Up the bum?

[GentleJadeOP]

Can I just ask, do any women actually enjoy it or pretend like porn stars do? It’s just so painful and I can’t work out why a woman would enjoy it? Another thread currently running gives the impression is a big ‘No’ so I just thought id ask. Out of curiosity really as no intention of ever doing it again 🤣

It's not for me, but each to their own.

DH on the other hand quite likes to recieve, but that's another topic altogether

That’s because the prostate is stimulated, same as in gay men. But I can’t understand it for a woman?

I’ve tried and it just feels like taking a giant and painful shit - which in turn, turns me off.
However a female friend of mine is adamant that it’s the best orgasm she’s ever had.

I’m wondering if it’s to do with different physiology.

It is an unfortunate trend on MN to take a personal experience or preference and adamantly claim that this is applicable to all persons of a gender.

The very obvious answer is that some do, some don't.

Not for me. Tried once years ago and couldn't get it anywhere close to in me. Never tried it since and don't feel I'm missing out.

Horrible, I've no idea why anyone would like it. A finger is one thing but a whole cock is way too much.

I do it a few times a year as OH thinks it’s Christmas when we do! If it’s painful we stop obviously but normally ok if I’m worked up enough. I do orgasm but by using a bullet too. I wouldn’t do it if he wasn’t fussed

Same for men too, personally not for me but I would oblige if asked.

I think a lot of it is to do with the tightness of the asshole 😂 my ex enjoyed it and it was never an issue, with my current DP it’s a real struggle to get inside. Personally I’m not fussed either way.

the desire and mood will also play a part, sometimes I really enjoy her with a strap on yet on other times it feels like a rocket is up my arse!

I love it personally, if you do it right lots of lube etc is it great

Preferred it to the point I was almost anal only, felt nicer, deeper and did more for me. Post having kids and being older I don't prefer it all now, apart from very occasionally. So I think it's possible to enjoy it but not for everyone, and depends hugely on your partner and how intune you are together. It's certainly not something that should be 'expected'.

Only ever tried it once and didn't really like it. Won't be trying it again. I do wonder how these porn stars manage to insert huge (and I mean the massive) dildos or, god forbid, someone's fist/forearm. Makes me wince even thinking about it.

I love it, I've only done it with two people in my life because it needs a lot of trust and communication but it's so intense and intimate. I couldn't do it more than a couple of times a month though and usually less.

I didn't ever want to do it but my ex-partner just kept on pushing until he got his own way - so l probably wasn't really in the mood to enjoy it

It's like asking why climb Everest. If you have to ask, you'll never get it.

I have with 2 partners. My husband (back in the day he was interested) and an ex. Husband is too well endowed and even with a bucket of lube it hurt. Ex was smaller, he loved it, I didn’t get much from it so never did it again until I got married 10yrs later

Only ever done it with my husband, it’s our normal kind of sex now. We aren’t anal only as we always start with PIV but then most times move onto anal for us both to finish! I have for more frequent and intense orgasms from anal and the combination of a womanizer on my clit. Weirdly I don’t like a finger up my bum at all.

Did it once cos my husband kept asking first it. Never again, just hated it. He is ok with other doing it cos he knows i don't like it, but at least i tried.

I always really fancied it and then when I did get to do it, I found it didn't really feel much different to POV. The 'complications' involved in doing it aren't always lovely (pain for the woman, mess etc) so from my point of view it's one of those fantasies that should remain as a fantasy.

YMMV

Everyone's different. My DW of 30+ years won't have full anal but loves to receive oral and a finger or two or possibly three if the mood takes her. She doesn't orgasm but it has become an essential part of foreplay.
Forty years ago before porn was readily available ,a young lady I was seeing introduced me to anal sex, she was experienced. Unbeknown to me she had prepared herself before hand and without asking just guided me in . I thought it was my birthday, we both enjoyed it and looked forward to the next time.
My next gf was keen experiment in most aspects of sex, as long as it was spontaneous. She insisted NO lube ( because preparation would mean it wasn't spontaneous love making) and as you can imagine the experience was a painful disaster. She had tried it previously so I was confused by her approach.
I think most people have given it a go at some point but clearly it's not for everyone.

I hate it. My biggest concern about it though is how it is normalised in sex education lessons in secondary school. It is presented as a perfectly normal practice that anyone can do, not just gay men, and enjoy, with absolutely no qualifier. For example no warning that some women can be seriously injured because most women are physically so much smaller than men. And most obviously the body is just not designed for this practice.

As ever in our desperate race to “inclusion” and fear of being seen to be “kink shaming”, we are actually endangering young girls and women who are nudged into believing it’s a perfectly harmless sex practice and they should enjoy it. With boys and men coached into expecting it and believing their sexual experiences to be boring and “vanilla” without it.

Horrible, horrible - tried it twice and both times it gave me uncontrollable diarrhoea!

Enjoy it but it's more in depth pun intended. I like pain when I'm stressed.

The secret is to empty your bowels beforehand plus use lube. Prunes and plenty of water will help.

I have always enjoyed it personally. Relaxing.

I participate from time to time, if done slowly, skilfully and gently l would describe the sensation as very pleasant, but certainly not orgasmic. When you begin it feels like doing a backwards poo at first but then the sensation changes.