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EXCUSE ME - OVER HERE - BRILL IDEA

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:03

I would like to suggest a new 'sub topic' on MN.

Have noticed very personal questions that lead to cries of TROLL TROLL and general piss taking and why post a question like that etc etc

Well, for a lot of people, there are things that trouble them that they would be mortified to even try to discuss with rl friends, yet they know they would like to talk with someone. The internet is a wonderful resource, but also it is good to have the opportunity to say - what about this then, is this normal? and get info/advice/support from a bunch of people who don't know you and you don't have to face! so you can talk about those things that worry you anonymously and know they aren't going to discuss it with your other mates!!!

But a lot of people seem to get wound up and go onto such threads to take the piss or to cry troll, or even to say the poster shouldn't have started the thread so wouldn't it be great to have a section called, I don't know, Personal, or something, so everybody knows what kind of advice is likely to be needed and those who dont want to participate in such threads can just not peruse that section!

How about it?

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meggymoo · 15/11/2005 16:05

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BonyM · 15/11/2005 16:05

Good idea - I'd be mortified if I changed name to discuss something personal and was accused of being a troll.

dropinthe · 15/11/2005 16:07

I like this idea! The sanctimonious on here could stay away from it, if at all possible!

sunchowder · 15/11/2005 16:09

MTPW: I was one of the pisstakers yesterday and I wish to be publically flogged for it. I don't usually do that, I don't know what came over me. I can't make the world right though and won't be taking that on this afternoon. It is a good idea, I don't know if it would make much of a difference, but I guess it is worth a try. I never change my name and have asked some very personal questions, but not usually to the high standard of wanting to know if my vagina pong is normal.

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:09

trolls are inevitable, but they shouldnt be the first thought when somebody posts something personal! A place for personal questions would be helpful, I think. Also with a rule that only advice and info is allowed - no bitching! Which doesnt mean you cant offer constructive criticism, I mean there's nothing wrong with disagreeing! but you shouldnt be mean and rude in that section!!

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:11

yes sunchowder - go beat yourself with a big stick!!!

I am not having a go at anybody, whats said is said, but a safe place to post personal questions where the assumption is that you are serious would be so helpful, I think.

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meggymoo · 15/11/2005 16:12

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ssd · 15/11/2005 16:13

I think this is a great idea, there's lots I'd like to ask but I'd hate to incur the wrath of certain people. This would be ideal instead of posting things in chat or wherever.

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:14

so basically the milk of human kindness is sour???

oh dear.

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:15

techie people can do anything can't they - a section that isn't included on active convos would not be too much for them!!!!!

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dropinthe · 15/11/2005 16:15

meggymoo-think there should be a name and shame thread then and if any one of those sarcy people want any advice in the future ,then they can sod off! This is a parenting site, afterall not a "who can be cleverer than thou" site! !

meggymoo · 15/11/2005 16:16

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ssd · 15/11/2005 16:17

TBH I don't see the problem having it in active convo's, there's plenty there I don't post on, if it would rile some people they don't need to go into personal like I don't go into arts and crafts etc....

doormat · 15/11/2005 16:17

agree mtpw that it would be useful
but tbh I dont think it will stop the name changing, I have only changed my name once for legal reasons but like sunny have asked personal questions with own name.
But still dont think it will stop the bitching.

btw I was a piss taker too so PLEASE beat me too

Zephyrcat · 15/11/2005 16:19

I think it's a nice idea too but won't stop the bitching - have you ever seen the threads about 'which threads annoy you' - there was even a mention that poems on the miscarriage/bereavement thread were crap Also if you suggest that they don't read/post/look elsewhere you really get it!!

dropinthe · 15/11/2005 16:21

It must be hard being perfect,eh?

monstersmummy · 15/11/2005 16:24

a bit of respect and an assumption that not everyone is a troll just because they ask an odd question would solve that one.

or simply parp urself(or whatever ur supposed to say) and leave the thread

ssd · 15/11/2005 16:24

What thread are you all refering to, feel like the new girl who doesn't know what everyone is on about?

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:26

meggy - nothing wrong with reservations! we are exchanging opinions!

doormat bend over!

Zeph - really, how awful

I didnt start this thread to have a go about anybody, that's not what this is. I just feel sorry for people who post something and get jumped on. maybe they are very worried and dont have anyone to talk to. there has to be a safe place to accomodate that here. Where nobody sneers or insults.

I mean if you post your Q there, it is a very clear sign that you are seriously looking for advice and tells people that its not a place to take the micky!

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WigWamBam · 15/11/2005 16:26

I think it's a good idea in principal, and you are right when you say that "troll" shouldn't be the first thing that people think when they see a strange name or a strange topic, but knowing Mumsnet I can't see p*ss takers keeping off the thread just because it's in a special section. Sometimes I don't even register what topic a thread is under, and of course there are a lot of people here who hate being told not to post and who would post on such a topic just to make a point.

I do think it would be nice if there was a safe place to post personal questions where the assumption is that you are serious, but sadly it's very much open to abuse (either by the trolls or the p*ss takers).

WigWamBam · 15/11/2005 16:26

Ouch ... I mean principle ...

ssd · 15/11/2005 16:28

Sorry to be dim again, but are there really a lot of trolls on MN or are some of us just quick tempered and think the worst?

sunchowder · 15/11/2005 16:29

I am not usually a piss-taker, I am normally very nice, for some reason I totally lost control yesterday and I am seriously starting to regret it. I have never accused anyone of being a troll--vagina pong just gets to me I am not of sour-milk, I am of love and light and goodness and sometimes I do lose control....

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:30

i dont think there are.

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Mytwopenceworth · 15/11/2005 16:31

sunchowder. smile. dont beat yourself up.

I love you.

Marry me.

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