Orgasms - are everyone’s the same?

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NCd for this for obvious reasons.

I’ve always been curious about whether everyone’s orgasms feel the same. I see and hear about women who absolutely scream the house down when they come, or shake all over etc. I do neither of those things (in fact when I’m alone I am often completely silent). So are the screamers and shakers experiencing something I’m not?

At the same time, mine differ too. Some are noticeably better than others, and I can’t figure out why. But even my best ones don’t make me scream.

So my question is, can you describe yours? I’m interested in men and women. I’ve always wondered if men’s and women’s feel the same as well. I’ve never been sure in my head whether I think they would! I’d love to feel what it’s like to ejaculate, but I wonder if I have without realising because men’s and women’s are the same!

I’ll go first, since I’m asking:

The build up feels like a tingle in my genitals, with the centre being my clitoris. My whole body feels lovely but there’s an urge to carry on doing the thing that’s making me feel nice. At some point there is then a noticeable increase in pleasure that lasts for a few seconds and is the last opportunity for me to stop. But I never do. Instead I want the stimulation to get faster.

Next comes the orgasm itself. This is what I can only describe as an explosion of pleasure from my clitoris that sends a wave of tingling joy over my whole body. I can feel it travelling quickly up through my chest and down my legs. It is the most intense pleasure i feel doing anything ever. Like scratching an itch in the most satisfying way. It is so strong that I sometimes want to gasp (but I can resist this urge and be silent. I never want to scream).

This lasts for a few seconds and is accompanied by contractions in my vagina that are involuntary. They fade along with the pleasure, and my body relaxes. I then feel calm and often sleepy. All sexual desire leaves me. If I’m masturbating I sometimes like to squeeze my hand up against my genitals to try and sort of squeeze out a last bit of nice feeling.

And that’s it. After 30 secs or so I’m completely back to normal!

When I say that some of mine are different it’s the intensity of the pleasure that differs. Some are noticeably less wonderful than the best. A few disappointing ones are barely pleasurable at all. But nine times out of ten it is heaven.

Is that the same for everyone else?!

From my experience of talking to my best friend, our orgasms are all different. And I can have different types of orgasms depending on my mood or time of day etc

As said above, the intensity can vary hugely depending on so many different factors. The best ones I’ve had is where the tension is built up slowly, where you get so close to coming and then keep stopping repeatedly until you can’t hold it off any longer. Those orgasms can go on for quite a while!

Yeah those are lovely, I guess it’s called edging

Sounds similar to my clitoral orgasms. While I'm coming I have contractions ( waves) that get stronger, then they get lighter before fading away. Intensity can vary, all my orgasms aren't equal. My G spot orgasms are different. The pleasure part feels the same but the release is instant instead of the waves that you get with clitoral and I squirt/ gush liquid. Those type of orgasm don't seem to need any build up in the way a clit orgasm does.

It depends on what is happening to me really.
Some of the best have been both the physical sensation of ejaculation and release combined with an explosion in my brain. So much so that I almost black out momentarily.

I don’t think I’ve ever had noticeably different ‘types’. I have obviously heard about g-spot ones and vaginal ones but mine have all been the same (presumably clitoral since that’s the bit involved!).

Have you tried using different toys?

It's a different part of the clit. The bit that we usually talk about is the head. People say that the G spot are branches of the clit that are felt through the vaginal wall. For me the stimulation feels different. The orgasm is the same, but not. I can't really explain it. The way I experience it is with my husband's finger moving on it hard and fast. He starts with 1 and once I've came, he will use 2. I think G spot and vaginal ones are the same.

I think I’m similar to you. Although I don’t squirt. Which do you prefer out of interest? I find them quite different so hard to say!

On my own, clit. With my husband, the G spot type. My clit is extremely sensitive, I've got a thing about anyone touching it directly. I need to be able to control what's happening to it lol

Oh wow I really am similar to you! Yes yes to all that too. And I also go for clit when on my own. I think it’s definitely more powerful.

I have weak pelvic muscles and have to do physio exercises and then hopefully an injection that will improve it. I don’t know if this is contributing to me no longer feeling orgasm contractions, like a build up and then a peak. What I do have though is a never ending feeling of vaginal pleasure that only slows upon withdrawal and therefore has an orgasmic effect. I have seperated recently and after having a nearly sexless marriage I am finding great joy in sex now. Also had a husband who said Im too big for him but I’ve not had the complaint from anyone else yet.

Same here. Good description. Though I am a moaner and groaner vocally!

I can’t really describe mine. They definitely vary and during some of mine I have like sort of dream/visions… like a type of Synesthesia. They’re all fab. Some are better than others but they’re all nice!!

Mine are like yours, OP. Sometimes they can be strong, sometimes they're disappointing. None have ever caused me to scream etc. I can understand if some women put the vocals on a bit for their partner's benefit or because of the porn influence, but if their orgasms cause them to do that when they're alone then I'm envious!

For me I sometimes just feel the need to make noise even though I don’t watch porn or have had any partners that mentioned porn. It also makes things feel better, I can’t explain why, sort of like the feel good energy moves throughout more (sounds pseudoscience lol). It can be a curse though with having to be quiet

Agree with you @ASortOfTable- I think making noise during sex is just a form of communication to unconsciously guide your partner into what you are enjoying. I always have too. Not to put on a performance at all. Just to do what feels natural (I don’t when alone other than the odd grunt or sigh though 😂)

Yeah exactly, I don’t know much about biology but I assume there’s a reason why women tend to make noise, and it’s probably to encourage the male. I still make noise when alone (I’m single at the moment so no sex for me lol) and whilst it makes everything feel nicer, I have a son, so I have to find my time and place so to speak

I always make some noise when I come, normally moans or gasps, even when on my own. I'm not really a screamer and I've got children, including an older teenager who stays up late, so I have no option but to keep it down.

Interesting responses. I sigh or occasionally cry out for no reason other than the intensity of the pleasure. When I’m with a man I don’t feel any different or that I’m guiding him. Maybe on a subconscious level I am.

I do wonder though whether men’s and women’s sensations are the same. It seems from the responses that other women feel like I do.

From experiences I’ve had with men I’d say the pleasures are different, the same sort of pleasure, but felt in different ways and intensity. Also after a man has ejaculated the oxytocin and dopamine levels drop dramatically which doesn’t happen in women, so the aftermath will be different too

I think men get the same fabulous feelings all over when making love to a loved partner, experiencing most of the sensations you describe with muscle contractions deep inside the base of the penis.

Women can orgasm a lot longer than men. IME I've seen women in the throes of orgasm for quite a while. Body shaking orgasms that last for minutes. Whether that is how they come down from the peak of orgasm or not it seems to take them a long time.

Mine are all different. Just clitoral tend to build slowly, my body tightens and releases in a wave. My body does shake a bit, especially my legs and hips. I do often let out a little moan or sigh as it happens but not screaming.

if I use a second toy inside at same time I get a deeper orgasm that lasts for longer. Again the same type of feeling, just goes on longer

I get the leg shaking (sometimes body) too sometimes. I still find it a bit odd. I discussed with my partner once and he said it didn’t bother him so I try not to over think it these days