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Didn't we say it would happen?

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HillyWallaby · 10/02/2012 18:41

And now it has. Can we please get rid of the bloody awful facebook link thingy now?

If we all become paranoid about what we say and where it can go THIS FORUM WILL DIE. Or at least it will just turn into nethuns.

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HillyWallaby · 10/02/2012 19:42

no Pooka it wasn't!

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ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 19:42

Agree feenie - one would expect a little more discretion given the apparent fear expressed. Surely a lesson should be learned from this by all of us

ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 19:44

right, so the FB link button isn't at fault for this person finding the thread in question and becoming upset about whatever it was that had been said?

so this thread is a bit null and void

DharmaLovesDraco · 10/02/2012 19:45

Er? What wasn't necessary Hilly?

DharmaLovesDraco · 10/02/2012 19:49

oh and just noticed there isn't a FB button in Relationships anyway, which was my point about the FB 'like' button on that board.

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HillyWallaby · 10/02/2012 19:50

To make such thinly veiled references to the thread in question. It would just encourage people to get all whipped up about the thing rather than the fb link debate, and lead to more deletion.

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HillyWallaby · 10/02/2012 19:54

Confused So how did it get there then? Am I completely wrong? Grin someone definitely said on second thread first thread pulled due to discovery by wrong person, and how dangerous to allow stuff to be linked to fb.

(at least I think that's what they said. Blush) but as I have had a bee in my bonnet about privacy for the last couple of months due to my own unfortunate clash between the internet and RL I am feeling a tad over-sensitive.

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ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 19:56

but you are using the specific thread as evidence that the FB button is ill considered.

So to say "i am right and here is my proof, you just can't talk about the proof or see it or mention it" is a bit daft do you not think?

If the thread in question has been deleted, the poster has name changed (albeit outing herself every 30 seconds) then to discuss the now deleted thread doesn't really cause any issues. If that person just stopped outing herself the conversation could be had without the cloak and dagger

TheLightPassenger · 10/02/2012 19:56

I only saw the first few posts on what I presume was the second deleted thread, so have no idea how FB was referenced in all this Confused

Maryz · 10/02/2012 19:57

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AuntingCarse · 10/02/2012 20:01

Anybody can link any thread, from anywhere on mumsnet to their FB page regardless of whether there is a 'recommend' button or not.

Matches · 10/02/2012 20:02

HillyWallaby - you got mixed up.

I was on the Site Stuff thread, which got pulled, and it was as StickAFork says. It was the Site Stuff thread that was linked to on FB by a MNetter, NOT the original thread that hte Site Stuff thread was about (keeping up? Wink)

The bad person in this case DID not see the thread via FB. He had already seen and been on the original thread before the Site Stuff thread was posted.

Matches · 10/02/2012 20:03

Sorry should have put 'not' in CAPS, rather than 'did'

'cos then it would be a lot clearer Wink

ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 20:04

Right, so indiscretion and a bit of research was at fault, not MNHQ or the FB button.

Let that be a lesson to us all.

abbierhodes · 10/02/2012 20:04

Hilly, my point is that threads couldn't be 'handed to them on a plate'- because how would anyone know who to 'hand them to' if the OP hadn't given them that information by their own choice?
I could post that I was planning to murder my DH and you still wouldn't be able to let him know about it because I don't let you know who I am.
I'm sorry if there is a poster in distress but more fool them if they've been outed because of the facebook button.

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OliviaMumsnet · 10/02/2012 20:06

Well glad this is all cleared up.

MsCellophane · 10/02/2012 20:06

It would appear that this unmentionable situation has nothing to do with a facebook button. A found out that B has posted on here about them. We all run that risk everytime we post. Unfortunately A isn't a nice person and will now cause B serious trouble. I would think A has been stalking B for a while

Liking a thread on FB doesn't out anyone, not the OP or the liker. All it will do is tell your FB friends that you have read and liked a mumsnet post

OP why start a scaremongering thread when you don't actually know that A found B's thread through facebook

DharmaLovesDraco · 10/02/2012 20:07

FFS you could take my first line and apply to over half of the posts on any one forum Hmm

Your subsequent post indicated that it was due to the FB like button, I was pointing out that it probably wasn't (whilst agreeing the like button is not a good idea in general)

ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 20:09

From what I can make out, the poster had told this person she posts here and under what name.
She then had a thread about that person under the usual posting name and this person found it and was upset about what was being said.

Understandable i guess, I presume the content of said thread was far from singing his praises.

So it isn't quite "stalking" and more a case of ill considered indiscretion

Truckulentagain · 10/02/2012 20:09

Doesn't it just show you never know who's reading threads?

And who is behind the keyboard?

Spooky.

DharmaLovesDraco · 10/02/2012 20:09

must remember to refresh first before posting

Make mine a double Oliviamumsnet

hathorinareddress · 10/02/2012 20:10

I don't know that she told the person that she posts here and under what name - the other person was "tipped off" iirc from the original thread.

Which means some nasty fucker was sneaking around here and going telling tales back.

ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 20:11

Unfortunately A isn't a nice person and will now cause B serious trouble.

But surely B knew this prior to posting and should have been a bit more careful when posting about A in the first place?

BanditoShipman · 10/02/2012 20:13

theres no like button in relationships anyway is there? Confused

ValarMorghulis · 10/02/2012 20:13

Hat - but that would indicate that third person knew both poster A and person B in real life.

So again, it boils down to person A revealing more than is sensible on a public forum

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