Partner expects oral sex but never reciprocates, how to address it?

[FedUp120028]

My partner just demands head all the time and never returns the favour. If I want any kind of intercourse I have to do ALL the work. He gets moody if I don't give him a bj.

His favourite phrase (only phrase) in our sex life 'blow job' and if I'm really lucky 'jump on'

Any ideas how yo approach this? Everything else is fine.

End it.

Why on earth are you having sex with him still with him? He has zero respect for you. He’s just treating you like a sex doll, he can’t even speak in sentences or say please. Please have some respect for yourself and stop this nonsense. You’re allowing him to treat you like shit. You’re worth waaaaay more than that. Dump him asap.

This sounds awful.
Your title suggests he doesn’t give oral but it sounds like he is not interested in foreplay or sex at all.
I bet he’s one of those who pushes your head down too! 🤬
Please stop giving him blow jobs and think about your relationship as a whole.

LTB

I would recommend zero BJs in the meantime…

Last time we had sex was a few months ago when we went away for the night and again, I did all the work. He uses his hands occasionally but its all about him and I am getting tired of it.

He doesn't push my head down no. I have been refusing to do it recently a lot more and hes getting grumpy saying I don't pleasure him these days.. I'm like WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS? I say okay and what am I getting out of this? And he'll say my company/cuddles. Cheers pal.

How you deal with it depends on the outcome you want.
Are you otherwise happy in the relationship and are you looking to improve it or end it?

Have you actually said that you don’t want to give oral unless it’s reciprocated? Actually spelled it out for him?

Is transactional sex good sex? Or os ot better to frame the discussion in terms of "I'd like to enjoy sex too. This is what works for me. How do you feel about that?"

Demanding head.. Gets moody if he doesn't get it... While unwilling to give head. I am sorry @FedUp120028 your partner is not a mature man, he is a moody teenager of the worst kind - the one that cares very little - if at all about others. I am very sorry, but when you say "everything else fine", I find it very hard to believe. A man with such a mindset will not be a good partner in any aspect of life, I am fairly certain. Self-absorbed, entitled ass who only thinks of his own pleasure, even when called out, he admits his company alone is a privilege...

My advice is to look after yourself a bit more, and raise your standards in men. Because this is disgustingly immature. There is no fixing that.

All of this.
why on earth would you want to be with a prick like this? find someone who actually treats you like a partner.

Why isn’t he giving you oral first? Make sure after foreplay that’s how it goes fro here on out.

Make him go down on you for weeks and nothing for him till he's done jt

The thing is you can’t make someone give you oral if they don’t want to do it. Equally the op can stop giving blow jobs st any time.

The main problem get is her man thinks the roles are that she gives and he receives. There is no fixing a mentality like that.

@FedUp120028 do you live together or have dc and how long have you been together. If you don’t have kids or live together I think the easy way to fix it is to end it with him.

A man who behaved like this wouldn't be getting head from me.

What are YOU getting out of this relationship OP?
It doesn't sound like he even likes you much.

Please dump immediately.

There are good men out there that wouldn't treat you like this.

Agreed. A man like this would make my thighs (and mouth) clamp shut more tightly than Melania Trump’s on her wedding night.

He’s a selfish lover. Not compatible. End it.

🤣

Well he sounds a catch !

I brought it up with umhim tonight in a light hearted way and he just avoided it with the whole 'don't start this again' after saying I don't eat meat anymore 🙃🙄

Please tell me you’re not still doing it for him!

Well stop eating his sausage for sure

It is appalling that he will not communicate with you about this, not to mention his whole “jump on” attitude to sex. Do you live with this selfish man?

My “life rules” always have been “no oral = no entry ⛔️” and the first time with a new man, expectations have always been part of a little chat, following the condom (another non negiotable) discussion before progressing to the point of no return.

No we don't live together.

I have stopped offering oral and he's complaining about it!

No no no and that is why he is complaining!