Didn't we say it would happen?

[HillyWallaby]

And now it has. Can we please get rid of the bloody awful facebook link thingy now?

If we all become paranoid about what we say and where it can go THIS FORUM WILL DIE. Or at least it will just turn into nethuns.

I think this thread is a very bad idea, no matter how well meaning it is. Just to say I'm going to report it.

I said no good would come of it.

I know the thread in question - was it really the FB button or was it due to the fact he is a freak who has probably been keeping an eye on her for a while?

I don't know tbh and I think having a 'like' button on any of the Relationship posts, considering the nature of some of them, is asking for trouble.

No you can't hold MN responsible for anyone who would 'like' something in order to 'out' someone to friends/family/enemies but you can take away their option to do it this way.

Not sure I've made sense.

I really, really hope that poster is o.k, I can only imagine the fallout :(:(

Oh and if anyone did link him to her deliberately - you are one sad fucker

Loads of people had big reservations and I thought it was a very very bad idea to have such prominent easy buttons to push to link here and FB

And if this thread has to go because people have been saying that then meh

Sorry but all that is going to happen is people will want to know what this is about. I know and am not exactly Sherlock.

i saw a thread that was deleted, whihc aluded to some scandal of yesterday, now this one.

neither said what the flying feck is going on and i am getting brain ache trying to make sense of any of it.

either someone tell me or all stop talking in code.

Dharma that was fuelling the fire a bit too much methinks. Not necessary.

I think you were right to start this thread Hilly - thank you very much. [ small voice- it is meeeeee ].

Eh?

PS Yes, I am still alive. Fallout - bad.

I know of the other thread.

Much more likely the person in question looked on mn active convos and saw the thread title.

Or maybe went looking in relationships.

I do think they it is a stretch that he saw it linked on Facebook. Though I'm prepared to be corrected.

I'm afraid otherwise it (this thread) just looks like an excuse to rehash the argument anti the button.

Without knowing the thread/poster in question, it's hard to understand how this happened. But I just don't see how the FB button could reveal you if you didn't want them to?
I could write loads of threads, and you could all link them to FB, and it would never matter because I'm anonymous on here. I don't have a profile and I namechange if I'm giving away any sensitive details. I also haven't told anyone in real life my MN name.
I know some people like to have more details on here, and that is their choice of course- but surely if you do that then you have to accept that it's not anonymous. If you have profile pics etc on here, then you really shouldn't say anything you wouldn't say on facebook anyway.
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What an awful situation.

You don't need to make sense of it! You just need to think about whether or not it is a good or a bad thing that potentially sensitive threads can get broadcast on FB where, FB being the very incestuous networking tool that it is, they may get seen by the wrong people and damage may be done. that is all.

I know everything we say on here is public, but there is a difference between taking the tiny risk that someone may find your threads via google and work out who you are - and having your threads handed to them on a plate.

Ah well - roah, am prepared to be wrong. Hope you're ok. I just have neve been able to get why linking of threads would out someone. Or at least more than anyone doing an occasional trawl through the threads on the site out of interest or suspicion.

In the case of that thread, he must've suspected tht op getting support from somewhere as was evidently so taken aback by new strength.

Do you mind? Do you want this deleted?

Oh sorry - didn;t see the first post. Thanks.

ok. So i have been given a brief synopsis.

My take on it is that either this person was already on MN keeping an eye out or the person who gave the suspected tip off already knew both the MNer in question and the person talked about.

So whether the button was there or not is irrelevant as if they were to tip him off they could do so without the FB button.

I think that if you are going to make yourself anything less than totally anonymous on an internet forum then you must accept that when you speak about people in your life they may well find it.

Whilst i gather this has caused a situation of fear for the poster in question, from what i can make of it all, it has very little to do with the FB button and all to do with indiscreet posting

But happy for someone to explain that i have the wrong end of the stick

What?

I don't think anything I've posted is more "klaxons hooting, this could be interesting" to the person than your thread title?

Ok so if that is the situation I apologise for jumping the gun, but there was mention on the other thread about an FB connection. As I said, I couldn't work it out fully as it got pulled.

Oh - was tht not at me?

Why namechange and then announce on several threads/have several friends announce on threads that it's really you?

Have been on MN 10 minutes tonight and seen it three times now.

I don't think it could have been down to the "like" button, as there isn't a like button for the entire topic in question afaik.

There is no FB link on Relationships.

But when a thread about the original thread was posted in Site Stuff (now deleted) that was liked to FB (no idea who by or what their reason was).