How many women enjoy anal?

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Silly question, I'm 33 and out of a relatively long term relationship. She was a bit of a fiend for it and hence I have acquired a taste. I am seeing someone new (nothing serious) and have been wondering whether to bring it up, how common is it?

Like what?

Probably something inserted up the bum.

I enjoy it and I've initiated it in long term relationships, short term relationships and on the first night.

I think it still very much falls into the category of a "kink" so I'd be waiting until you're at the point there's enough intimacy and trust to be discussing any and all fantasies and kinks before bringing it up. It's something we do occasionally but isn't part of our everyday sex life.

I enjoy it with partners I trust. Add a wand and I’m in heaven. So many nerve endings..!

Have also pegged DP in the past but, much as he liked the sensation, he always felt like he was going to pee so told me to stop.

Forgive my ignorance but it must be incredibly painful? How do you reach orgasm anally? Nowhere near the clit.

@Suburbanqueen - If done gently and slowly with proper prep, l don’t find it painful. I’d describe the sensation as feeling very pleasant rather than orgasmic.

But OP, it is probably not a good idea to bring this up early on.

Avoid this early on you might put her completely off

I agree with lots of the posts - it's all about building up trust and that takes time
Up until recently I had only ever had anal sex once when I was 18 - and I was forced / tricked into it :(
It was very painful - I bled afterwards and was sore for days afterwards !! and I promised myself I would never do it again
However recently my long term partner and I wanted to experiment and much to my surprise I am enjoying it
So my advice would be to see how the relationship develops before suggesting it

I was in a situation the other way around to most, me being male who had zero interest with a female partner that wanted to to do it, at the time (many years ago) I gave in and ended up trying it, it’s not my favourite thing, the most I get from it is seeing my partners reaction when we also use a toy, that is something I enjoy about it.

So, it's OK to bring this up in a conversation (even quite early on) if you generally talk about sexual preferences anyway. If you haven't discussed sex at all in any sort of detail, then springing anal on them in a conversation could backfire.

Give her lots of oral, regularly,, don't stop or change pace for 10, 20 minutes at a time, whatever she wants, hug her for a while afterwards, after a few months of this suggest a bit of pressure to that area using a thumb during oral to spice it up, and for her to see if she likes it, no rush you have the rest of your lives

In my experience it's not that common. I slept with, oh, maybe 7 or 8 people I think. Actually none of them were into anal. Maybe if I would have really pushed I could have convinced one or two; I have no idea. When they weren't into it, I was like, right, fair enough. My wife loves it and has fantasies about it. But then she's absolutely awesome. She was the first person I ever did it with. But yeah, not very common. I dunno on one level if you really want anal you could just date women who like anal, but on the other hand, the ones you turn down because they don't like anal, they could each be totally awesome women. Tough choice.

I wouldn’t bring it up unless it’s something you can’t do without now? Anal can divide any room. I enjoy it but most of my friends don’t. Some of them will tolerate it on occasion for their partner, some won’t even entertain it. I’d say give it a while, if she doesn’t bring up then she’s probably not into it and you don’t want to feel like your strong arming her into it then