Which choices do you wish to be able to make about the maternity care you receive?
I had the choice of local hospital, although no one mentioned anything about birthing centres etc at the start of my care. I was low risk initially, so it should have been an option, but it wasn't discussed.
I wasn't given much information during actual labour about how my labour was progressing - my son was back to back, and despite me saying I thought something was wrong from early on, and them not being able to keep a trace on him, they didn't actually explain what was going on until they insisted I was put on the syntocin drip. I'd asked to be kept informed all along, and according to my notes they'd known for a good while.
I would also have liked a more experienced Midwife - I had a recently qualified midwife for most of my labour, and it wasn't until she was relieved at the end of the shift and the more experienced midwife took over that I was told there was a problem and we needed to get things sorted asap (a dr was called and I was prepped immediately for a c-section, but fortunately forceps worked) I dread to think what might have happened if she'd been working later. I've nothing against newly trained medical staff - I know they have to learn, but when a problem arose she didn't do anything about it - I know now that perhaps I could have asked for someone else, but again this isn't something that is discussed.
What are the key barriers preventing women from making the choices that they wish to?
A lack of information - we don't know what we can and can't say no to, and when we're in a vulnerable position anyway it can be difficult to get across what we want. There needs to be more transparency.
I also got the impression I was "taking up their time" by having a long labour (hence the syntocin). Despite me making it abundantly clear from the offset that I struggle with anxiety, no one listened, which made me feel less like I could talk to anyone. It is made obvious from the start that the hospitals are more concerned with the baby than the mother, which puts mother in an awful position. I was made to feel like a bad mother before I left the labour ward - what a great way to start family life!