Husband keen on my past and flirting with an ex-FWB at wedding

[DreamyLimeWasp]

So my husband has always been really interested in my past relationships and sex life. At the beginning I played a lot of it down because I wasn’t sure how he’d react.
About two years ago, we were quite drunk and having sex when he started asking loads of detailed questions. I could instantly tell how much it turned him on, which in turn made it really hot for me too - he even said he wishes he could have watched.
From that night on I’ve been completely open with him, and he’s become much more confident asking for every single detail.
Now we’re going to my friend’s wedding where a guy I used to be FWB with will be attending. My husband is very excited about it. He’s already asked if I’d be willing to flirt with him, and he’s even said that if the situation felt right I could do anything I wanted with him.. he's also booked a double hotel room just incase.
Has anyone else’s partner got into hearing about your past experiences like this? Or wanted to watch you flirt (or more) with someone else? Would love to hear similar stories!

Quite apart from the long term impact on your relationship and the morals of it, would that idea be for your benefit and excite you, or is it mainly for your OH?

I think I do like the idea and it does excite me (at least in theory!), but it’s hard to know exactly how I’ll feel until I’m actually in the situation. We’ve talked about it a lot and my husband has put no pressure on me but has just said I am free to if I wish too

If you do it. You can never go back to how it was before.

Yep we are both aware of that but we’ve talked about that a lot and we’re going in with our eyes open. We are going in with an open mind and no expectations. It’s a risk, but one we’re both curious about and choosing together if it feels right.

It may well just be a fantasy that never actually comes to reality.

@DreamyLimeWasp Is it that you and DH are mis-matched more than you say.

I wouldn't say so at all. We have a great relationship and trust each other completely

My personal view is that if I were married and well matched I wouldn't need to bring in a complication.
But I guess you intend to go ahead at least closer to some action. Will it be soon?

I guess everyone has different preferences which is totally fine. My husband has been counting down the days, the wedding is 27th June.

I'm uncertain what scenario you & your husband are fantasising about. Are you thinking about a MFM 3some or a cuckold scenario where you go off & have amazing sex with ex-FWB then go back & tell your hubby how great it was then have amazing sex with him too.

The implications for your relationship are totally different. It's the difference between swinging & having an open marriage.

Thanks for the message & sorry I was not clear. Husband has no desire to join in, he said he'd love to watch but would also be happy with me going alone and telling him all the details afterwards.
I think if I was to do it I'd be too nervous with him there especially if it was my first time.

Husband has no desire to join in, he said he'd love to watch but would also be happy with me going alone and telling him all the details afterwards.

In which case I am afraid that I have no experience or advice. My wife & are swingers who met on a swinging website. We always do stuff together. The attraction for us is to have the sort of sex we don't have at home. We are perfectly happy with each other for 1:1 sex but enjoy 3somes & group sex plus the big turn on of watching other people having sex.

Well I get that it's different, but do either of you ever have jealousy seeing your partner with someone else. My main concern is my husband will be upset if I do go ahead with it

I have no jealousy regarding seeing my wife with someone else when I am involved too. The scenario you describe just doesn't appeal to us. The whole idea of leaving one partner at home twiddling their thumbs while the other is out enjoying themselves with a FWB just wouldn't work for us.

Sounds like me he wants to
Hotwife you.

That's good sounds like you two have smashed it. I guess people like different things, I'd actually hate it if my husband was with someone else.

Sounds like me he wants to
Hotwife you.

With the Hotwife/Cuckold thing the husband likes to be humiliated. Long before I met my wife I met a couple who were into this. She went to the bedroom with me & he had to stay outside the on the landing listening to us. He was only allowed in when we had both finished & then he had to in the euphemistic phrase used by Hotwife/Cuckolds "clean her up" while she told him how much bigger & better my cock was than his.

I didn't enjoy the scenario as I found it rather creepy & only met them the once. I'm not saying this is the OP's scene but this is the more extreme end of Hotwife/Cuckold scene.

From my understanding of what my husband has said to me, he doesn't want to be humiliated but he loves the idea of me being pleased and gets off on that. He likes the idea of it being pure sex and then me going back to him and I am still only his.

He likes the idea of it being pure sex and then me going back to him and I am still only his

That definitely works well for some couples. Years ago before I met my wife I used to swing as a single guy & several times I met a couple where he wasn't interested in participating. As I recall I always met the couple together first before the wife & got together. I remember that for one couple he liked to have our meet captured on video so he could watch later.

Ultimately it’s what works for you but be warned real life is always different from fantasy. My ex used to love me being naked in front of others - nude beach / nude bar etc but you’re going a lot further than that. I’ve done sex clubs and honestly think that’s better - you both potentially have fun for a start. But good luck if you’re both on board with all you’ve said.

Appreciate the advice...my husband doesn't want to get involved so I don't think a sex club would be the right place. Also I think I would find it quite intimidating there. As my husband said he already knows about many of my escapades with the FWB, so it could be the perfect opportunity

Have you always told him sex with him is better than with the others? And is it true? Or does he get off on you being with someone bigger and better?

I told him this guy was very good in bed and we had some great times. I wouldn't say he was better than my hubby because I feel that the sex is different - with my hubby I feel love which is amazing. But with fwb it was more raw and just pure sex is how I can describe it

Sounds like he's using you and has very little respect for you. Most people when in a long term relationship are mature enough about the fact that their significant other has had past experiences without it being a big deal. He sounds like an annoying little creep and I'd tell him to do one of you've any self respect.

I'll be sure to pass on your feedback :)

Hotwife or Stag Vixen, is not about humiliation. Cuckold is.