Do you let your son/daughter's boyfriend/girlfriend stay the night?

[FrancesMumsnet]

Do you let your teenager's boyfriend/girlfriend sleep over?

Hi all, first post.

Speaking from personal experience. I wasn't allowed to sleep over untill i was engaged lol!

I used to let my boys have a regular gf to stay but not casual partners iyswim.

It worked out great for me becuase when i got divorced they were very cool about my eventual new boyf unlike some of my friends sons.

Its not easy though to accept your babies are "at it"

Poor Frances being reported.

Yes, I do. DD is nearly 17 and her boyfriend is 18 - they have been together 18 months. He has been sleeping over for the past year - initially DD slept in the spare room, and then about 6 months ago we couldn't be faffed one night so he went in her room. She stays in his room when she stays at his house. It's all cool in my eyes.

I probably would wait not let it happen if it was a more casual relationship.

I was allowed my boyfriend to stay when i was 17.....

But i wont let my 17 year old sisters boyfriend stay with us, but she stays at his

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2162974/Connollys-big-row-Pamela-letting-daughters-sleep-boyfriends.html

Is this the reason for the OP? Was it today on This Morning like someone mentioned earlier? So who's right then? Billy or Pam?

[http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2162974/Connollys-big-row-Pamela-letting-daughters-sleep-boyfriends.html] and again

I am sure Frances is lovely too, thanks for coming back with the explanation.

Yes, when dd was 17 and it looked like a steady relationship. Initially made him stay in the spare room but got fed up with their alarm clock waking us all up at six so he could sneak out of her bed and told him to just stay in with her.

Am still traumatised by the SOUNDS they made, and by realising how much they must have heard of me and dp making similar sounds.

Arf at Frances getting reported

Yes, I think its to do with the Billy Connelly interview. I was shocked by what his wife said re other women but, thats another thread I cant be bothered to start

My mother would never have allowed it but, I think we as siblings are more liberal. As long as its not casual, thats the thing.

We're going to be like Pam & Billy...
I say yes once my DD is 16 in Nov & will have been dating her current bf 1 year by then. My husband says no way....
Big row brewing already!

I know a lady who has a 16 year old DD. She has been letting the boyfriend stay over since they were 14, and they even bought them a double bed.

She also buys them fags, and pays for them.

I do not agree.

i would - once they had been together for a while though but ds previous gf flouted the rules immediately.
current gf, been together more than 6 months. dh says no i relent. so we are in stalemate.
the gf seems to stay put.
dh is angry.
and so it goes on, most weekends
ironically, or perhaps not, gf own mother wont let my ds stay in her house

I don't.
When my children were young I used to say that I probably would.
Now they are actually at the age where they could, they can't!

Just having an nose at why this thread is permanently top of 'active' list even though not many responses (relatively). There are so many variables, the question needs to be more specific.

I'm sure not many people would tolerate a succession of one night stands from their 15 yr old (BodyofEeyore's acquaintance excepted) but if your 19 yr old has had the same partner for 3 yrs and been living together at Uni then it's not beyond realms of reason IMO.

What I"m more interested in is why is it usually the DH who is uncomfortable with a boy staying with their DD? Women don't seem to have the same problem with the idea of it as a rule. Can we have an article about that please Frances :)

Thanks for all your comments, folks. Much appreciated.

This is being discussed on BBC Breakfast now

Im not a current mother , all my kids have flown the nest., however i have a residence order for my 7yr old granddaughter. Recently she has begun overnight contact with my daughter ( her mum) again. Things havent been going great and amongst other things that have come to light is the fact that my granddaughter is being asked to share a bed with her mum and her current boyfriend. Im appalled and expressly forbade it before it even happened. The contact has was arranged through a court order. If i say im deeply uncomfortable with whats happened and want to stop contact until its been reviewed will i be held in contempt of court?