Fair enough. It's not a big issue, I'm trying to give some perspective and point out - helpfully I thought - some areas that would have to be considered before it went ahead. This is an open discussion forum, right?
But it's the semi aggressive tone of garlicbutter that makes me back off. If you can't see why this might a bad idea and even acknowledge the potential for it to go wrong then that's pretty narrow
minded... And you're hoping to befriend people and be supportive, but the minute your advice is questioned you get shirty?!?!!!
And we do take these risks when we make friends, but from what you are describing there is an inbuilt unbalance in the relationship from the start.
I dont really look at the relationships bit; again too much of peoples own bias come into what they are saying and too much "leave the bastard".