Probably NSFW, wrong hole.

[Spliffinity]

This is one of those topics that British people just don’t talk about but should talk about.

How often does he accidentally poke it up your bum hole during vaginal sex, when there was absolutely no intention of anal?

We’ve been together for 18 years, married for 12. This is probably the sixth or seventh time he’s thrust back and forward and it’s slipped out the right hole into the wrong hole. The first time I yelped and laughed it off. Probably did the second time. Third, fourth and fifth I made some kind of noisy protest and out of shock I definitely called him an insult preceded by ‘you f**king…’ And after some hugs and kisses etc, we’ve gotten back to what we were doing except may be him not going back inside of me.

But this morning was different. I was on my knees with my head low, he was stood behind me thrusting down. As soon as I realised what had happened I hollered and jumped up. He was very apologetic but I was actually in tears with the pain. I went to the bathroom and there was fresh red blood, but not a lot.

I’ve absolutely no suspicion that each time wasn’t accidental. We’re not a ‘missionary only’ couple and we both enjoy anal, although not for a long while. This morning he wanted to pick up where we left off and I really had to drive home to him how uncomfortable I was and that the moment was well and truly gone for me. I reminded him that being dry poked in the ass, and not gently, is something he will never likely experience so he cannot even begin to know what it feels like.

Right now I never want to have sex again. I’m still bleeding and not looking forward to needing a poo. I know I’ll get over it, but I’m curious where I am in the grand scheme of how often this happens to other couples?

Is there any way of “avoiding it” without becoming celibate or limit thrusting 🫣

If DH tried that with me I’d cut his balls off
I’m so sorry for you☹️

Chill out he clearly didnt mean it from the post.

Its happaned to me a good few times. Esp with smaller guys. I have honestly never found away to avoid it

I’ve had times where his cock has slid across my ass, or the tip has pushed against it. I’ve never had a guy “accidentally” penetrate my ass even when pounding hard. And I’ve slept with a lot of men! I’m sorry OP but that sounds deliberate. I’d be fuming in your shoes.

This. Yes push against accidently but never all the way in.

Thx for your insight. I can appreciate how it sounds but I really don’t think he’s doing it on purpose. He’s the only dude it’s ever happened with, and yeah we’ve been together a long time but we each had a detailed sexual CV when we met. There’d be no incentive to do it on purpose as it ruins the moment and we’ve never continued with penetration after (although this morning was the first time where I actually left the room and didn’t come back for 20 min), so that would be a him ‘cutting his nose off…’ scenario. Right?

He’s big but not in length IYKWIM, and right before it happened I was giving him verbal encouragement to go harder. May be that’s the problem. Whatever happens, we ain’t doing it in that position again 😒

If I’d ever suspected he’s doing it deliberately there’d have been no third or fourth time, let alone fifth or sixth…

In the position you describe he would be able to see exactly where he was penetrating

Accident, my arse.

I've been with my DH for 10 years and it has never happened. It's slipped out and accidentally pushed against my bum maybe three times? But never gone all the way in. And those 'nearly' times have always been in positions like cowgirl or missionary, where he couldn't actually see. I'm struggling to see how he could put it in the wrong hole during doggy, where he can see everything?

Its not about seeing, to many of you want to be angry. Guys that arnt big in lenght can slip out easy and it bounces around and if they r going at speed it can be in the wrong place! Op said she does anal wtf wld he do this when he can simply ask for anal?

Surprised at some of these responses - I find it very hard to believe it was an accident to be honest.

If this happened more than once no way would I be doing it in that position again.

Tell him fairs fair and you’d like him to know how it feels, tell him you’ll be gentle & use lots of lube

Tis the season of good will & it’s better to give then receive 🥳

I don't believe this was written by a woman.

Agree!

I think this too.,, the fact you have been bleeding. Are you ok now? Has the bleeding stopped?
From experience I’ve had nothing more than an accidental poke if we’ve done it in the dark and he’s slid out but nothing more than at and it’s gone back to the right place. It’s very odd though and I can understand why you want make sense of it as you do anal ( when you prep) so I would think why does r he just ask so I can give consent and prep and not be in pain and upset?

He's too rough. You shouldn't be receiving anal "accidentally". If he wants to try it, you should have a conversation about it, and your consent given or refused.

May be in day light, on this occasion the curtains were closed and no lamps were on.

Didn't expect so much negativity in these comments. I must not be expressing myself clearly, especially for two people to believe I’m not a woman.

As for him being able to see where he’s thrusting, I can’t comment. I don’t have his POV when he’s behind me. I can’t remember what position we were in every time it’s happened, but yesterday was the first time it happened in that position. I can say he doesn’t do long strokes like your typical male porn star, because he doesn’t have the length for that.

Yes, we go hard because that’s how I like it. But no, he’s not sneaking it into my ass just to get a bit of anal because anal is something we do. And would be fucking futile because each time it’s happened the moment’s gone until I’ve gotten over the shock, and I’m pretty much averse to having his cock back inside me for at least a day.

But, if you still believe my DH is deliberately dry poking my ass then please educate me why.

I fail to see how anyone can do this by accident. If you are not well prepped with lube the resistance would be significant.

Thank you. I’m thinking this is my problem, his lack of length and the fact I need him to go hard to for me to be satisfied. I recall laughing at the “same penis forever” banner from my hen do 🫣 Oh well vows taken, “for better or worse” 🤣

Well it's never happened to me, so I can't really believe it's accidental at all.

It happened to me once with my partner and it was absolutely an accident. Also doggy style. It was incredibly painful. I agree it is likely to be something with your technique together, if it has happened a few times and you are sure it is accidental - and you do appear sure

I think your situation is unique in terms of being injured and that’s why people have drawn that conclusion that it was on purpose ( including me).

Usually if it’s doggy style the penetration would have got quote intense ( it does for me and dp) however an accidental poke once in a while and no bleeding as it hasn’t gone in. That’s why I question it.

I am sorry if I’ve offended you and hope the bleeding has stopped.

Also to add to my arguement my partner has a massive penis, it is long and has a lot of girth and he’s a big guy. I’ve still not been harmed and this is why I say what I say.

Does he accidentally hit other areas surrounding your vagina a lot? E.g. pudendum/clit/labia/perineum/etc? Because it seems like he'd be bashing away at these areas far more than managing to sink straight into your unlubricated anus. I get your argument that it's counterproductive for him to try this on purpose, but no, it's never happened to me, and accidentally just doesn't quite ring true.