what do we think of anal sex? please be gentle

[LadyLavenderUrchin]

Ok ladies. I need some honest opinions or experiences here if you’d be kind enough to share. i know there are so many articles about this topic but I value firsthand experiences of real people. hubby and I may try anal sex for the first time. he is a good guy please dont think he pushes for it. it is all me. I just want to maybe surprise him for his 45th bday. please dont laugh at me I know it is not that big of a deal for a lot of people but we never done things like this. we have a good sex life - cross my heart I am satisfied but I dont even own toys lol. so this is a big step for me all things considered. I know about the steps I read a lot about how to prepare etc etc.

but my question is this:
do any of you enjoy/love it? truly enjoy it physically? can you get enough pleasure from it to have an orgasm? or is it just some myth? I have a friend who regularly does it with her husband but if anything she says she enjoys the taboo of it and not the feeling itself. so is it possible? or am I expecting something that is not likely? I know it would probably not happen the first few times anyway but maybe later? thanks!

Too much lube is still not enough.

lube, lube, lube.

Also lots of clit stimulation and maybe invest in a butt plug, it’ll hurt a lot less if you practice with one first. Get a set that graduates in sizing.

I participate on occasion, the statement in the OP's title is so appropriate (please be gentle) and sums things up nicely.

The first time I tried it hurt and I vowed never again, but my body, my rules and I can change them if I want to. The second time, quite some time apart and with others subsequently it has been different. It requires communication and trust. Although I would not climax from it, if done properly it can feel pleasant.

First of all, I would suggest a bath first, and wash your bum with hair conditioner, it's slippery so ideal. When lubricating use a slow circular motion and take your time this will encourage the point of entry to relax. A small plug can be useful here, nothing overly large and, again have it inserted maintaining the circular motion. It can be removed after a few minutes and allow him to be ready for entry. I would suggest all fours, stationary male and slowly back on. That way you can maintain your own speed and comfort zone.

Personally I would suggest the male wears a condom every time. Also he will be pumping air into you. Expect to fart immediately after the pull out. If you are not comfortable with this, then you are not ready to go down this road.

Finally, it''s not for everyone and absolutely refuse to be talked into anything that you do not want to do.

thanks for all the input ladies! no pun intended. we are done with the hubby's birthday and I stuck with what I said above - I let go of the anal play for now. we will explore outside of birthday presents. maybe if we both feel like it when we are on a cheeky weekend getaway with the kids over summer.

shoot I meant to say without kids. not with.

NC for this.

I used to have anal sex with my now DH.
He'd sit on the floor, back resting against the sofa, lube, lube, lube and a bit more lube.

I'd face and straddle him so I was totally in control of how deep he entered.
I also used to cum due to the position as my clitoris would rub against his belly as I slowly moved at my own pace.

Done gently, for me, it was something I really enjoyed.

I’ve had plenty of anal sex, never did any special preparation (other than lube, obviously) and never had any issue with poo on the guy’s cock afterwards. Just to reassure posters who might concerned.

My wife and I have finally started having anal sex. I've long had a massive fantasy about it - would take hours of psychoanalysis now to dig into why 😂

But, foreplay, spooning, lots of bum massaging. Lots of oil and then massage lube over hands and 'me', and it quite gently and naturally slips in - wife finds it pleasant. We have built up from very slow, to deeper and faster and it has been great 🙂 Takes patience.

This is my first post - hope the detail is acceptable! 😂

When lubricating use a slow circular motion and take your time this will encourage the point of entry to relax. A small plug can be useful here, nothing overly large and, again have it inserted maintaining the circular motion.

Um, speaking from a nurse POV, I would be very careful with a circular motion - see "bowel care" and DRS!