So what’s the norm when the guy is ‘finished’?

[bluedabadeedabadoo]

So I probably should know this at my age but I feel that my sex life has been pretty unfulfilled but a recent sexual encounter made me question this.
So during sex if the guy finishes during PIV and the woman doesn’t, is it normal practice for the man to continue in a different means until the woman reaches orgasm? I suppose this is both
a) if they have supposed orgasm prior to prior by other means.
b) either hasn’t initiated fingering/ oral or has but the woman hasn’t reached orgasm.

Well, I tend to cum quite quickly with my partner. Around about 80% of the time. We keep her dildo close by to help her reach orgasm.

Yes that’s a good idea, especially if it’s shall we say a bit ‘messy’ down there lol.

It's not "finished" until you're both "finished"...that's the rule.

Yep I was just wondering is that still the rule of the woman did cum before PIV? I’ve never had a man continue doing anything after they have cum but have recently experienced a guy making sure that I did cum before PIV.

The sequence and gender don't matter. So of course you should be completely sorted out before anyone heads anywhere. You've been using poor quality men if they walk off the job like that part way through.

Yer it does make the PIV pretty pointless even if I have cum before hand, I have still become aroused during PIV so would like it to lead somewhere.
Its my mission to be more confident with my sexual needs in future.

Well, like what JoyousMaker says, you can't leave a job half done!

No hard and fast rule ime.

It's been different with different men at different times and seasons of the relationship.

if I would like to cum again after he has, we normally have a bit of a cuddle, then either he will use his fingers or will hold me while I use a toy. What happened in your case @bluedabadeedabadoodid he just roll over and start snoring?! I guess occasionally that’s ok especially if it’s late- in which case I’d just finish myself off

I would want to be finished off, probably with clitoral stimulation either by hand or by vibrator.

Finishing together is the ideal...😀

Perhaps you need to train him to slow down a bit or more teasing for you prior to PIV or for you take control

I don’t climax from penetration alone, it feels lovely though, so no problem there. I prefer to climax from oral before someone enters; as l’ve said before, no oral, no entry. Once in a while l enjoy an oral only session too.

Post sex, l like to be held and enjoy the afterglow.

Well I’m not actually in a relationship, it was someone I was seeing for a short period. The first time he just got up, went to take the condom off. I thought he would come back and he didn’t so it felt a bit cold and awkward. The second time we cuddled. I did cum via oral so I didn’t feel too dissatisfied but because I had started to get aroused during PIV it would have been nice to finish as I can orgasm multiple times. I was just thinking more generally really that I’ve never had a man who has continued after they have finished!

OP the key is communication. Tell them what you want.

If you are having sex with someone it really should nit be difficult to tell them your wants and needs. ❤️

If I want to orgasm after my partner has come I just say so and use fingers or a bullet to come while he is holding me - I wouldn't say he is a very active participant but he enjoys it!

I think many men (not all!), don’t understand the importance of being held afterwards.

It’s very rare my partner climax’s before me but when he does we have a couple of mins break and then he’s hard again for round two. He won’t be happy with himself if I haven’t orgasmed. He really holds me tight and continues to kiss me after sex so I think it helps flow into more sex quite easily. He will usually go down on me before second round of piv as he will realise on that day in struggling to come ( peri annoyances).

Yea definitely. I’ve not been in a relationship for a long time but I’m hoping when this happens to be more confident in communication and communicating my needs.

Agree he doesn’t need to do much. I love how calm and relaxed he is. But there is nothing nicer than being held while I sort myself out!

I much prefer to make sure my DP has climaxed before I do. It seems to work out better that way and then we kiss and cuddle and pop off to sleep.

I think this post is referring to when we as women want another orgasm after her partner has climaxed though…

I'd say something like, wow that got me going again, I'd really like to come again. Probably with my hand already in place 😂 Up to him where he takes it from there, but I'll sort myself out if needed.

Unfortunately, for a lot of people it is really difficult for people to articulate what they like or don't like when it comes to sex. Coupled with the reality that quite a lot of people have insecurities, shame and low self awareness. The end result is both people come into the sex act with assumptions e.g. he or she should know what to do, comparison with previous experiences etc

Absolutely. I know I haven’t previously felt comfortable in communicating what I want/ like/ need but I’m really going to try moving forward.

It is not necessary for me to orgasm to feel that I have enjoyed sex with a man especially if I I love them. I can enjoy the moment when he does.
It can depend on where we started, on the sofa in sitting room or in bed. Is it a long and serious one or fun quickie bent over the table.
Does he finish in me or over my belly.
It has been a while since I was with a man. But with a woman we expect to bring each other off.