Adventure in the bedroom!

[beccabrown021]

Okay, so me and my partner have a fantastic sex life. But we are wanting to try something new, more adventurous. Does anyone’s partners have a fantasy of seeing you with someone else? If so, have you done it and how did it feel?
Also, please throw some sexy ideas at me for us to try! I’d love to hear new suggestions.

Thanks guys ☺️

NC for this as obviously not something I want public. Yes it turned out he had the fantasy of seeing me with another man. Not something I had ever expected and led to a lot of talking and eventually I said I would try it for him. We arranged it and yes with some wine to get things going and relax it was a fairly wild experience and we had full sex with OH watching it all, and joining in a little at the end.

I had very mixed feelings. Some excitement but also a lot of nerves. He maintains it has been the best experience and fantasy come true ever and he wants to do more. We haven’t though

My husband has this fantasy also, I’ll be honest, I do want to try it for him because the thought of his reaction is quite a turn on, however I’m extremely nervous and maybe a bit scared to try it. But I do want to do it eventually for him. Did you go to a hotel or did you do it in your own home?

Yes, we do this regularly, in the sense that my wife sleeps with her fwb.

I don't sleep with anyone else and prefer this arrangement. Its exciting and watching her is fun.

We had booked a week away and had a holiday lodge in another part of the country. We used that and had the experience away from home as I def didn’t want in our house or bed. So he came to join us, drinks and chats forms while and then we decided to try slowly but got going fairly quickly I guess.

it sounds like you are feeling like you want to do it for him, same as me really but it did go well I guess is the best way of describing it

Oh and I think scared is fairly normal. But don’t try and unless you feel ready and want to as easy to feel pressured by his fantasy

Don’t you get jealous?

we want to be more adventurous and try new things with each other also so any suggestions in that area?

I’ve said this to my husband. I don’t want to do it in my own home, in our bed where we are intimate. I’d rather get a hotel or a weekend away somewhere.

I think I’d like to do it once and fulfil his fantasy then maybe he can do mine too haha. It’s just a bag of mixed emotions isn’t it. I’d probably need alcohol too to give me confidence

I would def recommend being away from home but somewhere you are comfortable and time to get ready.
Yes some wine helps but also time to meet and get to know them etc, both before and on the day

Is that what you did? Meet them before hand? Was it someone you knew or did you find them online

Hi, I dont get jealous at all. For me its the whole part of seeing her enjoy it, that makes it so exciting and spicy.

I dunno, I mean this is quiet spicy and adventurous in its own regard and carries its own risk. So its up to you and I would suggest taking things one at a time.

Other things we have done are things like watch other couples, without participating, at swinger events.

Thankyou! Appreciate the honestly and tips! I mean it’s the thought of seeing my husband enjoy his fantasy is quite a turn on, but my feelings and thoughts are mixed! Scared and nervous to say the least.

It wasn’t anyone friends with but oh had chatted and then we did FaceTime before the weekend it happened to be sure we were all ok with it. I also made it clear that I had to feel ready that day and it might just be a chat and drink and no more which he said he was fine with. He was really nice normal professional guy that we got on with well with.

He came over and we chatted and then all used the jacuzzi in the lodge which helped relax us all with bubbly as well and then things happened fairly naturally

He said he just liked the thought of doing this. He was also very considerate of me and focussed on making me enjoy things as well.

I think you need to be very careful when introducing another person into a relationship, call me a cynic but I think people usually either want a monogamous relationship or a non monogamous relationship, and if the goal posts suddenly change I’d worry that there was more to it than having a bit of fun.

If you are 100% for it, I’d suggest wax, which is part of killing kittens. It’s basically a mix of tinder and meet up with explicits added!

id only be concerned that he is suggesting this because HE wants to have sex with another women, and it could be a selfish act as opposed to a selfless one.

there are so many things to enhance an otherwise fulfilling sex life, but it can be a bit like porn/drugs in the sense that what was initially seen as exciting and fun soon turns into the norm and you will end up looking for more and more explicit things to do, which you may not be comfortable with.

my OH ( of admittedly only three months ) have an amazing sex life and have recently purchased a blow up ‘sex chair’ , a strap on dildo ( which she uses ) , sex in a hot tub and sex in public ( ish) - all very exciting and fun, all of which were consensual but you can see how it can progress to being fun, private and relatively normal to really pushing the boundaries which could eventually get us both into trouble!

My man is also into the idea of sharing me with another man, and has no idea how it came about! 😂

Thankyou for this! I do agree with a lot of your points, however it’s not a woman he wants to see me with. He said the thought of me being penetrated by someone else is a turn on, and it’s a turn on to my I guess to see how he would reach! A 3some so to speak but MFM. We do have a very amazing and adventurous sex life!

I just wanted to know if it was a fantasy of other men too, but it seems it’s more common than I initially thought.

Seems it’s quite common! Are you considering it? I am!

Yes, I am. We're not rushing into it, have established our rules and red lines etc, and although we're some way off making it happen, I think it will.

I also think it's way more common than people generally think. Have you asked any friends about whether it's ever come up? I did, and got some interesting answers.

Same, I’ve told him if it were to happen what I’d accept and what I wouldn’t. Would your partner join in or just watch? Would it be someone you know or not?

it’s something I’ve never spoken about with friends because I don’t think my partner wants people who we know to know his fantasies. It’s quite personal to us. But asking this way is more safe.

it seems it’s really common for male partners to fantasise this way! Would it be something you book a night away for?

We use to think we were the only couple into this, because of the negative connotations around it. The whole concept of it puts alot of people off.

Feels like over the past couple of years it has become more popular.

It does appear to be quite common!

He would definitely be joining in, both guys focusing on me. I don't want to do anything without him involved etc. I think that would feel too close to cheating?

Yes, we would definitely book a night away for it. I don't like the idea of trying this at home, plus I think away would add to the naughty feeling, too! 🙂

That’s exactly how I feel too! Definitely too close to cheating if he wasn’t involved. I’m not sure how I feel about kissing another man though as I find it quite intimate!

yeah, agree with the night away making it feel more naughty! If you go ahead with it you’ll have to let me know how it goes!

I didn’t tell anyone and then I did spill the beans to my bestie. Turns out she had tried it before although not with her current partner and she was very open minded about it. She said they had great fun and when they split it wasn’t due to that. Made me feel more comfortable about it

Why do you think this might be? I also have the same impression, too.

It does seem it’s quite popular among couples so I do feel slightly more at ease knowing it’s not uncommon! Suppose it can be quite thrilling