Abbreviations and gender focus

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My fiance and i joined mumsnet seperately but dont post very often, as we both have difficulty comprehending posts, due to the abbreviations.

We are both seasoned forum users, and are well versed in acronymns common to fora.
However, those on mumsnet seem unique to mumsnet.

Is their a guide for these?

Also as the propsective father, I am interested to know if mumsnet is so called as it is a forum geared up specifically for mothers, as opposed to parents?
Hence why their is a section for women's rights, but not men's rights, as one example.

Does this mean that mumsnet isnt set up for myself, but i should be frequenting a 'parentsnet'?
And if so, can you reccommend a forum for this?

hey ho it's Mr. Logic!

that Mr Logic is veh funny, Shanahan

Yes there are proportionally a lot more female than male posters. So of course you're going to get a few posts where woman have a moan about their husbands, however, I've never seen on here a thread where someone says "Oh that right, all men are bastards, don't worry about it" without being set straight.

But you know, instead of starting a thread looking down your nose asking whether the forum is up to your standards, why don't you just jump in, get reading and posting. If you don't like it nobody will make you stay! Sorry if this wasn't what this thread was about, but it really comes across that way.

There is a dadsnet section on here somewhere. But most of the male posters just post all over the site on the sections which interest them.

I think the fact that women posting about the selfish behaviour of their partners are told by umpteen posters that the behaviour is not acceptable shows that actually we hold men in very high regard.

I take what you are saying about the stereotyping - I saw that too. That type of thing really is in the minrity though.

minority

Yama said it better than I did

Thanks Bertie. One handed whilst breastfeeding a wriggler - not bad.

*BertieBottlesOfMulledWine Mon 27-Dec-10 11:28:03

Yes there are proportionally a lot more female than male posters. So of course you're going to get a few posts where woman have a moan about their husbands, however, I've never seen on here a thread where someone says "Oh that right, all men are bastards, don't worry about it" without being set straight.

THANKS FOR THAT. SOUNDS PROMISING.

But you know, instead of starting a thread looking down your nose asking whether the forum is up to your standards, why don't you just jump in, get reading and posting. If you don't like it nobody will make you stay! Sorry if this wasn't what this thread was about, but it really comes across that way.

THAT WASN'T WHAT THIS THREAD WAS ABOUT.
I NEVER MENTIONED STANDARDS, I MENTIONED MY OWN PERSONAL PREFERANCES AND THE REASONS I HAVE THEM (MEDIA OVERLOAD, GETTING ADDICTED THEN WOUND UP, KEEPING RELAXED TO BE A GOOD DAD ETC ETC). I ALSO SAID IF MUMSNET IS WHAT IT IS AND NOT THE PLACE FOR ME, THAT'S FAIR ENOUGH.
BUT I DONT KNOW IF THAT'S THE CASE YET, THATS WHAT IM TRYING TO WORK OUT, HENCE THE POINT OF THIS THREAD.
I NEVER SAID ANYONE WOULD MAKE ME STAY. EQUALLY, I DONT ALSO HAVE TO LIKE THIS WEBSITE IF IT'S NOT MY CUP OF TEA, SO ITS NOT A CASE OF LOOKING DOWNS ONES NOSE, ITS JUST A CASE OF DOING WHAT ONE LIKES DOING.

I DONT KNOW WHY SOME FOLK CAN UNDERSTAND WHAT IM SAYING AND REPLY TO THAT, WHILST OTHERS TAKE IT PERSONALLY AND JUMP TO WRONG CONCLUSIONS AND ASSUMPTIONS?

There is a dadsnet section on here somewhere. But most of the male posters just post all over the site on the sections which interest them.

SOMEONE TOLD ME THIS EARLIER AND THAT I CAN CUSTOMISE THE SITE TO BLOCK OUT THE SECTIONS I DONT LIKE TO SEE.
NOW I KNOW ALL OF THIS, I AM VEERING TOWARD GIVNG MUMSNET A TRY.

yama Mon 27-Dec-10 11:34:26

I think the fact that women posting about the selfish behaviour of their partners are told by umpteen posters that the behaviour is not acceptable shows that actually we hold men in very high regard.

THATS A GOOD POINT.

I take what you are saying about the stereotyping - I saw that too.

THANK YOU FOR NOTING WHAT I AM ACTUALLY POINTING OUT.

That type of thing really is in the minrity though.

AND REPLYING TO ME ACCORDINGLY. WHICH IS WHAT MY THREAD WAS ABOUT.

I APOLOGISE IN ADVANCE FOR CAPS, IM NOT USING THEM FOR THE NETTIQUESTTE BREACH OF SHOUTING.
I DONT KNOW HOW YOU CAN MULTIQUOTE, EMBOLDEN, AND REPLY ACCORDINGLY ON THIS SITE.
ITS NOT SET UP THE SAME WAY AS ALL THE OTHER FORUMS I USE WHEN I DO ALL THAT.
SO THE CAPS ARE TO DISTINGUISH WHICH BITS OF THE POST ARE MINE AND TO WHICH POSTS EACH OF MY REPLIES A REPLYING TO.

Honest to God, right next to where you type your message it tells you how to bold/underline/do italics....

I really do think netmums would suit you both better.

I think if you have a thick skin, then mumsnet is a good place.

If you are the more sensitive type, then somewhere like netmums.

But tbh, there aren't really any good fathers' sites. I suppose there isn't as much demand?

dadtalk? looks a good site.

fwiw, I tend to think of mumsnet as being a bit like a pub - albeit one frequented by more women than men.

Here you can find idle gossip, general chat, a lot bit of bitchiness, some women ranting about their partners/exes, some men ranting about their partners/exes, loads of bloody good advice and some not so good advice.

If you look, you shall find... pretty much anything you like. If you don't like what you see, move on to another thread, just as in a pub you would move to another group of people, talking about something different.

There probably are some people on here that dislike men, just as in any community you will get that.

If you are looking for advice and support for your new arrival, this is deffo the place to be. If you are looking for a bit of a distraction from RL, this is deffo the place to be.

If you are looking for a site where you can talk about football and who's going to win the premiership (obv. Man city ) then you can find that here, you can find threads on how to fix a broken down car or washing machine.

You just have to dive in and take what you get.

I wouldn't advise starting any thread about parent & toddler parking in a supermarket car park though...

*ChippingIn Mon 27-Dec-10 13:52:38

Honest to God, right next to where you type your message it tells you how to bold/underline/do italics....*

Hello chipping, i already tried the instructions next door.
However, im trying to embolden whole passages, not single words.

I have already tried placing the asterisks at the beginning and end of relevant passage (just done it with your post), but that doesnt work.

On most other forums i go on, each post has 2 buttons that you can click on when replying to them: Quote and MultiQuote.
Which means it's all formatted for you automatically, including stating whom wrote the post you are quoting and then replying to. You can do this multiple times in your own single post.

That is where I am coming from when i say i cant find the equivalent on here and have therefore had to cobble up my own version so people can follow what im saying and to whom, as there are so many people i am replying to.

I will have a look at netmums.

to embolden entire passages, you have to put the asterixes before and after each word.

like this but without the spaces

oh bollocks, I put fecking spaces in between each asterix and each word.

Anyway, you do: asterix-word-asterix for every word

Netmums.
Definitely.
Isn't there a Bounty website as well?

thanks for the link HecTheHalls.

Its not really a snesitivity issue, its just an issue of exposing myself to stuff i just cant be bothered with anymore.
So the earlier suggestion to customise the site blocking out the bits that i dont like seems like a good option.

Hello lollipop.
Great post!

I wont dive in and see what i get though, i've done that on too many forums and just got myself wound up and wasted too much time when i should be focussing on more important stuff, like keeping myself stress free to be a better first time dad

So im learning from my mistake and now rigging all my media to only allow access to the stuff thats good for me, so will customise the active post feature of mumsnet accordingly.
Thats a great feature my other forums dont have.

sorry, hate football

asterisk word for word, that must take for ever!

I wasn't being rude, I hope you understand.

Different people like different things.

MN is a rather, erm, well, yes... You need to have a hide like a rhino to enjoy it here

Netmums is much more surface nicey-nicey, which many people prefer.

It's about finding a place that suits your personality.

You can't block the bits you don't like though. It's not that simple.

Because it's the style of the users that makes the site how it is. Whatever threads you do see, will reflect the type of person who uses MN. So you can block a particular section you think you might not be interested in, but you never know what you'll find when you open any thread!

I think you may find MN far too exciting actually.

Maybe somewhere you can discuss hosepipes and lawnmowers might be more to your taste

But... hang on, there's someone just like you there already...

Hello Hec, dont worry it never crossed my mind i thought you were being rude

thanks for your help

i've just blocked all the sections i think will mosty likely have the sort of stuff i cant stand looking at, so fingers crossed

Re your line about finding somewhere that suits your personality, thats what ive been trying to point out all along (not meaning yourself ).

Im not into suface nicey myself.

catinthehat, very droll, quite funny actually

made me giggle

albeit i fear you still arent getting it, or choosing not to ....

.....so cesera

Hmm -
thick skin
you might fit in...

You can bold a whole section now. You can bold/italicise/underline an entire paragraph if you want to. If you have a line break in the middle of it it doesn't work though.

For some unknown reason strikeouts are still word by word though.