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what's this PO stuff all about? I have just read some really vile stuff on here....

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Portofino · 29/03/2013 19:56

Women presumably who don't have a certain sense of humour, or don't agree with certain (long standing) posters being described as beige admin workers who nag their ugly husbands, who were friendless at school, wear cheap clothes, have no fun in their sad little joyless lives etc etc Literally paragraphs and paragraphs of nastiness.

This is some of the most vile and misogynistic stuff I have ever read on MN from other women. These kind of comments normally come from trolls and MRA invasions. Is this really what MN has become? Does everyone think that this sort of shit should stand? What happened to the fucking sisterhood?

I am astounded to be quite honest.

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Portofino · 29/03/2013 23:30

Assertive is good Rhonda jean. I wish I had not wasted half my life before I found it. Grin

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ZZZenEggain · 29/03/2013 23:30

it is 40 odd pages of mostly chat

rhondajean · 29/03/2013 23:36

Cat, some people are over sensitive, but that doesn't change the fact that they are upset does it? And I think it's fine to point out perhaps they are overreacting but a touch of compassion would do no harm, there seem to be a lot of people lacking self awareness at times.

Porto, assertive is indeed good. Im not a believer in the "sisterhood", but it would be nice to think we could support each other here.

Personal view - those that always go on about the perfection of their lives do so because they are scared to look at the cracks. But that's just how I take those type of posts.

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Portofino · 29/03/2013 23:36

Oh yes, the glitter, (hollow laugh) some people have NO idea.

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AmberLeaf · 29/03/2013 23:36

That does make sense Catmint.

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Portofino · 29/03/2013 23:40

I agree catmint, someone else, in their superior wisdom gets to decide whether you Should be offended or not.o

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FrankWippery · 29/03/2013 23:42

Yes Catmint that is exactly it.

TheEasterBunnyVsTheKids · 29/03/2013 23:44

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MissAnnersley · 29/03/2013 23:46

I don't think that's how karma works TBH.

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Portofino · 29/03/2013 23:50

Catmint, you re totally entitled to your opinion. That can be as over sensitive as you like. My issue here is that a group of posters slagged off anyone who did not find their humour funny as PO. They didnt just say ho hum we can't all agree, they launched into a full on attack.

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FrankWippery · 29/03/2013 23:51

Woah. Grudge much?

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Portofino · 29/03/2013 23:53

I don't believe in karma Easterbunny. And what I said on lou's threads was that the followers were giving shit advice. Shoot me now.

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Hullygully · 29/03/2013 23:55

group?

I don't think so

What did Stephen Fry say about being offended?

That was very apropros

paintyourbox · 29/03/2013 23:56
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Portofino · 29/03/2013 23:57

Oh, dear Hully, you must be bemused....

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EchoBitch · 30/03/2013 00:00

I don't believe in karma either.

If there really was karma then none of the world's real baddies would be rich and powerful.

Robert Mugabe is still pottering along in his mansion quite happily i imagine.

McBalls · 30/03/2013 00:00

TheEasterBunny - nothing to do with karma, for heavens sake!

As it happens I really didn't like porto's stance on those threads and posted to that effect at the time, but this thread is entirely separate and deserves to be taken on its own merit. Disagree with the op by all means but make it about this thread.

One of the heartening things about bumbling around on MN is the seeing the willingness of posters to disagree on one topic yet start on a fresh page next time they cross paths. Otherwise it just becomes a seething mess of old wrangles. Plenty of that too, mind... But it's rather less heartening Hmm

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Portofino · 30/03/2013 00:05

Indeed mcballs. Argue with my point of view rather than slag me off me off because I don't meet some criteria or other. I will never shy from that.

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Catmint · 30/03/2013 00:11

Someone recently told me that I don't 'get' MN, because it is all about coming on and having a good argue for fun. But actually MN is a different thing for different people, and/ or serves different purposes depending what mood you are in. So, I do completely 'get' MY version of MN. But I find I have to be emotionally agile and resilient going between threads wildly different in content and tone. This is just reading them, let alone posting.

If it starts to get to me I just pretend I am the only real person and all the rest is a brilliantly detailed online soap. Not to trivialise the many real and serious issues here, just as a way of dealing with the sheer volume and diversity of stuff.

Really waffling now, must sleep!

cestlesautres · 30/03/2013 00:15

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HandbagCrab · 30/03/2013 00:16

The Internet is full of people who are right about everything and is also full of people who put other people down to make themselves feel better about themselves. I get disheartened that is what people are really like once you wash away real life social niceties.

I'm not a 'name' so I know I don't glitter. But to be fair, this is an anonymous internet forum not x factor, so it probably won't harm my future prospects. At least I won't get mobbed in Morrisons [busmile]

Twentytotwo · 30/03/2013 00:18

Who was it that used a Lush ballistic in the bath and then went and had a smear test? They were sparkly.

KansasCityOctopus · 30/03/2013 00:20

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piprabbit · 30/03/2013 00:22

The nearest I got was having a weekly Twinkle - but that just proves I'm a 1970s throwback.

Not a hint of glitter since.

pollypandemonium · 30/03/2013 00:23

There are quite a few bullies on Mumsnet and I find it a terrible shame. They hide behind their wit and by knowing the rules and how far they can push them. It's no different to a school playground for some women. I think it's high time the staff waded in to remind these people that they should behave like responsible adults.