what's this PO stuff all about? I have just read some really vile stuff on here....

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Women presumably who don't have a certain sense of humour, or don't agree with certain (long standing) posters being described as beige admin workers who nag their ugly husbands, who were friendless at school, wear cheap clothes, have no fun in their sad little joyless lives etc etc Literally paragraphs and paragraphs of nastiness.

This is some of the most vile and misogynistic stuff I have ever read on MN from other women. These kind of comments normally come from trolls and MRA invasions. Is this really what MN has become? Does everyone think that this sort of shit should stand? What happened to the fucking sisterhood?

I am astounded to be quite honest.

Again with the 'it's just a joke' - No it isn't. Why isn't it? Because some women drive a picasso. Some women wait for an invite from a friend. Some women are insecure about themselves because they've never had the encouragement and support that the fortunate amongst us have had. Some women are more resiliant than others and tbh we all tread on toes sometimes and we don't mean to and you say sorry and move on. To attack people on purpose for a lack of confidence, a lack of resilance is just shitty behaviour and there;s nothing funny about it. If anything you write is being read like that - and this is then it's time to rethink and say sorry, not line up to decelare how amusing you were.

Well she didn't sneer at the Waitrose shopper did she? She sneered at those in admin jobs and cheap clothes.

OP, WTF are you on about?

Do you think Women With Glitter used to be Indigo Children?

Women With Glitter

Women with Glitter makes me think of those darn Lush bath bombs.

If it's humour then I'm clearly missing the punch line. Where I'm from and the people I'm friends with it's simply not on to attack people who are not one's idea of perfect.

It is not funny whichever context one wishes to take it in.

I'm trying to avoid being dragged into a personal slanging match. I am interested in the behaviour of posters just from an observational pov of human behaviour ..not in individuals.

The poster I mentioned from another forum was a typical troll ...but not a troll because she was a regular and didn't name change. It eventually drove regulars nuts and people drifted to another forum. Then she posted thread after thread asking where everyone had gone? And suggesting it was because the forum had got boring. Big sigh from the rest of us who'd left because it was her!! Most joined one of 3 other forums but stayed friends on FB.

I think there is room for all and I can ignore. I wouldn't have posted or reported that thread personally. Dislike the nasty tone of the posts copied here

So you read the bits where people said "hey, I earn less than that/drive that car/ shop in that shop"?

I drive a shit old car, live in a tiny house, shop in Lidl and have an admin job. I still found it funny because she was making a joke. It wasn't serious.

I joked about the same people going to the seaside on a day out and taking a picnic. It doesn't mean I think everyone who takes a picnic to the seaside is a twat.

Like I said, if you don't find it funny that's life. We can't all laugh at the same things and I genuinely apologise if anyone has read the whole thing and is still upset by it, but this thread is intentionally nasty, the other one wasn't.

It was also open to anyone who fancied posting on it, as is every thread on here. Anyone could, and still can, join in at any time in whatever way they wish.

And then went on to post that in her time she has had some crap jobs and cheap clothes herself, but managed not to be a humourless drudge about it.

If you want to have a go at someone at least read the actual words they wrote, in the context they were written, instead of selectively quoting and attacking something they didn't say or do.

FFS laqueen was in no way having a go at everyone who shops in morrisons and drives a Picasso. And if you think doing so makes you in some way deprived get a fucking grip. You need one. And are entirely proving her point.

If you are offended don't read it.

OP, you seem to have taken a lot of that thread out of context. Yes those terms were used, but not as you describe.
They are having a laugh, not taking life too seriously. You should try it sometime.

I think we should start a new campaign, Let PO, be PO

Chub, but the posts weren't picking on people for being humourless per Se, they were an offensive description of what a humourless woman would look like. In detail. I Am sure there are plenty of humourless women, but the rest is just nasty. It is like a daily fail article. And women ARE allowed to be humourless without being slagged off like that.

Now she's on thread 2 saying the Po are married to men that like to Tcut the car, go to the garden centre or fix the guttering rather than go on a stag week end.

Well, that's my DH, but he is 48 and all his mates are married or not planning on getting married. Not only that, how many stag weekends does one attend per year?

I don't think it is a joke TBH. It isn't funny IMO.

I was on that thread, I joined because of Hully's spoon thread (which I had also contributed to) having been reported by someone who didn't understand that the entire spoon thread was a shaggy dog story, a spoof, a waffle.
So the thread was about people restricting other's wish to mess about on a designated thread, complaining because they thought it was real. Which shows a lack of judgement and perspective in the case of the spoons thread.
I'm a teacher who often wears Per Una, a feminist and once took the nickname 'ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin' because of all the complaints I made about disablist language.
Those posts were not attacking anyone directly, they weren't in relationships of MH or a sensitive area where the vulnerable might feel attacked. They were satirical and pointed, but comedy often is.
It's not putting me off posting.

I can understand that it was supposed to be banter-y and initially reacted to the description of a PO out of context because so many of the comments described me.

Touched a raw nerve that I didn't know was there. Still upsetting though, I know it wasn't aimed at a particular person, just wish I didn't feel so inadequate. My problem though, no one else's.

What solidgoldbrass said.

I like loads of posters on that thread and nothing I've read on it offended me, including Laq's post.

But what I really don't get is all the fuss over a few posters receiving an email from HQ asking them to calm it down.

So what? No-one lost a nipple and no puppies or kittens were harmed in the process. There were no deletions, no-one was suspended and no-one was banned...just simply asked to 'calm it down' in a private email when 3 spoof threads sprang up, unless I've totally missed something?

It wasn't worthy of one thread imo, let alone 2 and now this spin-off.

'They are having a laugh, not taking life too seriously' - but not talking about their own lives are they? The subject of the joke is other women's lives, held in contempt because of a perceived lack of humour. If having a laugh about their own lives nobody would turn a hair.

Chubfuddler, why are having a pop at people who shop in Morrison's? It serves the purpose of keeping the riff raff out of M&S. No one who could afford a real car would drive a Picasso, that's no reason to poke fun at them.