Request for sticky on Pregnancy board

[goodnightdarthvader1]

There have been a few threads popping up for the last few weeks mentioning this issue, so thought I'd ask MNHQ about it.

On the Pregnancy board there has been a higher-than-average influx of "Am I Pregnant?" threads. We can't tell posters if they're pregnant or not - only a test can do that - and symptom-spotting is a sketchy science at best.

Even if it is politely pointed out to posters that we can't tell them, only a test can, they get stroppy and threaten to flounce off to The Site That Cannot Be Named as they are more supportive over there. (I will admit, the politeness level is diminishing as the board is getting inundated with these threads of late.)

A lot of posters (myself included) feel the board is mostly for posters who are confirmed pregnant to discuss symptoms, emotions, baby planning, etc. A redirection suggestion to the Conception board also usually results in an angry comeback. All in all it's putting a bit of a sour taste on the board.

My suggestion is a sticky at the top of the Pregnancy board, eg "If you think you're pregnant, read this" or something along those lines, directing them to Conception. It's my hope that this may reduce some of the posts we get along this line.

And if other posters would like to chip in and tell me I can't control where other people post, I need to get over it, I have no life, why am I worrying about this, yadda yadda, please save your breath. I'm on mat leave, I have a lot of time on my hands, but rest assured all my chores are done in between posting on MN, so don't you worry yourselves

"They post in pregnancy as they most likely want to talk to pregnant women."

Since when did you have to be pregnant in order to post in pregnancy?

As long as you're posting about an actual pregnancy (yours, the OPs, pregnancy issues in general) then anyone can.

It's not a smug, pregnant club. It's the place for anyone who wants to talk about pregnancies.

Just as conception is the place for those who are TTC or are wondering if they might be pregnancy. You don't need to be doing either of those things right now to still be of use to posters in those circumstances.

Thanks SockBalls...

Not that I was especially advertising my loss here, more to put another side over. I'm so much better informed, almost exclusively thanks to the intelligent, articulate, compassionate people who post on MN.

Conception, miscarriage, pregnancy, childbirth all very closely linked- more so than I had realised before discovering MN.

Eternally grateful for finding you all and for the help you'll all be in future.

Just saying

I agree, all these pee stick dodgers are taking the attention away from my bum rash thread! Where are you, boilybot comrades? Where??

Precisely.
Hence my point on the 'thread police' issue.
Quite honestly how anyone can feel they have a right to exclude someone else because of their own made up little rules just baffles me. It's unkind and unnecessary.

I've been pregnant four times but as I'm not right now my experience isn't valuable I suppose?

Still, warming up for the school playground mum clique in a few years I expect.

To be fair I don't think anyone was saying that non pregnant women shouldn't post on the pregnancy board, just that they were likely to get better help on the conception board where everyone is excitedly symptom spotting and POAS-ing etc.

The 'Am I Pregnant?' Threads wind me up more because they're full of utter misinformation to be honest which I don't think is helpful.

I have had a MC and found the support on MN wonderful. I don't think the Am I Pregnant threads fall under the same category.

My two cents, anyway.

Well bloody hell but the OP of this thread accused people of "wading in" with their opinions after having just had a quick look in Pregnancy at some Am I Pregnant threads (not on this thread, the latest AIP one) so to be fair I've had a much more thorough look in that forum.

ANd the same few names crop up on each new AIP thread to tell the OP to post elsewhere. Often it's just that - no nastiness. No welcome either, but not horrible. BUT there's plenty of horrible comments too. Really taking the piss and just unkind.

THAT'S a bigger issue than a few threads posted in the "wrong" section.

How is conception actually the place for wondering if you're pregnant. Conception is for people trying to conceive and the process of trying to conceive. At the time when you're wondering if you're pregnant you're not trying to conceive, you're wondering if you have an implanted blastocyst. Seems more appropriate on pregnancy therefore.

wow, who appointed the op the topic police?

Pregnancy is EXACTLY the correct board for asking 'am i pregnant' type posts, because they're trying to correlate their symptoms to the state of BEING pregnant.

This is a support board, it is NOT the place to tell people not to post on a particular topic because it ANNOYS you.

Hide the thread, don't click on it, report it to MNHQ and ask if it should be moved. Dont piss all over it.