Gizmo - I was thinking of that question myself this morning, actually.
I spent a few weeks in the children's ward at King's, as DS was having a series of ops, and you see a lot of very confronting things in children's wards. I talked a lot to a Mum whose 9 year-old was in for months and months, and by then, on his 14th operation to patch him up having been hit by a motorbike doing about 50mph, on a zebra crossing outside his school.
I was aghast, and expected her to be beside herself with rage, but she was quite controlled. She said that accidents happen, and that the biker had been distraught when it happened, was shaking and throwing up and weeping, and had been 100% open in the court case about his guilt, and she actually sympathised with him. I DO feel phiosophical that accidents happen, and am a person quite free of vengeful feelings, i thinki, but in her position I WOULD I thnk, be full of anger that he had been going so fast. His speed must have been a huge contributory factor to the accident itself and the extent of the poor lads injuries.
So I THINK that I accept accidents, but am angry about the contributory factors. And the thing that the specialist said was that it was the high-up straight front of the vehicle that caused the nature of my freinds injuries. Car-shaped mercs and beemers may well be big and heavy, but they still impact at knee-ish level and scoop you over the top.
And this was in inner-city London, where 4x4's are frequently driven for show, so yes, i thiink i am angry that she was hit by a 4x4 like that.
That is not a comment on the caring responsible people who drive them out of necessity in the country, but here in London - oh, and those who career them along bridleways in the country for a bit of gung ho fun- yes, I'd happily see the whole lot crushed to rubble.