My Aug born son struggled with starting nursery at 3yrs 1 week. He stopped sleeping and eating. His whole world became about his intense anxiety about going to nursery and we had to remove him in the end. He restarted nursery at 4yr 1 week and after some anxiety at the beginning, he is now thriving. I believe this is because at just 4 years old he was ready for NURSERY (not school). Staff regularly comment that he's a different child this year.
My son was expected to start in reception at 4 and the head teacher of the school, which the nursery is part of, wanted to move him up into his 'correct' year group after one term of nursery. This would have been a disaster for my son.
We are very fortunate though because some weeks after meeting with the head teacher to discuss the situation, he contacted us to say he had changed his mind and would now support our application to the Local Education Authority for our son to start Reception at 5yrs 1 week (Compulsory School Age), rather than at 4yrs 1 week as would normally be expected.
I say we are fortunate because without the head teacher's support I'm not sure our application would have been successful. We had no statement, no 'professional' evidence to support our request, just a list of circumstances and experience which told us, as parents, that our son was not emotionally ready to start school at only just 4.
This is the very long way around to saying that parents of summer born children should be able to choose when their child starts reception. They should not be forced to send their children to school a year early. We have been very fortunate with our local head teacher but many others are not so lucky, to the detriment of their 4 year old sons and daughters who then must endure school, rather than enjoy it.
The professionals currently involved in these decisions may be superb at their jobs but they do not know our children. We do not make these decisions lightly. Trust parents to make this decision themselves and we will no longer have a situation where there are inconsistencies and unfairness, not just in different areas of the country, but between neighbouring schools as well.