Thanks everyone. I actually am waiting to be sterlised I was so adamant I would never had another one. The thought terrifies me so am going to look into hypnobirthing and possibly a little bit of counselling about the birth (I know I sound pathetic but I was so traumatised after taking four days to give birth I said never again).
Not sure finacially how I will cope, dd's dad as shocked as me and will have a good talk as though I do have a well paid job, I'm not sure I could manage everything with two. I'm also very aware due to my age things may not actually get there so to speak so just taking things a week at a time. Due beg of Jan (same as dd!!)
I have only told family as have several friends trying with no luck or who have had MC and there's me do it once (sorry TMI!!) and get caught out like a teenager.
Hence the thought about the black xt footmuff, will buy a bug cam and poss a bee (though I hated it) to keep as a car rear facer. Not buying anyting else though for quite some time.