Deleted 'MIL and new baby' thread - incorrect deletion message!

[StayingSamVimesGirl]

I posted on this just before it went 'poof'. The OP had just made a very angry comment about another poster's comment - and said that she was going to ask for the whole thread to be deleted because of this one, unpleasant post.

Now I see that MNHQ say it was deleted to protect her privacy! IMO, this is not true. The OP requested the deletion because of a nasty post - she had posted nothing on the thread that gave away her identity or location - so her privacy was not under threat!

If MNHQ are going to delete whole threads, because a poster is cross or upset, I would just like it if they were honest about it. Though I cannot see why they deleted the thread at all - the nasty comment (and one other agreeing with it) were not nice, and if I were the OP, I would have been pissed off too - but I have seen way nastier comments - and way more upset OPs too - on threads that have been allowed to stand.

Plus, I didn't think it was site policy to delete threads just because the OP got an answer they didn't like?

I don't know which thread you're referring to, but this whole "deleted to protect the poster's privacy" has become more common recently even when there was nothing in the thread that would jeopardise the OP's privacy.

Yes, it appears that you can now pull threads at will. Usually because you didn't get the reaction you wanted
A new development that really isn't a good idea.

Maybe MNHQ need a new deletion message - 'Deleted because the OP had a hissy fit'!!

oh yeah, mn always do that these days. I think it's just for a quiet life

Easiest thing in the world to say 'delete my thread, I'm worried it identifies me' if things aren't going your way.

Afternoon all,

We really try not to delete whole threads unless there's a solid reason - either they give away info that might lead to the OP, or a third party, being identified in RL, or they break our guidelines.

In the case of this thread, the OP had got in touch overnight (so, way before the negative comment had appeared) to say she was concerned she'd been outed. And to be fair, she had given away a lot of identifying details. At that stage, the thread was still wholly supportive, so we certainly didn't feel she wanted it zapped because it hadn't gone her way.

In the circumstances we agreed to delete it. It's just rather unfortunate that her last post implied she was flouncing...

We do know how annoying it is when a thread suddenly disappears, though, and really do try to push back on any deletion requests.

Was this the thread where the MIL was looking after the baby while OP reluctantly went on holiday with her DH? And feeding the baby water all the time?
What happened? How did it go wrong?