Is it worth having a sort of 'Clique Corner' or even a Quiche Corner?

[Bumperlicious]

Just to start with saying I have no problem with cliques! Ok, I don't mean cliques as such but the 'regular' threads that appear on MN, Elevenses, Shiney, Twilight etc. When I first started I was in a regular antenatal/postnatal group, and lord knows people griped enough about those!

But there are lots of regular threads that I am too scared to join don't wish to be a part of that keep appearing in my active convos. I can hide them, but have to do so individually, then a new one pops up. I was wondering, if it becomes apparent that you have a 'regular thread' (and I know they aren't usually premeditated, they often come about organically) could it be moved into a topic that can be hidden, or at least new threads started in such a topic?

Is that a really bad idea? Don't want to offend anyone, but would like to make my MNetting as efficient as possible

well obviously if you've not got something in common with the theme of the thread then it may feel like that - but I've popped in and out of several of the "long standing" threads and never felt out of place

it is a pita though.
presumably there would be a way of leaving the groups at the top of the page of, say, the bereavement topic, so as to make it clear to anyone visiting that this was the place for general support.

they all really clutter up active convos, imo.

well if you want to make them into private members clubs so that newbies don't feel they can join and get support - fine go ahead push for it - personally I think it's a ridiculous idea and don't see what's wrong with hiding them.

I've just scrolled through Active convo's - and apart form the Feminism topic I have none hidden - and can only see a couple of "quiche" threads

personally I think it's a ridiculous idea and don't see what's wrong with them having thier won topic

clutter up active - are you having a laugh?

ok - I'll go back and count them

I'll include the "oldest starting secondary school" and ante/post natal ones.

13 - out of 100........and several of those were ante/post natal ones

so now I'm really confused - and will also be late if I don't get my arse out of the door and go and pick up DS2

well I sure as hell (if I were a newbie) want to post on a miscarrige/trying again/bereavement/struggling with booze thread in a "clique" topic - if I even found it.

"but how will new people know to go and look in a "quiche" topic - chances are they going to think oh it's a private club I can't enter."

I think if there's a quiche thread that also fits somewhere else, the "somewhere else" should stickies always at the top of the topic list, along the lines of "Looking for a support thread for general ranting and venting about your toxic parents? You are always welcome here: link to thread in quiche buffet

don't we already have enough stickies as it is??

"Looking for a thread to discuss healthy eating tips and practices - please join the link to 10/10 thread

But these wouldn't be in Active Conversations. They'd be in the individual topic areas.

Oh I wouldn't like a quiche corner

I am only on one thread that probably looks like a quiche but isn't.
We are all delighted if anyone new comes and joins.

And most quiches just start don't they, and although people are chatting it can be possible to join if you want. I was part of the tea room for a while - me with my three children.

I occasionally peek and one day will blunder in on some of them if I am feeling brave. I suspect most threads from the shiney to the elevenses or the music threads etc etc are pretty friendly if you stalk persist.

I can just imagine all the virtual toe shuffling 'er, do we think we are like a quiche now or are the rest of you going to fuck off when this thread fills. shall we go to quiche corner?'
The definition of needy

yup, that's what i'm saying spb. an all-welcome chat thread at the top of the topic.

i just had a peek in a quiche thread.
it is people chatting that obviously do it all the time and know each other.
I hardly think a newbie would want to join in

ah look I don't care but if we do get one can it be called the quiche buffet?

but would you be allowed to talk about sausage rolls in there?

oooh tough one
Maybe we'll have a quiche master to decide that sort of thing

oh then we have to have a mn master chef comp to pick them

I don't have a problem going into them, if I wanted to I would, but I generally don't (mainly because I can't really keep up with these sorts of threads and haven't the memory to keep track of who said what). And I'm not saying that they are exclusive, I'm sure most of them aren't, but I don't want to join in.

Also, the newbies thing is a red herring, how many newbies know about active convos (took me months to figure that one out!)? If it was called Quiche Corner that might just draw them in as a newbie is unlikely to know what Quiche means

Anyhoo, just an idea. I'm not going to press for it, just putting it out there :)

I bet you they didn't all join at the same time.....

Surely it's no different to moving to a new area and meeting new people - when you first join in a conversation they're going to be talking like they know each other........ermm because they do - in time you'll "know" them as well

I like the idea. Happy for them to stay in their original topics but just not to appear in Most active convos

so 10% are "regular" threads (including post/ante natal).

I can easily count another 50 normal threads that I wish weren't in Active convo's

Honestly - expand to 100 theads in Active and you'll hardly notice them - especially if you hide them

AsmallBunch

I loved it in there, the aspidistra was so well cared for. But i couldn't keep up with the alcohol consumption.

[fond memories]

Cakeandroses don't think it is as easy as that, which is the only reason why I suggested a topic, to be able to hide it, not to keep them away or anything.

Mamottat, the thing is the quiche threads go on for aaaages then pop up again. Crap threads in active convos don't often go on for 1000 posts.

okay, how's it looking so far. mammottat against, who's for?