Is it socially acceptable for women to admit they love sex?

[Sexchair]

There's a sexchair thread on AIBU.
My first thought was ooh that might help with my aching hips when I'm trying to have epically glorious sex. I certainly didn't think all the silly things that people are posting on there. It's no wonder that there are so many mismatched sex drives in relationships when women (I'm assuming the posts about knitting and cups of tea are written by women) have such a low opinion of it. Is it not socially acceptable for women to admit that they bloody love sex like I do?

I don’t think I could tell anyone in real life that I love sex. Not even my DH, which is quite sad. I think he knows I like it, but he’s a bit uptight when it comes to talking about sex and I think he would find it awkward if I said anything like that.

I think it's completely socially acceptable for women to say they enjoy sex. I'm in my 50s and I would consider it odd for it not to be socially acceptable.

However, it depends where you're discussing it. With friends, partners, people you know well=socially acceptable. At a work meeting, with your parents, probably not acceptable dependingon individual situations.

IMO its exactly the same for men though.

I agree with PP there's a socially acceptable conversation without the need to include specifics. Unless maybe a funny anecdote.

Do you always start threads running women down to make yourself look better OP?
I'm sure you're all very wild and edgy and everything 🙄 but you come off like a bloke in your posts.

I would love for there to be less shame for women around their bodies and pleasure. I also think it’s extremely important not to shame women for not reliably experiencing sexual pleasure. It’s the same patriarchal bollocks about being frigid or whatever - without considering what’s gone into making sex such an unpleasant and shaming experience for the majority of women over the ages.

@Sexchair

I read the thread, and I agree with you. There were a lot of supposed hilarious japes about it. I do think that bombing the idea of a chair on a partner is unfair, but the reaction to the very thought of a piece of bedroom furniture was very much in the realms of the sexually closed-minded. There was one a while ago about a sex pillow on the relationship board that was met with equal hilarity, sad really.

So hopefully, the sexually open-minded of the sex board, I can say I am the proud owner of a sex chair. They are glorious, and to prove my open-minded credentials bout one for my best friend and his wife, who are over the moon with theirs.

you come off like a bloke

You could not have underlined OP's point more effectively.

Yes it's socially acceptable to like sex. But it's not very classy or appropriate to go on about it to people that aren't interested in hearing it, male or female. Context and who you're talking to matters.

Rolling out the ultimate MN put down. Accuse me of being a man.
You have absolutely proved my point as @moderate has said.

Is it socially acceptable for women to declare out loud that they love sex? Well, it partly depends on the context:

• In the bedroom: YES
• Among close friends: YES
• At parents' evening: NO
• During Choral Evensong: NO

Please tell me, is it worth the money? Will it help me have sex without having to stop because my knees/hips/back are hurting?

I absolutely love sex , early 40's been with my husband for almost 25 years and we still have mind blowing sex, I dont want to ever get to the point where I dont enjoy it.

At choral evensong? You say that, but ...

Many years ago I routinely sang in a church choir, and I don't think I have ever since met such a bacchanalian, hedonistic and (respectfully) lethaious bunch of miscreants. They were utterly fabulous people. Especially the Harley riding Hells Angel / chorister who plyed me with white russians and seduced me out of my virginity. (True story and a night I look back on with not a little fondness!)
Oh ... sorry ... this wasn't meant to be a confessional thread ...
Hail, Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou ...
Oh bollocks to that ... we were a godless bunch. 🤣

The short answer is yes,

I bought mine from Love Honey as there was an offer, but on their site, it's branded as a sex position chair / queening chair. When I first learned about them, the one I own was designed to help people have sex with mobility issues. So possibly designed for what you want!

We have a very mismatched size difference, so women on top positions can be challenging. The chair/stool is a game-changer, they support you on elastic bands and allows you to bounce to your heart's content, taking the effort and strain out of it. It can also be used with a mount and a dildo for solo or partnered play.

It is also very good for oral, as it allows full access with the ability for you to have control over pressure and has a dominant air about it. I have seen them on a popular Chinese website for a lot less than I paid. Mine will pack down into a draw-string bag that my wife made and live on the top of the wardrobe. If it were found, no one would know what it is,

I would love you to give it a try as the antidote to that thread. There are men and women out there who are missing out on pleasure for no good reason.

Ps I am a normal chap, and if anyone doesn't want to ask a question on here, please feel free to PM me.

How am I supposed to lead Choral Evensong now, with those images in my head?

You're welcome.

MN does have an awful lot of users who seem to imply that they see sex as dirty, or a chore or dull. I've posted on several threads (outside the sex board) where I've had the pile on because I've dared to suggest that choosing to not have sex with your husband will end up killing the marriage. MN users seem to think sex should only be on the woman's terms at all times and damn the man who says he'd like sex more than once a year.

For me, there's a few friends who I share the "I love sex" conversation with. I've sadly also got a couple of friends who behave like shy teens when you raise having sex.

My partner told his best mate I love having sex - which isn't unreasonable. Then one drunken night his best mate told me he knew I loved having sex. Drunk mate seemed shocked when I replied "absolutely - and it's pretty good with your mate too. Want to know why?" Best mate backpedaled at that 🤣

As with all things in life, there are those who talk about things and those who do things. They are often not the same individuals.

@StarlightLady I would agree, but as @OfcourseitsaNC alludes to. I do believe there are more far Men that are all talk than women.

I would never underestimate how terrified a man can be of a sexually confident woman. I do think this is why they will try to bring them down with names. The first one I encountered was a little bit of a shock!!

Sexually confident but quiet is alluring.

Sexually confident and forward is a turn off.

It only takes a glance, a sparkle in the eye, a knowingness in her smile.........

I’ve been told on MN by another woman that they had names for girls like me when they were at school.

What a strange moment to backpedal.

I can imagine that too, which is even sadder, which is why I think many women, fully understandably, keep it on the QT. Rarely, if I ever have, I have heard a man criticised by a man for his sexual exploits, even when they needed criticising.

Not surprised at all. The kind of guy that can't keep his mates' confidence when he's had a few drinks has no game. All shirt, no trousers

Certainly agree with the not having sex comment - I’ve seen people advocating for stopping sex in relationships as a way to “punish “ people-this is just the most awful manipulative tactic and will certainly accelerate the end of any relationship or marriage