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How best to ask for more time spent on oral sex

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Zorro1885 · 08/06/2025 19:44

Just looking for some advice in how to encourage a sexual partner to engage more in oral sex.

For background, I've had very little of it. Was in a long marriage with my first partner and he never did it, not once.
I've had a little experience of it since divorce, but it's been a few minutes as part of foreplay and then they move on.
I find it pleasing and the thought of it turns me on. I think if someone is good and keeps going then it might help lead to an orgasm (of which I have only been able to achieve around 10 times with my ex using his hands - but can easily achieve it solo).
Mostly my partners now are very short term. 1or 2 ONS, and a few where we had a few dates first. Sadly I haven't had sex with any of them more than twice so if I want to have some oral fun I need a way to politely ask/make it clear on our first time.

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Namechangednorth · 12/06/2025 13:02

yorkshireteabagman · 12/06/2025 12:49

on the subject of hair, does facial hair affect enjoyment? My DW complains probably 50% of the time about my facial hair, stopping me during the act because of the irritation. It's either too short like sand paper, or took long and irritation (1-3mm stuble I would say). Given that probably half of blokes have facial hair, is this a global problem or just an issue in my bedroom?! I like doing it so it's frustrating, but I'm not willing to sacrifice my face

It isn’t great to be frank but that might just be me

StarlightLady · 12/06/2025 13:05

yorkshireteabagman · 12/06/2025 12:49

on the subject of hair, does facial hair affect enjoyment? My DW complains probably 50% of the time about my facial hair, stopping me during the act because of the irritation. It's either too short like sand paper, or took long and irritation (1-3mm stuble I would say). Given that probably half of blokes have facial hair, is this a global problem or just an issue in my bedroom?! I like doing it so it's frustrating, but I'm not willing to sacrifice my face

It can become uncomfortable. I’m not sure if you are referring to a shaved face or a beard? If the latter, l suggest using hair conditioner on it, that certainly makes it softer. Otherwise try latching on while your tongue is doing the work.

Gymbunny2025 · 12/06/2025 13:11

yorkshireteabagman · 12/06/2025 12:49

on the subject of hair, does facial hair affect enjoyment? My DW complains probably 50% of the time about my facial hair, stopping me during the act because of the irritation. It's either too short like sand paper, or took long and irritation (1-3mm stuble I would say). Given that probably half of blokes have facial hair, is this a global problem or just an issue in my bedroom?! I like doing it so it's frustrating, but I'm not willing to sacrifice my face

I have a sweet spot for stubble that I really can’t get enough of. Neither me nor him are ever quite sure what it is but he does try to maintain it at that!

yorkshireteabagman · 12/06/2025 14:54

@StarlightLady stubble, definitely not a beard

MoreSaltthanPepper · 17/06/2025 09:35

Think you need to be assertive about this making it clear that you need more than a perfunctory lick before progressing to penetrative sex. I would say most men like giving oral (although I haven’t conducted a poll ) Obviously in a long term relationship a man hopefully learns what his partner likes. If it is a one off or a brief dalliance you need to give direction when he is down there & maybe join in with your fingers from time to time alternatively you could suggest switching to 69 or even sitting on his face so you are in control .I appreciate that this all depends on your confidence & whether he is willing but if you don’t ask ……

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