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Sorry, sorry, sorry. HIDE POSTER button again.

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IamtheZombie · 03/01/2013 17:21

Zombie is old. Zombie is grumpy. She freely admits to those.

Zombie also has one tit left and there are a few posters who are really, really getting on it.

It's getting to the point that she's about ready to take an extended MN holiday just for the sake of her blood pressure and her sanity.

Please, please may we have a hide poster button?

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Naoko · 03/01/2013 23:47

Why on earth would using a greasemonkey script that allows you to not see people who annoy you be something HQ would be 'all over'? I use browser plugins that stop me seeing adds, and that hide the facebook like button. This is exactly the same thing. Doesn't change anyone else's MN experience.

There's no prize for being able to ignore people being dickheads. It doesn't make you a bad person if you're not able to let it all slide off you. If it makes people more comfortable on MN, and avoids them being upset, I'm all for it - why would I, or anyone, want Zombie, for example, to continue being upset by people when she could hide them, be happy on MN, and we'd never know the difference?

BeerTricksPotter · 03/01/2013 23:48

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Valpollicella · 03/01/2013 23:53

No my darl. Am Not SHREDDING Grin Am Shedding Grin

Found the post anyway. Wasnt Justine but Helen....

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Thu 04-Oct-12 14:27:55

Your post on this thread are ridiculous = fine. not deletable.

"You sound smug to me" = not so fine. "Your posts/argument sounds smug" is fine, depending on the context of course.

ie you can attack the opinion but not the poster/person.

^^ THAT

Ie. Your post makes you sound like a twat. MNHQSANCTIONED

Go nuts people Grin

TheBOF · 03/01/2013 23:55

I've started a thread like this before, and put forward what I thought were really good arguments for it, which weren't responded to. I might search and c&p...

BoysAreLikeDogs · 03/01/2013 23:55

Val I dunno, slightly nervous now as I dunno techy stuff

hmm will ask nerdy 13 yr old's advice in the morning, hah

MardyBra · 03/01/2013 23:55

There aren't many posters who annoy me enough to hide them, but apart from the odd petty mardy rant, I tend to stick to chatty or silly threads.

The problem with hiding would be when it becomes apparent that one MNer has hidden another because they don't respond to them or something. Then there could be accusations along the lines of "Why have you hidden me, you bitch?" and things could get even more heated.

I reckon I know who Getorf is on about too.

scottishmummy · 03/01/2013 23:55

cor,that's searing and incisive
bet there wont be dry seat in house as that quip belted out

BeerTricksPotter · 03/01/2013 23:56

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Valpollicella · 04/01/2013 00:04

Are you meaning my post SM?

If so, I'm not meaning to be searing and incisive - was just referring back to a thread I had read a while ago.

Did they really Maryz? Never saw that!

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TheBOF · 04/01/2013 00:06

Ok, my arguments in favour:

I think that it's time to revisit the arguments for this again: the site is much bigger and full of wankers than it used to be, and there is a lot of unnecessary conflict. Given that civilian moderators have been discounted, and that the community team's workload is practically Dickensian, don't you think that anything which will reduce personal attacks and thus the need for deletions would be a good thing?

I understand that Justine is worried that threads "won't make sense", but given that a) people mostly talk shite anyway and fly off-topic; and b) the hide button would be individually activated by choice and not compulsory, I don't think this argument really holds water.

There are many posters mature enough to never need to shield themselves from the profoundly irritating, and some folk are naturally imbued with a zen-like calm in the face of fucknuggetry, but for the rest of us, please please please give us the option to simply never have to read the posts of people we know invariably get on our last nerve.

I am convinced that spats will reduce; people will participate more widely and constructively in threads, instead of having to hide them once their nemesis appears; goading will become much less sustained; and the bill to MNHQ for gin at weekends will be slashed to pre-2005 levels.

What's not to like?

Another thing about threads not making sense- quite a few prolific posters have, for one reason or another, had their entire posting history withdrawn, which really does ruin threads. Plenty in Classics are now incomprehensible, for example, to anyone.

A Hide Poster button could be reversible, and would only leave holes in threads which the Hider had chosen, and obviously everybody can see the thread as normal.

Another argument that comes up over this issue is that we might lose the opportunity to educate posters in the error of their ways.

I reject this too, as I don't believe people would just merrily click Hide every time someone disagreed with them; the point is that posters who are impervious to reason and that you know merely serve to irritate you on a consistent basis, to the point where you sometimes just have to avoid entire threads or even topics, could be hidden so that you can participate in a discussion without falling into the trap of becoming tetchy or rude. And there will always be posters who take pride in being tolerant and patient, and wouldn't hide anybody at all. If they want to engage, they are absolutely free to do so.

As far as paranoia goes, lots of posters get ignored anyway, especially newer ones, or people just repeating previously-made points. That isn't bullying; it's just the way of a fast-moving thread, and a reflection of people's ease directly addressing people they feel they already "know". Heck, sometimes people get ignored, then someone else makes the exact same point and gets lauded as a genius the bastards . Happens all the time, and it won't noticeably increase.

If other major forums manage this just fine with no hurt feelings, why can't we?

If people were stupid enough to just hit Hide willy-nilly, then they'd end up with the equivalent of a Facebook group, or the decidedly dull-sounding moldies group, if it still exists.

I agree that the beauty of MN lies in its diversity, and I think most people think like that. I rather suspect that a Hide button would very rarely be used: it certainly wouldn't be likely to just exclude people who weren't your close mates, I think we are all more sensible than that.

But in the cases where the occasional poster NEVER FAILS to rile and upset you, it would make using the site ten times more enjoyable and user-friendly.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 04/01/2013 00:06

ok ok heyulp needed in the morning, downloaded thingie, firefox, lappie not reading greasemonkey at all, aaargh

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RandallPinkFloyd · 04/01/2013 00:18

I've still got splinters in my arse over this one tbh.

I get the idea (there's one knob head I certainly wouldn't miss if they dropped off my screen for good) but in reality I can't see how it would work.

I just don't see how threads could flow if everyone is hiding random people.

I also think it would be open to people over-using it. There's a big difference between people who piss you off occasionally and have a specific view that you really disagree with and people you absolutely can't bear to look at.

I have a horrible feeling it would turn into "you disagreed with me, how dare you, consider yourself hidden" type of territory and that makes me uncomfortable.

If anything I think it would make bullying easier in a sort of la-la-I-cant-hear-you sort of way.

Not explaining myself very well but I know what I mean!

SPsFanjoIsAsComfyAsAOnesie · 04/01/2013 00:20

Randall I know what you mean.

Everyone would end up hiding each other at some point Grin

RandallPinkFloyd · 04/01/2013 00:22

Balls bof just shot all my points down in flames with one mahoosive x-post.

I spent ages trying to word that [sad and a bit thick face]

Maryz · 04/01/2013 00:24

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SPsFanjoIsAsComfyAsAOnesie · 04/01/2013 00:29

While on the subject of hiding can anyone tell me how you unhide a thread on the mobile site?

I keep accidently pressing hide