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OK MN I'm calling you on this one

477 replies

EuniceDumbsdown · 01/04/2013 16:54

Regular troll name changer starts nasty thread on Style & Beauty. You get masses of reports - even one from me! But you are leaving it because

"the OP is a long time Mumsnetter, who from time to time writes mischievous thread like this one.

She's a good egg though, and we know she doesn't mean any harm. With this in mind, we're going to leave the thread as it is"

So she deliberately starts a goading thread about fat people (again) but that's okay because she's deemed harmless not hurtful.

And I'm not fat so not taking it personally just asking for MNHQ to be consistent.

OP posts:
Hullygully · 02/04/2013 19:25

yes, but if we all have a break...

RandallPinkFloyd · 02/04/2013 19:26

I'm the same lindt, I'm very tempted to just switch if at the moment.

The sad arse fact though is that half the time it's the only adult conversation I have in a day. MN is my replacement for having someone to talk to whilst I watch TV in the evening.

I'm genuinely sad about how things have gone on here lately but I feel like flouncing would be cutting my nose off to spite my face iyswim?

It's a quandary and no mistake [loserface]

MmeLindor · 02/04/2013 19:27

Maybe I just have to stick to quiche threads, but I don't post enough at the moment to keep up.

I don't like the idea of going, cause it makes it feel like 'they' have won. And I can't even define who 'they' are.

Hulls
Am quite embarrassed that Larry has found me out. I am an emotional abuser. I admit it. My poor gaslighted DH. Blush

Pagwatch · 02/04/2013 19:37

I am not sure what has bothered me the most tbh, the 'oh what spite from a regular I used to respect' shite or that the mere mention of being knackered and getting respite is a terribly rude, insulting and shameful thing 'on world autism awareness day'

IamtheZombie · 02/04/2013 19:42

Zombie is also getting heartily fed up. But, right now, she needs the support on here. She just wishes she could still escape into full Zombie mode and have a good lark around to distract herself but that's just not possible at the moment.

RandallPinkFloyd · 02/04/2013 19:43

Blimey pag glad I've managed to avoid that one.

Twatter's benefits myth busting thread has been completely derailed by a bus load of complete tossers too.

What happened to just shooting the breeze? I've never been part of any quiches at all, I just used to happily bumble around Active Convos posting here and there as the mood took me. I really think about where and what I'm posting now and try to stick to posters I know just in case. That's not how it should be.

MmeLindor · 02/04/2013 19:47

Yes, that was quite depressing Pag. I don't see what is so bad in suggesting that a poster may need a bit of a hand.

I was amused at first tbh, by suggestion that I was interrogating and gaslighting, but am actually quite upset about it now. And the thought that I would be seen to be a bully.

Zombie
We need a MNlite.

FloatyBeatie · 02/04/2013 19:48

I'm quite relieved that MN is now winding down to a level of crapness that will finally make it possible to abandon the place altogether. For years now it's only been memories and incurable work-procrastination that has kept me coming back, and I'll be quite pleased to be driven away. The nicely MN-habit-breaking thing about this thread is that both sides of the fence have been so silly. The choice seems to be between defending to the death the right to post unfunny threads about fat arms and thinking that unfunny threads about fat arms are a crime against humanity.

Seeing people care about either side so passionately makes it seem embarrassing (even more than usually so) to have anything to do with the site.

Pagwatch · 02/04/2013 19:52

I might have to take a break tbh. I want to be able to laugh at it but I am quite upset too really.

RandallPinkFloyd · 02/04/2013 19:56

Oh don't let it upset you Pag especially not when you're on your bloody marvellous holiday.

redlac · 02/04/2013 19:56

Nooooo you can't all take MN breaks - the place will implode into a heap of shite You're not all planning a mouldie like breakaway are you?? Hmm

Hullygully · 02/04/2013 20:00

Paggy, I forbid upsetness. That thread was INSANIO, bullies gaslighting...

there are a small group of posters who like to club baby seals to death and when they turn up things get nasty. which makes it odder still that people like you are dubbed the bad guy.

They'll have enough rope soon enough.

usualsuspect · 02/04/2013 20:04

I was just putting my point of view across on that thread. I didn't mean to upset anyone.

But it seems impossible to give your opinion on here just lately, without pissing someone off.

Maryz · 02/04/2013 20:10

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AnyFucker · 02/04/2013 20:13

Bloody hell, if you sensible lot piss off, the lunatics really will take over the asylum

And who will stand up to larry ? It's a worry. < chews fingers >

Maryz · 02/04/2013 20:17

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MmeLindor · 02/04/2013 20:20

I won't flounce, cause I would not be able to stay away.

Might avoid some threads though.

I don't like the thought of moderating my posting because I don't want to be upset by others.

It is NOT bullying to have a different opinion. Usual and I didn't agree on that thread, but she didn't call me a bully, and I didn't call her names.

If we can't offer an alternative opinion to the one being voiced by others (and the one the OP wants to hear) then what is the point of posting on a thread at all?

GetOeuf · 02/04/2013 20:22

I too feel likerandall that it is starting to feel as if you should stick to posters you 'know', but that is such a shit way of mumsnet ting. I don't want to be an insular boring twat. But every single thread at the moment has someone coming on and sneering, which is just a bit shite tbh. If I wanted this kind of aggro I would just telephone my mother.

IamtheZombie · 02/04/2013 20:23

Mmmm, fresh fingers...

Pagwatch · 02/04/2013 20:25

God no, I don't have any problem at all with different views. I am not upset ever about people disagreeing with me. Ever.

It is the idea that asking - not deciding but asking - if the op had stuff going on that might cause her to act so out of character was somehow an attack on her and general mean/spiteiness.
And that suggesting the op might be tired and benefit from respite was hugely insulting

I know people who use respite . They are not pathetic arses who are not coping. It is not shameful. It is not weakness.
They are sensible loving parents who recognise the benefit of a break.
I find it hugely upsetting. And at exactly the same time I know I shouldn't.

Pagwatch · 02/04/2013 20:26

Gah..

HoneyDragon · 02/04/2013 20:27

Can I just say that the use of the word regular is just to be sneery. There are a gazillion regulars on here but they NC.

What they mean by regular is a poster who keeps the same name. So cause they recognise the name it's ok to have a pop or drag some imagined slight across threads. It's just another pathetic, spiteful way to have a go at someone.

Do not let it upset you. Not when there are houses on stilt, blue cocktails, is arches and fizzy stuff still in the world.

HoneyDragon · 02/04/2013 20:27

Is arches - oligarchs

AnyFucker · 02/04/2013 20:27

You feel how you feel, Pag. Today of all days, huh.

BOEUF · 02/04/2013 20:27

I will have a small winehahaha for you, Paggy, and cry a bit Sad

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