit for me lately and some of the topics, then imho, the op would have garnered a lot more support as opposed to the thread title she chose, which was bound to cause a negative reaction and her then fulfilling prohecy, if you want my honest oppinion the op started this thread knowing full well the response it would get and as someone pointed out, neeedless time has been spent on this amateur flouncer than need be as opposed to God knows how many genuine posters need support.