what do we think of anal sex? please be gentle

[LadyLavenderUrchin]

Ok ladies. I need some honest opinions or experiences here if you’d be kind enough to share. i know there are so many articles about this topic but I value firsthand experiences of real people. hubby and I may try anal sex for the first time. he is a good guy please dont think he pushes for it. it is all me. I just want to maybe surprise him for his 45th bday. please dont laugh at me I know it is not that big of a deal for a lot of people but we never done things like this. we have a good sex life - cross my heart I am satisfied but I dont even own toys lol. so this is a big step for me all things considered. I know about the steps I read a lot about how to prepare etc etc.

but my question is this:
do any of you enjoy/love it? truly enjoy it physically? can you get enough pleasure from it to have an orgasm? or is it just some myth? I have a friend who regularly does it with her husband but if anything she says she enjoys the taboo of it and not the feeling itself. so is it possible? or am I expecting something that is not likely? I know it would probably not happen the first few times anyway but maybe later? thanks!

Only done it properly twice, and it was very messy second time round. But it hurt a lot less than I thought, and I enjoyed it more than I thought. To avoid mess, make sure its not too long since you’ve been to the loo! Oh and no double dipping, I got a nasty infection thanks to selfish person I did it with switching up. Kind of put me off doing it again, will stick to the usual entry! But enjoy!

But even if someone has been to the loo there'll be residue. Stick a finger up anyone's arse (i used to be a hcp and this was often necessary to administer meds etc) and a gloved finger usually came out shit streaked. I just cannot imagine the state a cock would be in after repeated thrusting 🤮.

Yes, sometimes it's a bit messy. But more often than not I've found it to be surprisingly (also HCP!) clean. I would suggest a condom if you're concerned, for easy clean up.

And I know some people will advocate douching, or special diets, or whatever, but I've enjoyed plenty of spontaneous anal (and also pegging, less spontaneous but no special preparation) and there's never been anything so awful that I wouldn't do it again.

Basically, if you trust someone enough to let them stick their cock in your arse, you should trust each other enough to not freak out over the result.

I wonder if there has to be an element of 'hard sport' appreciation for people not to be repelled by the inevitable residue/skidmarks?

I can assure you that I have absolutely so appreciation for hard sports, but I am willing to put up with a little bit of poo or skid marks when it’s does happen during anal, and I can advise it is not often at all! At the end of the day if you are playing with the bum you must expect that sometimes there might be poo.

We never plan it, it’s purely when I know I’m almost certainly clean and in the mood.

i always stick to a few hour window after having a ghost poop. Never had any mess. (Touches wood)

I don't like it at all even with a ton of lube and being very gentle. A finger is fine but that's more than enough. I also hate how your butt hole feels afterwards. Some people like it, some tolerate it occasionally and some hate it. This is the sex topic though where people tend to be more experimental. I would imagine you'd get a lot more negative replies if this was AIBU.

'At the end of the day if you are playing with the bum you must expect that sometimes there might be poo'
Well yes and surely 'there might be poo' would be a huge turn off unless one is into hardsports? I like to be forward thinking and quite like a bit of bdsm for example and other stuff. But poo even just streaks and farts? No it'd just spoil it and is not sexy imo.

The point of my previous post is that it's not inevitable. My bedroom doesn't look like a dirty protest afterwards!

🤷‍♀️ It's not compulsory. No one has to justify why they don't want to do it. But I think it's preferable in this forum to not be too scathing of other people's enjoyment.

Not scathing at all, just puzzled as to how sexy it can possibly be. I'm very open minded generally and happy to be told skidmarks and streaks are not inevitable (though not convinced )

When I was younger I have done it a few times with my now husband. Lots of lube, some careful prep and it’s not messy. There will be occasional mess inevitably. I would use my now dead rabbit toy and have intense orgasms. We stopped doing it really as we had kids and got older, also because it’s a concluding act… it’s not going in anywhere else for a long while after and my DH prefers to be finished off with a BJ

Frequently!
and a severely spanked botty 😂

ghost poop??

Glad someone asked, I was wondering lol
Some unexplainable images going through my mind 🤣

A "ghost poop" is a colloquial term for a bowel movement that leaves no residue on toilet paper when wiping, sometimes also referring to stool that sinks without leaving a trace. Generally a sign of good fiber intake and adequate hydration, it indicates a well-formed, efficient bowel movement, often appearing as a smooth, solid shape”

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lol. what a weird term for a completely normal, average poop.

It is worth investing in some good lube, I recommend this one https://amzn.eu/d/0efEDV0d

I’ve done it a few times…once when I was a lot younger and didn’t enjoy it. Looking back being young and relatively inexperienced the guy in question wasn’t gentle enough and we didn’t know what we were doing.
DH expressed an interest in trying it, I wasn’t sure but we looked into it a bit and I jokingly said along the lines of “if you do me I get to do you” and he agreed! We tried it both ways 2 or 3 times and the consensus was we both enjoyed the pegging more but it wasn’t something we particularly needed to keep going back to. I enjoyed it more with DH than the first time and I guess it’s very much each to their own.

oh wow @brunettemic now that would be a leap and a half for us haha. I guess I dont have dominating urges like that. I like a good railing but for me to peg my husband never crossed my mind. I never saw the appeal. saw it in porn when women are acting like it's a real dick stroking it and I just rolled my eyes - love that is a piece of plastic haha. so I guess it is the play aspect or dominance as you said to each their own. I just think I'd get bored with thrusting but it not giving me anything in return physically lol

Depending on what you use, you can get some direct clit stimulation. But mainly for me the pleasure of pegging was from compersion. Like a man might enjoy using a toy on his female partner.

Yeah that makes sense @PaulRevere, I can definitely speak for something like that...

ah I get that. maybe I am too much of an old school or vanilla girl haha

I’d have said the same and it had never crossed my mind until he mentioned the idea of anal sex. I did like being in control but I certainly wasn’t suggestively playing with it 😂 I like my hips being grabbed in regular sex from behind so I enjoyed giving that a go. We still have “it” but it’s not been used for a while!

PAH!

She was a pussy cat compared to me! 😂

Please publish your anonymous memoirs. 🙏🏻 Ghost written if needs be.

And if you do, please do include how Cynthia Paine was a pussycat alongside you!