Anal!!

[Chilternone]

Hi,

my new partner wants to try anal with me- any tips? Does it actually bring pleasure?

It should be down to you entirely. Do you have a sense already of whether you might enjoy it?

I’m not averse to trying as long as it’s taken slowly. My 44 year old a hole will need patience

That's quite an expression! But surely that patience and prep should be enjoyable for the two of you?

I think that it’s something I’d like to try. If it’s awful I won’t do it again

Maybe try a finger or butt plus first? See how that feels? No need to rush straight to anal sex!

I always find it amazing how many men find poop to be disgusting,
but find farts to be hilarious,
and go absolutely gaga over the ideal of anal sex.
Weird.

Sorry I can't offer you any advice on this issue. Haven't tried this yet.

"My 44 year old a hole"

is that what you call DH 😀

Start with a finger or butt plugs and plenty of lube. Work up to anal (again with plenty of lube). It is something I've tried in my dim and distant past!

I find the after glow feeling & mild discomfort quiet stimulating but definitely head the advice above take it slow and lots of lube, the channel tunnel wasn’t built in a day lol

Also men can be very selfish here, tell him what’s good for the goose is good for the gander and would he like look at some strapons with you?

Promise you it’ll be worth it just see his face and reaction 😂

Quite the expert @Angela59 🤔😜

buy a strap on the same size as his penis and ask him when he’d like you to peg him.
If he’s not willing to be pegged, ask him why he thinks it’s ok for him to want to penetrate you anally. Female buttholes are not different to male buttholes.
ONLY do this if YOU want to do it. Not because he’s asking for it.

Yes - start with a finger , as a man of a certain age, I’ve had internal exams and it’s uncomfortable- but not painful

Agree with most of this but a strapon is not the same as a penis sensation wise. I have been pegged and enjoyed it but did feel it felt too hard and cold if that makes sense,?

I think anal is a rare treat in my relatipnship. My partner likes it but only when she's in the mood. She's done it with previous partners so it was not such a bog deal when it became a thong we did. Practice makes perfect though and lube and lots of it is the key. Also, take it slow.

Actually they are.

And a strap on is quite different to a normal penis. It’s much harder and a completely different texture.

@Chilternone start with fingers, move to butt plugs, then if you feel comfortable go from there.

my DP uses a strap on with me on special occasions but I have to feel 100% relaxed and have an empty bowels 😂

But, i do agree with others who have said if he wants anal play with you but won’t reciprocate then you shouldn’t go there unless you are 100% sure you want to

The answer to this is to get yourself a better quality strapon! It’ll mean spending some money, but it’s well worth it for the pleasure, especially if it’s a regular thing for you.

In answer to the OP’s question of does anal give you pleasure: Yes!!! It feels great to be on the receiving end, certainly for men anyway. I think if it wasn’t for the insecurities about being able to admit that you enjoy anal penetration (to both yourself and your partner) then far more hetero men would be more-than-willing regular recipients.

I participate occasionally from time to time. For me, if done skilfully and oh, ever so slowly it feels very pleasant but l wouldn’t say it sets the world alight.

With the lube, massage the anus gently running your fingers in a circular motion. This will cause the anus to relax as well as providing sufficient lubrication for entry. New participants may find it easier on all fours and gently back on to him while he keeps stationary. If it hurts, then pause or even stop.

Communication is vital and you can practice by only going for the foreplay and then stopping. It’s not for everyone though and never feel pushed into anything. On this occasion the OP seems keen to try.

It can feel absolutely amazing. Really good anal sex is the most intense earth-shattering feeling I have ever experienced. BUT half the time we try it, it doesn’t feel good and we stop. I really like a penis in my arse (sorry so vulgar but here we are…), I do not like fingers or sex toys at all. Different positions feel different - of course. I prefer face to face with legs up high.

I guess I don’t need to say only do it if you really want to - you don’t have to ever, go slow, stop if you need to, but I think it’s worth a try if you’re interested but I’d try most things once!

The GP knuckles deep in my arsehole having a rummage was enough for the word pegging to bring on a cold sweat!

Important addendum to my post above.

When l said “massage the anus gently running your fingers in a circular motion” l meant the tip or the opening of the bum. You need to spend some time doing this before a finger can comfortably proceed further. It’s akin to knocking on the door and saying that you want to come in. The relaxation from the massage should allow comfortable further entry.

lf there’s a lot of resistance, stop and massage more. And keep lube to hand throughout, being ready to add more.

After a finger (short nails a must) can gently proceed, you may also want to consider a small plug, and have it removed immediately before receiving someone. Entry is easier that way as full closure afterwards does not happen immediately.

Again, it’s not for everyone and never do what you don’t want to do.

Finally, l would always recommend a condom for this, even if you are not a regular condom user.

Plugs are a good start

How big would you say for a beginner? What material?

You can buy them in packs of 3 or 4 different sizes, small to large. They’re literally designed for people who are starting to explore their bums as sexual pleasure zones.

Thanks that sounds good! Asking for a friend - yes really LOL

This friend is suggesting think small. Acrylic or metal is prob best in my view, for hygiene reasons. They are not just for beginners and can be used to ensure comfort.