Do you talk about sex with friends?

[Aishabibi]

Following on from a message on my other thread, I was wondering how many of you can talk openly about sex with friends. I definitely cant, it’s quite taboo amongst my friends. I am Indian, as are lots of my closest friends, so wonder if it’s our upbringing? It’s probably the main reason I’ve started posting here, peri sex surge, lots of disrupted thoughts, and no one I can talk to about it. I guess anonymity here helps us be more open and I’ve enjoyed some very honest frank conversations over the past few months

I've never discussed it with friends (male), which is also why I find this group useful

I'm male, and yes I do, with selected friends. My closest friend, whom I've known for decades, and another guy a bit older than me (he's 70, I'm late 50s, he was a teacher at my school.)

It's good to talk.

I think a lot of people struggle talking to friends about their sex lives.

I have a very good friendship group but we never really seriously talk about it in our conversations. We talk and support each other through issues we have, but sex is the one thing we all tend to keep private.

glad it’s not just me.

i do think it would help if my close friend group did talk about it, i imagine we have similar issues and may have solutions for each other.

I’ve really enjoyed venturing into this board

@yorkshireteabagman Ive never discussed sex with anyone male outside of a relationship. It’s actually good to hear perspectives from the opposite sex, no?

Certain close friends, yes. When I was younger we would go in detail and talk about what past partners were like in bed but with my husband I keep it private. I might just tell little snippets.

How much detail would you go into if you don’t mind me asking @GigiAnnna? The closest I’ve come to a conversation is about a pregnancy scare, confessing a split condom. Even that felt like I was embarrassing my friend

Yes. Openly too

Yea really helpful. I had a female friend at 18 and we would talk, but that was just teenage stuff, in adult life absolutely nobody so understanding the perspectives has been beneficial overall I think

To a degree it depends on what is meant by discussing your sex life, talking about how lacking it is, yes have done that with a very small number of people that I felt very comfortable with( strangely close work friends and of the opposite sex) joked about it as do many in larger groups, but actually talking about sex life in any detail such as what we do, what we like etc, absolutely not

Same

It is my favourite subject to talk about

Well, there's a surprise! 😉

I have one geographically distant friend who knows everything. As in all things, a trusted confidante is very beneficial.

Otherwise no. Friends of mine have occasionally told me things about theirs, but I'm almost certain they don't want to know about mine.

I talk about it with a couple of friends, but always 1 on 1, not as a group. There's very little I won't share though and I feel they are the same, its a trust thing I guess

It isn’t a normal topic of discussion etc aside from knowing looks etc. I have when on a girls night out and drinks been flowing too much and then prob talked more. I have shared somewhat with my best friend and that was mutual, and also interesting

Never with friends as I feel it would be disrespectful to my partner. I have even typed out replies to questions on this board then deleted them as giving too much info didn’t sit right. I do think this board is a very good resource and possibly more honest for being anonymous

As a male, there is absolutely no one I could talk to about sex.
That said, I know previous female partners (plural) have discussed intimate sexual details about me with friends. I know this, because either they have told me, or some things that I wouldn't have wanted shared have found their way back to me.

Yes I do.

with very few people - i'm south asian like yourself so it's always a taboo thing. Certain people I can have a really honest conversation, some I can't.

Crude details to be honest. But it depends on the friends. With certain friends I wouldn't even share what you described. With my best friend who I've known 27 years and another friend I've known for a lot less but she is on my wavelength, I can talk openly as can they. I'm talking things like masturbation, orgasms, sex positions, penis size.

Very open with a select group of friends!
I do talk about sex very easily and shamelessly. I thank my parents for that part of my upbringing. I realise now as an adult how rare it is for people not to be embarrassed talking about sex and it makes me sad really.
I try to do the same with my children.

Not in a vulgar way. Just describing things exactly as they are.

I wonder whether one day it'll be no different to talking about food, recipes etc.

I've also learned a lot from reading and occasionally posting on this forum.

Probably talked more about family or work problems than sex problems in a group in pub.
Did talk with one or two friends about OLD. One friend, (not my best friend) did introduce me to someone which led on to an affair with another woman.
But never details.

With a few close girlfriends, yes! Often in a lighthearted way over a glass of wine rather than graphic descriptions. Although if something was bothering me, l’d discuss more serious issues with the same people.