Do you think it's time to start a sexuality shaming topic?

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For all those who want us to shut up and not to help and laugh with others about sex?

Maybe we could keep the censorious ness and the comments of "what is wrong with people?"

"This is pathetic"

"Why do you need/want to talk about this?"

I've seen no "twats", either metaphorical, or literal, on the sex threads, just coherent, strong argument in favour of discussion and some great humour at times.

I notice that the anti-sex brigade didn't answer some of the rebuttals and counter questions to their protests on the sex threads. Perhaps they'd care to elaborate on a special "Sexuality shaming" thread? Then they can get together some really good insults going and hopefully make the "sex positive" posters among us shut up and creep back into the woodwork.

Has it got legs, do you think?

Would that be a balaclava in the gimp mask stylee?

You're all making me laugh and drawing me back to this thread when I should getting on with one of my more innocent hobbies of gardening.

I'm going to that meet up now Sparkling, I'll report back and I'll even go without NCing.

Cool! Nobody'll recognise you in that

Hi. Just a note to let you know why we've withdrawn MrsM's post [14:09:10]. Basically, we felt it wasn't in the spirit of the site to collate information from various threads about an individual and post it altogether. It's not something we'd like to encourage. That said, we thought it did prove that you can't be too careful what you share online.

BTW, nice balaclava, Sparkling

Sexy Sparkling

Oh no. I have killed the thread with my woolly gimp mask.

I'll be back when I've had some of my very good, red wine Sparkling.

Thinking about it some more, perhaps the reason this has all got so heated is that it comes down to what sort of site people want mumsnet to be, and now that it has got so big and diverse, people inevitably want different things. There's no question that the tone has changed over the last year or two, and it's hard to keep everyone happy.

Newer members feel pissed off with more longstanding posters "telling them off", and get angry that they are being told what they should and shouldn't post. I get that. But it really isn't about "censorship": it's more that people who have been here for many years feel they are losing a place they've been really attached to, and are a bit sad about it. It's not personal, and it's not about "shaming" anyone. It's a more of a frustration with the general direction the site has moved in as it's become more mainstream.

We have always talked about sex, whether that meant asking for frank advice or joking about it. But it was more like knocking back a few gin martinis with Dorothy Parker and Katharine Hepburn than necking vodka and cokes with the cast of Loose Women and throwing up in the taxi afterwards...

I'm not sure there's a solution, to be honest.

I think that's a good point BOF. I have been here 2 1/2 years and the place is different to then even. Although there are posters who like to tell me otherwise and say it's the same as ever......

I'm not sure but maybe if I was a newbie today I may well have a look and think 'well no, that's not really for me'. Lots of threads about stuff I have no interest in or simply don't want to talk about.

YY to sometimes thinking it's like a drunken night out with Carol Mcgiffen and Denzie Welch when I would rather be having coffee with Steph off BBC Breakfast.

Very well put BOF.

I've been on here for about five years. In all that time there's always been laments about the site changing for the worst and I've always ignored them.

However.

Having had a good laugh on a celeb crush thread that fizzled out a while ago, I thought I'd join in on one that took my fancy. Unfortunately it turned out to be full of posts that could have cone straight from Viz. Innuendo is one thing, multiple posts, all trying to outdo each other, talking about jizz is another.

So I would agree that the tone of the site has changed and not for the better, either.

Bloody hell, kill me now if you are comparing me to Loose Women and the like. I don't even "do" pop culture. That's the worst defamation on my character so far.

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I always think of myself as "newbie", yet I've been here nearly five years.

Same, I've been here five years too.

Loose Women comparison though kill me.

"BOF", if "you were on yet another sex thread", "disgusting" and "grotesque obsession with sexual exhibitionism" is not sexuality shaming, I don't know what is.
I'm not really sure that I'm that explicit of late. The scathing tone is awful, but I decided to put myself in the firing line in order to debate this. We've had some great, coherent arguments on this thread, after the hurtful start, where I had to have a word with myself and put my big girls pants on. It's still worth it for me and I hope folk can see that my intention is not to upset folk although some don't seem to mind upsetting me.

You are as always, still lovely though, and I think you can figure out who I am through the Ncs?

I thought you were fairly new, Tequila.

I think 5 years is fairly new by some people's "standards"

No usual I joined when I was about 18, 22 now going on 23. I've had a couple of different names since then because of forgotten log ins and I had a hiatus. I came out of lurkage recently

off topic but where is AnyFucker?

You can be Janet Street Porter if you want Hot or that cruiseship one.

Janet would be okay, she's a bit of a tartar like me, but Denise! I'm Northern too and sooo different. I am glad to say, I don't even know who the cruise ship one is. Is she dirty?

I recognise the name, Coconutty, but I'm not sure how this thread would appeal? This is more of a debate than "gory details", is it not?

Nurseyworsey had a thread where she exposed herself as not being a real nurse. Haven't seen her since

I've been here 3 years now, sometimes it feels like forever

There seems to be loads of people missing.

MrsDevere is she still around?